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Q: How to let a colleague know that his feelings is going to be reciprocated

VerverMy colleague started to showing me some affections a year ago and I rejected him very politely because I was thinking that no romantic relationship was sensible at work. But I've got some feelings for him since a few months ago. I'm not sure if he still likes me nor I can imagine his reaction if ...

 
12:42 AM
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Q: Said something offensive to a close friend after teasing got out of hand

guest101I was hanging out with a group of friends, and we got into some conversation that deteriorated into a back and forth teasing. Usually this kind of stuff ends quickly, and everything is being taken in a good spirit. However, this time it was going for way too long and really got on my nerves. I lo...

 
@apaul BTW long time no see.
@apaul IDK It says "1 additional comment" and I click on it and there's nothing.
 
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Q: Are these questions asking about how to phrase?

Greek - Area 51 ProposalI'm not sure where the definition or standard for phrasing requests are. But are the questions beneath phrasing requests? If they are, are they on- or off-topic? How do I deal with people trying to convince me to wear makeup? How do I answer the question "why are you vegan?" honestly, without ma...

 
 
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2:22 AM
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Q: inviting co-worker it is lunch time

userI and my co-worker have lunch together in the workplace cafeteria every day. The problem I have is this co-worker always expects me to invite/inform that it is lunch time so let us go. we have been working in this company for like an year now. Every day expects me to invite. It is very tr...

 
2:55 AM
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Q: Do I have the right to try and reach my estranged brother?

Armada DorkMy brother has been estranged from me for two years. Longer for other members of my family. We do love him, and his absence has caused a great deal of pain. But I refuse to resent him. He is still my brother and I admire him. He will greet every dog he sees outside to a point of scary enthusias...

 
 
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11:18 AM
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Q: How to convince friend?

KetanYesterday was my friend's birthday.I forget to wish him. He had wished me on my all birthdays, even he brought cake with surprise and celebrate happily.He never forget my day.But unfortunately I forget and day was passed away How can I convince him or say Sorry?

 
 
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2:56 PM
Hey @Zoe! Seen you lurking here a few times now, do you like this room/site? :)
 
Zoe
I'm mostly here for the comment bot :)
 
Hahaha :) Scoring some free flags? Keeping it up?
 
Zoe
Something like that :D And to help with keeping the comment section clena
 
Nice :) Thank you for that ;)
 
Zoe
And I like silence :P
 
3:02 PM
Hahaha well, the room was silent up till now. Sorry for chattering :P
 
A J
So, I watched Solo. Hmm interesting movie but only 8 people came in the 150 seating capacity theater.
And on the other note, I killed the chat. :P
 
Hahaha... You know I'm not a big movie watcher :P movies are just background noise for crocheting :P
 
good morning/afternoon/evening all :)
 
@EmC Hey :) Good afternoon from here ;)
 
@AJ good movie? I've heard mixed reviews (mostly from mainstream vs. my hardcore star wars fan friends, haha)
I'm watching my little bro's commencement ceremony right now :)
probably not quite as exciting as a star wars :P
 
3:21 PM
@EmC I knew it, there must be a reason you suddenly jumped into chat :P. What's a commencement ceremony?
 
@Tinkeringbell haha yeah :P college graduation, in this case :)
 
A J
@EmC good evening
 
@EmC Ah cool! Congratulations ;) I'm glad graduation ceremonies over here are parents only :P
 
@AJ hi!
 
(AJ will be your entertainer for this, I gotta go eat dinner :P )
 
3:23 PM
yeah depending on the school they can be limited, I think mine only gave me 2 tickets. but his school is small so they have a lot of people allowed. I'm just watching the livestream though
 
A J
@EmC I said good but not best. It is slow-pacing but a watchable fun movie. There is one fight in space.
@Tinkeringbell Hey, I am gonna get dinner too.
 
@AJ hmm, I see :)
 
A J
@Tinkeringbell but you should.
 
3:50 PM
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Q: Should I fix /mend our relationship, even though some of the things that bugs me like her tantrum are not going to go away?

John LegasI've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. My girlfriend has kids from another relationship, two. Both of them are teenagers. They used to live half of the time with their father but because of issues with their father, they are now living with us. Adding to this already tense situation, bo...

 
4:24 PM
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Q: Coping with different spending philosophies in a marriage

CREAMI am British, in my mid-twenties, and in a pretty well paying job. My wife is Chinese, a few years older than me, and while having a moderately well paying job previously is currently is a student. We've been married for four years now, and she has no savings of her own, and as such she relies on...

 
5:18 PM
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Q: How to politely ask someone where they got the stated information from?

Axop51Someone posted a response to a question on a Q&A website known was Quora (you may have heard of it). The credentials on his profile indicate that he possibly may be a credible person. However, I still wish to confirm, so what is the best way I can ask where the person got his information from wit...

 
 
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6:42 PM
So... Are we enforcing back-it-up, or not?
 
