I don't think there is an IPS Blog. If there is please would you link it?
I think that our site could get more traffic if we had a blog. We would have to define exactly its contents, but we could use it to discuss different things IPS.
For example why some questions are put on hold and suggest...
@AGirlHasNoName It's okay, don't worry. I also pinged you because I wanted to be sure that you would be okay with me bountying one of your answers. I completely understand that you wouldn't want more attention.
@EmC I don't believe that there is such a thing as being "oversensitive". If it hurts you, then it will very likely hurt others. And it is even more likely to hurt OP
This post is needlessly accusatory. While the lifestyle choices of the op are not the ones I'd have made, since both the op and their partner agreed to this, there is nothing to be critical of. This answer needs a complete redo to become a valid frame challenge, and needs to leave the judgement out. — LordHieros47 secs ago
I am increasingly under the impression that martial arts classes are really tough places when it comes to practicing Interpersonal Skills. I have failed miserably once and already more or less given up on the whole class because I could not make them understand (or accept) my point. The experienc...
@AaronF that's not the same. Your satanist's example will be interpreted by any reasonable non-satanist as wishing ill things. A general polite "I'll keep you in my prayers" will not be viewed as "wishing bad things will happen to you" by any reasonable person, atheist or not. (If the OP was saying "Ha! God's powerful and he's going to heal you whether you want it or not!" then I would agree it was in bad taste, but that's not the situation). If you go to this territory I could also make up unrealistic situations where just literally saying "I hope you get well" will torment the coworker. — vsz1 min ago
@vsz poor old satanists...they've really gained a bad reputation for themselves! :-D No, but seriously though, I agree with you that most atheists wouldn't be actually offended. Personally, though, there's a big difference between a close friend who's religious saying something about praying, than a religious acquaintance at work foisting their religion on me. I wouldn't be actually offended if I was the colleague, but I would think it was inappropriate of them, though, and would make sure to avoid them as much as possible in the future. — Aaron F1 min ago
@AGirlHasNoName Agreed, even if this is more of "happiness recharger" than an "energy recharger". But I'm very glad I got to see this "Christmas Market", even if I don't feel my feets anymore now x)
@AGirlHasNoName Oh, nice, good for you!
Also, I'm wondering, did you choose yourself a female name or are you still in the process of finding one? (or maybe you don't want one?) (I'm asking because of your username ^^)
@Ælis I have been using [redacted]. I like it. Theres a decent chance it will stick.
I started using this username because I don't want to share my name here (SE). It is just my way of asserting anonymity. It is also a reference to Game of Thrones.
@AGirlHasNoName Yeah, I definitively understand not wanting to use your "life" name here. I did the same. But then I wanted to try a new name, used it in here and it turns out I want it as my life name now ^^
@Ælis yeah I started using this as an internet name years ago. Funny how it works like that.
@Ælis I'm glad you found something you like. I know how hard it is. I like it too. Is it at all common in your culture/language? Or is it unique to you?
@AGirlHasNoName IMO, internet usernames are a great way to test new names. I also choose myself a fake family name and now I like it better than my given one x) (but I can't change it and don't want to, but still)
@AGirlHasNoName Nah, it's definitively not a common one (I more or less made it up, but I know it's still concider a "real" name in some part of the word). Also, most of the non-binary people I know invented their own. There isn't that many "not invented" neutral name in French
Yes. The internet has been amazing for testing out a lot of things. I chose a fake family name too but I didn't like that as much. I'm only going to change my family name if they turn out to be super-awful (I haven't told them about me yet and I suspect they might)
Yeah, it's hard to find neutral names. Even in English although there are certainly more neutral names in English. My name was actually an attempt at being neutral, from when I was in a more questioning phase.
I think it is telling how feminine my neutral name actually is ^^
@AGirlHasNoName Also, it's nice that you have the possibility to change your family name. In France, it's almost impossible (avazula could tell you about that :/ )
@AGirlHasNoName Well, it can be done in France too, but you have to be lucky (like a lot) and do a lot of paper work and also be really patiente (but it's all for nothing if you aren't lucky in the end and the judge says "no" to you)
I'm talking about this question and it's a very controversial topic.
