@RichardU I'm well aware. I've startled partners before the first time I went from excitedly talking about something to loudly berating a driver that wasn't paying attention to us on the crosswalk.
I met someone a fair amount of time ago in an online video game. What used to be a fairly-enjoyable experience suddenly turned out with her being very attached to me. Things have turned out into constantly imagining and fantasizing several detailed sexual scenes.
She has told me several times ab...
It's fairly impressive when a singer has the range to do both. Serj Tankian always impressed me with his ability to go from screaming to operatic to fast complicated rhyme schemes in a single song.
@apaul We had the almost IDENTICAL situation in TWP. One came in as a "manager" concerned that his employee made an obscene logon name as a combination of his name. then, the supposed employee posted one. It was obviously fake, and the English was so obviously of the "you no take candle" variety that we shut it down. Let's shut this one down too.
@Mithrandir I only reviewed one of the 4. I choose "looks ok" because even though it doesn't provide the answer the OP was looking for, it does provide an answer. The answerer provides personal experience to back up their claim. Is it the best answer on the question? No, but I didn't think it was so bad as to warrant being deleted.
@Rainbacon I don't see how it's an answer to the question of how to avoid it, which was what the question asked, or any explanation of why a frame challenge would be a good idea here. I don't think it's explained well enough to serve as a frame challenge. It'd kinda borderline though.
@apaul I'd love to relate the story of "Poonjay Poundri" but there is no way I can do that without getting too explicit. But it did kick over the beehive on TWP.
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In general, rehashing old drama/old trolls isn't worth it.
@Mithrandir It mentions that some people will stop asking (from the answerer's experience) after being asked to pay for the services and that for others charging a high enough fee can drive them away. I get where you're coming from with it not being a great frame challenge, and I remember something last week or so about moderating out content that isn't great, so maybe I was too lenient. But it didn't seem like you got any response to your query about the disputed flags, so I thought I
@apaul Sure. While I believe that it's not coincidence that that question was asked today, I can't confidently say that it wasn't asked in good faith.
It's hard to ask a question on this site about sensitive topics without getting up on a soapbox. We gave the other question the benefit of the doubt, we should give this question as well.
@Tinkeringbell I'm similar - I live near a cargo train line, two hospitals, a couple fire stations, police etc. so I can sleep through trains and sirens but if my freezer in my room changes sound (because it's unbalanced itself again) I wake up immediately
I once managed to sleep for 2 hours, with my brothers talking (sometimes loudly) in an attempt to wake me up (apparently)... I only woke up when one decided to change the channel :/
I just don't wake up to noises other than my alarm. I have a sister who is 9 years older. When I was young, she was a teenager and would come home at all hours and make all different sorts of noise, so I learned to sleep through anything
@Tinkeringbell Yes, it's only 11:30 am in NYC. Seems like you have good plans for the weekend ;) I have a few bottles waiting for me at home (though not of Jack Daniels)
@Tinkeringbell I still have half a day before I can start drinking. When I do there's a distillery near my house that does a flight of old fashioneds with my name on it.
@Rainbacon I saw it was on discount this week XD I don't have much weekend plans, other than to try and finish the last 4 squares I need to make for my mom's blanket
Background
Through voluntary work I have been helping a man with disabilities (let's call him Bob) by giving him a lift (or ride) in my car a couple of times a week to help him meet with other similar people for a couple of hours or so.
Bob's conditions would be classified as physical disabilit...
@Cashbee My girlfriend was in Spain a couple of months ago and it was odd to me that even though I was still in America we were eating dinner around the same time.
@AJ I nearly did that when I visited aFrance in high school, and was placed with a French family. I had no idea that when we arrived back at their place at 7, it'd be at least another hour till dinner....
Super quick question: I'm not very familiar with the SE beta rules. What's required for the site to come out of beta? (and how close--if at all--are we?)
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It's a combination of things - questions per day is part of it, I know that much.
I don't know how close we are, I'm not sure there's really a concrete gauge I can point to? I know people look at the A51 stats but I am not sure if all of those matter equally and if it is just a matter of reaching those - I feel like there are likely other things the CMs consider.