6:58 PM
Oh the sweet terrible irony of the answers here... interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/14982/…
 
@apaul lol. just hit the LQP queue up and saw those
 
@EmC Glad I wasn't the only one who appreciated those lol
 
this backup campaign is reminding me of my early days on yahoo answers.. they did have a box for references, but half the time people just put in things like "source: me" :P
 
7:14 PM
@EmC Seems like a lot of our answerers can't even be bothered to do that...
 
@apaul yeah :/
 
This one got on my nerves last night: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/14971/59
 
I mean I do appreciate answers which are well-reasoned, but at the same time, a lot of the issues here aren't just logic puzzles... like that answer about "say 'sorry' to your friend announcing their pregnancy, because kids are scientifically shown to decrease happiness" or whatever. I seriously doubt they actually ever used that on someone with good results, lol.
 
He pretty much just added "This is what has worked in my experience to keep my friends"
 
yyyyeah that's not really in the spirit of "back it up"
 
7:20 PM
I understand that there are cases where you're basing an answer on an accumulation of experience, so it can be difficult to pin it to a single example, but at least make an effort...
 
I want more flags ;). If your NAA gets declined/disputed and there's no backup, flag. :)
Although it would be nice to have that new post notice as well....
 
yeah, I had that issue when I wrote this answer because it's something that's come up many times. so in the end I decided to just include one concrete example
I would think, if you have so much experience in an issue, you could be able to pick out a story or two
but that's just my $0.02 :P
 
@EmC But if you don't...
 
@apaul write a convincing piece of short fiction? :P (j/k)
 
@EmC there's other stacks for that :P
 
7:26 PM
haha
 
@EmC At least that requires effort, so the lazy and inexperienced answers will be reduced?
 
@Tinkeringbell I can do that ;)
 
@Mithrandir make sure to explain ;)
@apaul hey, not everyone knows how to do back up right away... Inexperienced may be true, but I wouldn't call it lazy ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell Flagged and still have another waiting for review.
 
@apaul I know, I'll work through it tomorrow if I get the chance... Otherwise I was told I have 6-8 weeks for that stuff :P Like I said before, having a new post notice would probably be a major improvement on the mod side ;) but it's not impossible with the tools we have...
 
7:32 PM
@Tinkeringbell I was referring to the answers that demonstrate a distinct lack of knowledge of the subject and can't be bothered to back-it-up... Those that are only writing two sentences are less likely to make up a supporting story, cause that would require at least 5 or 6 sentences :P
 
@apaul they either don't know the rules yet or get handled by the community ;) which is why I thought we were talking more complicated cases ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell Both! Both is good.
@Tinkeringbell 6-8 weeks isn't all that helpful when it comes to handling flags :P
 
Sid
@Tinkeringbell Do you have some sort of script that posts a smiley after every chat message? :P
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7:53 PM
@Sid Yep :)
 
Poe's law is an adage of Internet culture stating that, without a clear indicator of the author's intent, it is impossible to create a parody of extreme views so obviously exaggerated that it cannot be mistaken by some readers for a sincere expression of the parodied views. The original statement of the adage, by Nathan Poe, was: Without a winking smiley or other blatant display of humor, it is utterly impossible to parody a Creationist in such a way that someone won't mistake for the genuine article. == History == "Poe's law" is based on a comment written by Nathan Poe in 2005 on christianforums...
 
8:08 PM
riots quietly
 
The mutiny was canceled
May 23 at 19:57, by Feeds
Mithrandir has removed an event from this room's schedule.
 
Is a scheduled mutiny really a mutiny at all?
 
@apaul It was a very orderly mutiny.
 
@sphennings If a mutiny happens, and a good time is had by all, is it still a mutiny?
 
8:30 PM
@apaul Hey, no mutinying against our mutiny!
 
Sid
@apaul Modern Mutiny
 
Ugh... Kids these days... Can't even hold a proper mutiny...
 
I remember the last mutiny. At that point in time, I was know as @Pheo
 
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Q: My girlfriend defends guy friend that flirted with her "innocently" - Should I trust her?

KeeganMy girlfriend has a long time guy friend, she's told me they have only ever been friends and she would never have any other relation with him, she's adamant about this. I had reservations about this guy because of the first impression he gave me when we met, almost passive aggressive. I went onto...

 
8:43 PM
 
8:55 PM
@apaul one minor nitpick: you might wanna link those comments to something that explains why backup is important, as well as something that explains how to write a backed up answer based on experience, like interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/183/1599 for example ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell I'm going to choose not to take any of that seriously, due to gratuitous use of smiley.
 
eyeroll
Cutting off nose to spite face?
 
@Mithrandir Nah, just a sense of humor, and a throwback to previous humor.
Check the recent stars...
Also mutiny, because mutiny.
 
@apaul if you prefer it, I could start yelling... Like, the smiley is only there to convey a sense of good will and friendliness
 
9:05 PM
I will have no part in this.
 