Would it be a good idea for a mod or CM to add the "controversial post" notice on top of the thread?
My points are the two/three sides involved:
yes, do it, tell them
yes, do it, don't tell
no, do or do not, but don't tell
...
As a girl with an INTJ personality (not that I truly believe in the four-parameter categorization of the MBTI system), how can I find like-minded individuals who understand my occasional stand-offishness and intolerance for small talk despite a craving for a few kindred spirits to call friends? I have a history of childhood trauma behind me (remnants of it still hurt and limit me at times), but I'm hoping to move past that and stop letting that impact how I socialize. I'm a senior in high school
@CaldeiraG You're not wrong. But I suppose I'm a little too calculating and a little tired of essentially spending seventeen years having few people to trust.
Maybe some discords groups can help but if you're not into having friends over the Internet you're pretty much limited to go out, join groups with same hobbies, etc
@CaldeiraG Is it selfish of me to ask these questions? Should I be a little more helpful here? Thanks for your advice - I don't have a phone and don't have social media except Stack Exchange for literature, philosophy, mathematics, etc.
@M.A.R. Thanks... it's simply that despite trying to be as helpful as possible people see me as cold and arrogant - though perhaps my greatest insecurities are my intelligence and my character.
@M.A.R. Ah. Gotcha. I'm American, and despite being a girl I tend to be described as acting like a guy (not trans here). :) And I agree with you on how real friends are... I simply need someone I trust enough to share my ideas - whether literary, philosophical or whatnot else
@CaldeiraG That's true... I chose not to have social media because I thought it would waste my time and create even more void in my life. At least if I'm alone I can find beauty in ideas and face little social pressure.
@M.A.R. You ok bro? Just ease off of it or maybe put a towel on the chair? XD
Regardless of the fact that some personalities just don't match with themselves, it's too unrealistic IMO. Like-minded, yes, but friends are typically very different about expressing that which they're like-minded in.
I just ended a sentence with a preposition. I will take full responsibility.
@M.A.R. Sometimes I try to befriend someone I think has a well-functioning mind but usually they exclude me or are only willing to speak to me when no one's watching. And when I greet the in front of others they become resentful.
@Ælis That's true... but I've also accepted that I'm going to die alone. Too eccentric... I've been told that guys won't like me because I'm "intimidating" and girls won't either because I'm not socially accepted. I hate that people have to be divided like that.
I don't get why they even happen to be kid toys. They're not cute, they're worse than alligators, they're the proverbial drunk grumpy man in an undershirt
@ifitnonietzsche :/ Well, if it can reassure you, I will probably "die alone" too, but that's because I don't fall in love and don't feel sexual attraction toward anyone. But I still have my family (which is great) and I hoping to be able to make friends IRL soon-ish (I, too, have a hard time figuring out where to find them)
@Ælis My funny story of trying to find people IRL: walks into Met museum with notebook in hand taking furious notes on my thoughts on certain pieces, clad in usual leather jacket and messy but straight Asian-gal hair
@ifitnonietzsche Well, for me, I think I'll try joining a club (like a book-club, a board game club, a chorale) or something in order to "found more people" and maybe make friends
I have to go... no more procrastinating. Back to working on writing my analytical paper on Prokofiev (you see now why I have no friends). :) Be back soon!
I don't think there is an IPS Blog. If there is please would you link it?
I think that our site could get more traffic if we had a blog. We would have to define exactly its contents, but we could use it to discuss different things IPS.
For example why some questions are put on hold and suggest...
I'm talking about this question and it's a very controversial topic.
Would it be a good idea for a mod or CM to add the "controversial post" notice on top of the thread?
My points are the two/three sides involved:
yes, do it, tell them
yes, do it, don't tell
no, do or do not, but don't tell
...
