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Q: How do I help my girlfriend get out of this dangerous situation with her parents?

Hello Interpersonal Stack Exchange, About two weeks ago I posted the question "How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?". I recommend reading that one first as it contains some preliminary info that ties into this post. I believe that it's necessary to start a ne...

SmokeDetector

5:36 AM

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Blacklisted user: How can i get marry with my girlfriend? by Rohit Gautam on interpersonal.SE

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How can i get marry with my girlfriend?

This is very strange to ask this question here for me, But I and my GF are in the relationship over 3 years. Problem is She lives in the USA and I Lives in India. is there anything I can do? Register online for marriage? Anyone who can suggest me something or help me, because it's getting very co...

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Marcus

5:53 AM

morning

A J

morning!

user15026

6:12 AM

I guess 2 am is technically morning, so good morning!

Marcus

6:42 AM

@Ash Aussie detected?

user15026

@Marcus me? No, I'm Canadian, it is currently 247 am here

Marcus

Unless youre a nightowl i'd recommend going to bed ;)

Or is there a reason for staying up late?

Jalapeno Nachos

7:05 AM

hello

Marcus

o/

Pseudohuman

\o

avazula

7:16 AM

Hi there!

How are things today?

Imus

hi @avazula

it's a monday morning ... so things didn't really start going yet :p

avazula

Yeesh...

I spent my sunday working on a work report ^^

So doesn't really look like mondays to me :p

Journeyman Geek

I'm working nights the next two days

avazula

@JourneymanGeek Woosh... do you have much sollicitations at night?

Journeyman Geek

@avazula hopefully nothing happens ;p

but you never know

avazula

7:27 AM

:)

true

Marcus

o/ @avazula

avazula

Hi Marcus :)

Mithrandir

7:53 AM

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Marcus

8:06 AM

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/17419/13628 That is a true IPS answer if i ever saw one

Extroverted Main Man

8:57 AM

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Q: Politely recommend budget help to a debtor?

To address duplication concerns, this belongs on IPS rather than workplace stack exchange or finance, as I would like to address the specific issue of recommending budget help, and handle this as a friend rather than as a colleague, so am looking for an IPS specific answer (although I won't mind ...

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Tinkeringbell

Goood Monday Morning everyone! Would interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/17562/1599 meet the meta discussions we had about closing questions that can't/shouldn't be answered using Interpersonal Skills, but need professional help? interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/q/1905/1599 or interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/q/1730/1599 or interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/q/1896/1599?

avazula

Hi @Tink! I think so, indeed

Imus

I think so too Tink.

Extroverted Main Man

9:13 AM

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Q: What to tell family who ask about a friend I had a falling out with?

I had a very friend who I was close with that I knew for a long time. My family even knew him from birthday parties and we had gone on trips together etc. My friend recently involved me in a scam and basically stole several hundreds of dollars (more details in my other questions). As it is now ...

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IPS Comment Bot

At the moment this is an opinion-based question - you are asking what you should tell them, and we can't decide that for you. You really need to outline what you want to achieve (eg how much you want them to know) and then ask how to do that. — Astralbee 1 min ago

#17568 Astralbee (16128 rep) | Q: What to tell family who ask about a friend I had a falling out with? (score: 1) | posted 17 minutes ago by Donttryit (49 rep) | Toxicity 0.12136795

Matched regex(es) ["possible-aic"]

avazula

9:29 AM

@IPSCommentBot fp

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It sounds like both parents suffer from NPD. I'd advise the two of you to look at some of the stuff at reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists and compare. If it fits... Narcissist tend to make their victims think "they're doing it all for them", so it could help your GF to observe and judge the behaviour in other people - it's easier to say "this stranger is abusive" than to come to terms with "my parents are abusive". I'd advise you to post the story there, too - you'll get a ton of experienced advice, even techniques like e.g. "grey rocking" etc. — R. Schmitz 32 secs ago

#17562 R. Schmitz (101 rep) | Q: How do I help my girlfriend get out of this dangerous situation with her parents? (score: 6) | posted 5 hours ago by ZYR (77 rep) | Toxicity 0.19270973 | edited 4 hours ago by ZYR (77 rep)

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avazula

@IPSCommentBot tp

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Marked this comment as caught correctly (tp). Currently marked 1tps/0fps

Extroverted Main Man

9:58 AM

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Q: How to recommend meditation to someone with anxiety?

I have a friend with anxiety and depression, let's call him "Bob". As someone who deals with anxiety as well, I found that mindfulness meditation has significantly helped me. It didn't solve all my problems by any means (yet), but I know it's improving my life and I've only been doing it for a fe...

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IPS Comment Bot

I'm voting to close this question because I feel that the recommendation of a particular kind of treatment or therapy is off-topic for the site and actually quite dangerous. We don't know that meditation is a good idea for this person. — Astralbee 59 secs ago

#17570 Astralbee (16146 rep) | Q: How to recommend meditation to someone with anxiety? (score: -1) | posted 18 minutes ago by Inertial Ignorance (121 rep) | Toxicity 0.175349

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avazula

10:27 AM

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avazula

11:18 AM

Wow, there truly is no one there these days xD

is everyone on vacation?

@Tinkeringbell How comes it's still open?

I may sound harsh here but this requires professional help, and if we don't close it, it'd be making an exception considering all other questions we've closed because they were needing clinical help

Tinkeringbell

@avazula I'm... struggling with writing the close-reason ;) And closing it singlehandedly ;)

Imus

11:33 AM

you can do it Tink! we believe in you

not that that helps you to actually write the thing :p

Tinkeringbell

The problem is... all of the stuff described in the question probably needs attention from a professional ... yet the question itself, of how to tell the parents certain things, might not?

Chilly

Hey everyone

Imus

well, since both (even upvoted) answers are basicaly: "you don't, get help from the system ASAP" I don't think you can do more than close the question and leave the 2 answers ...

avazula

You two have good points

Hi Chilly :)

Imus

Hi Chilly

Chilly

11:38 AM

How is everyone?

Tinkeringbell

@Chilly Meh.

Imus

Slightly stressed over the planning for wedding and honeymoon ... which will only increase the closer that gets :D

but at least it's the fun kind of stress

Tinkeringbell

I have to clean the entire house since my parents will be getting home from their holiday wednesday, I keep cooking food for me and my brothers just to get text messages saying 'we'll be eating at McDonalds'... :/

Imus

also been avoiding my tasks at work ... which means even more stress since those HAVE to be done before I can leave XD

Tinkeringbell

Brothers aren't really helping with the house, since 'they work all day'

and I am still trying to determine whether or not to close a question.

Imus

11:41 AM

Have you tried the: "I'm done being your maid, just ask if you want me to actually take your needs into account again" and then ignore them as well?

Chilly

Sounds like a bit of a whirlwind for you both at the minute

avazula

@Tinkeringbell is it practicable to send OP a chat message to give them the standard professional help info?

Tinkeringbell

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Q: How can I stop enabling my brothers without my mom exploding?

My parents are away from home for little private holidays on a quite regular basis (once every 2/3 months), where they leave me home alone with my 2 brothers for 2-5 days. I'm a 26-year-old female, my brothers are 22 and 16. Since I joined IPS, I have seen some questions and answers about 'not ...