@Tinkeringbell Probably works great with people who don't know you very well too :P
mutiny intensifies
 
@Tinkeringbell NO MORE GOOD WILL OR FRIENDLINESS. EVER.
 
@apaul I'm pretty confident I can scare a lot of people that know me too ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell Psh... I ain't skeerd
 
@Mithrandir YOU HAVE NO POWER HERE MENTIONED NOTHING ABOUT ART NOT EDITING IT!
 
9:07 PM
so tempted to edit that message
 
@Mithrandir Don't do it! 😈
 
@Mithrandir Yeah, what apaul said :P
Hey @ArtOfCode :)
 
@ArtOfCode *cough*LOL*cough*
 
has definitely not been lurking all day
 
@ArtOfCode hahaha, make that the cat wise!
 
9:15 PM
Is anyone else flagging and commenting on those or are @EmC and I on our own?
 
@apaul Do you need help with it?
 
Yup
 
@apaul just keep it up, people will follow ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell parroting again
:P
 
@Tinkeringbell People don't follow me. Probably for the best ;)
 
9:17 PM
@Mithrandir yeah, I didn't have a chance to get it out of my system last Wednesday :P if I have to bottle it up, it'll only get worse
 
@apaul Well, you got a new recruit.
 
aquires power
 
instantly thinks up ways to abuse it
 
sigh sigh
 
9:20 PM
@apaul if your recruits misbehave, I'm going to blame you! :p
 
@FreezePhoenix Nah, just flag unsupported answers.
@Tinkeringbell At least I'll be blamed for something I'm tangentially responsible for?
 
Oh good grief the number of on Hold questions...
@Tinkeringbell you know you have the ability to delete those that are beyond repair?
Erm... not recruits. Questions / Answers.
 
@FreezePhoenix I know I'm supposed to only delete blatantly off topic stuff, with no chance of salvation, yes
@FreezePhoenix dang...
 
Actually, they have a point there...
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A: Can we start enforcing the "back it up" policy?

Shog9Finally! Here's what I'd propose as a strategy for moderators: Moderators see an unsubstantiated answer, they either delete it outright with a comment, or slap a post notice on it and revisit in a few days and delete if not substantiated. ...that's it. Pretty simple. But... We can't exactly...

Pre-diamond @Tinkeringbell would be filled with glee at the prospect of deleting unsupported answers...
 
@FreezePhoenix hides big orange "destroy user" button
 
9:28 PM
@Mithrandir I'm well aware of what mods can do. Forgives @Mithrandir
 
@apaul post diamond tink doesn't want to handle the 'please undelete this' flags ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell just write a standard decline reason and use that
 
@Tinkeringbell could still be leaving comments and so on...
 
@apaul I think I have?
Comments, flags...
 
@Tinkeringbell have people been flagging for that?
 
9:35 PM
That flag exists?
 
I'm curious if users actually notice / care when action is taken..
 
@FreezePhoenix A custom mod flag.
 
Oh...
 
@Mithrandir NAA was recommended.
 
@EmC if a mod deletes an answer, the only way it can be undeleted is by (another) mod. Yes, I've seen a few of those, and it's always hard to determine if the improvement made was significant enough :/
 
9:38 PM
@apaul no, for undeletion
 
@Mithrandir Oh, my bad
 
@Tinkeringbell I see :( yeah I can imagine, after seeing some of the "improvements" users have done after a request..
 
@EmC don't spoil it for everyone ! :P
 
@FreezePhoenix one day, when you have the rep to see deleted posts, you too will know... :P
 
@EmC s/when/when and if/
looks forlorn
 
9:48 PM
@FreezePhoenix just make sure if you answer to include sources, you'll be doing better than most people are right now ;)
 
10:23 PM
Progress in progress:
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Q: What is Enough to Back It Up?

Upper_CaseA significant recent initiative here on IPS is to enforce the "back it up" condition on answers, with the aim to limit answers to only those based on personal experience or citable expert advice. If we are going to rely on votes alone to enforce this then there's nothing for us to do, but it see...

 
Asking about ten distinct questions seems Too Broad for me.
 
@apaul uppercase is on a meta roll ;)
 
@Tinkeringbell it's a conversation that we needed to have.
 
10:37 PM
@apaul Yep :) it'll help moderation too ;)
 
10:51 PM
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Q: What is Enough to Back It Up?

Upper_CaseA significant recent initiative here on IPS is to enforce the "back it up" condition on answers, with the aim to limit answers to only those based on personal experience or citable expert advice. If we are going to rely on votes alone to enforce this then there's nothing for us to do, but it see...

 
@Mithrandir you might wanna put that in a comment, for increased manipulative power :P
 
makes vague incoherent sleepy noises
 
@Mithrandir wait... Teens sleep nowadays?
Sleep well :)
 
Did I say I was asleep? I just said I was sleepy :P
But yes, it is after 2AM and I should sleep.
 
@Mithrandir Guess it's about time for me to go sleep then ;)
 
11:04 PM
Sleep well!
 

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