@sphennings Ahh thanks for the link! So do all the numbers need to be a nice grassy green and then they bring us out of beta?? Does that mean we're just looking for more questions?
@scohe001 Not really. We also need all those questions to fit within a very clear scope, and I think our reviewing in the queues could show some more agreement on what's bad and what not
@AJ Corollary: It's likely to be in a large part the room owners enforcing this, so please respect what they're trying to do. That said, moderators are around to step in if necessary.
@Clay07g... I see your meta question is edited substantially. You might want to rethink keeping my answer as the accepted one, I feel there may be answers that address the new question better than mine ;)
I'm personally struggling to edit mine in such a way that it keeps both what I said originally, and addresses the current question, without adding yet another 'EDIT' section
I enjoy a healthy discussion. People may trip over various random aspects of my statements that I didn't consider and object which allows me to (1) learn how to formulate better next time and (2) consider different perspectives on the issue that I didn't think of before.
Over time, I think I bec...
I never had a philosophy class until I was in my last year of undergrad. If I'd have known how wonderful it is to study before I started school, I would probably have done so.
Dutch educational system is like this, in your fourth year (out of 6) of highschool, you pick a set of classes you want to follow, usually defined by 4 'profiles'. Two are more focused on stuff like biology, chemistry, physics, mathematics.... the other 2 are 'softer' profiles, the one I choose mainly focused on languages, philosophy, history and geography. I also took music classes
@Rainbacon undergrad being age?
I think I might have messed up on the age ranges again ;)
Yo, could I get some people to vote to reopen or keep closed on these? https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13026/how-to-approach-talking-to-a-group-of-girls-as-a-guy-without-being-awkward https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12993/awkward-end-of-conversation https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13019/what-can-my-grandma-do-when-university-staff-stonewalls-her-requests
interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/13019/… For this one, that's still lacking a lot of details, like what they want to do. Advice will be all over the place, from 'drive over there and demand it' to 'call instead of e-mailing and don't hang up before you get it'... some of it might not even be IPS advice. I don't see any reason to reopen that one, there's still a lot of unaddressed comments on that one
(also, it's probably a duplicate of one of their earlier questions)
@Tinkeringbell I still think that useful answers can still be given, though you are probably right about it getting answers all over the place. The getting around a stonewall has some potential for a decent question.
How to politely tell my girlfriend that often hugging may become annoying at some point? We live together and when we're both home she often walks to me and hugs. Last time I said that sometimes I don't like it she said it is sad to her.
Can we have some generic answers like "Just ask the person", "tell them how you feel", and a custom close reason of "We are not experts in mind control and can't help you make people do your bidding"? Asking for a friend
@RichardU You mean more like a general 'how to be assertive'? And then have other posts argue how their circumstances are so special the general advice isn't helpful?
https://interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/1395/what-to-do-with-questions-about-getting-around-peoples-boundaries-autonomy https://interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/2618/what-is-the-difference-between-a-convince-question-and-a-good-question https://interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/1501/are-questions-about-how-to-convince-another-person-to-change-their-behavior-o Those are the ones I'm looking at
I rummaged through our questions from last week and noticed they most all fit into certain categories:
How to talk to X about Y, so I achieve Z?
How to ask a friend to do professional work?
How to ask ex to not be too personal
How do I ask my Dad to finance my computer?
How do I approach tell...
You're in a tough spot. Unfortunately, a lot of people have tendencies to agree to things with disregard to what they involve and what they mean to other people.
It sounds like your plans are very tied with this girl being there (and Tom). Meaning, your enjoyment or otherwise benefits would be d...
When opening my inbox on on MSE, MSO, SU or SO I see a 404 resource not found for:
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@Tinkeringbell We can have a "How to be assertive" yes, but something tells me what I'd like to post wouldn't meet the "be nice" standard. Just a hunch
FWIW, we were talking at TWP at just how rude the comments have become since February. I've had over 200 helpful flags in under 2 months, and not even 400 in the previous two years. So, it's not just happening here. Something is going on on SE in general
@Tinkeringbell we've been able to keep up with it, and we've been coordinating in chat, which seems to be the easiest way, because it kills flame wars before they start.
@Rainbacon I had a manipulate, violent ex (not the ex-wife) that managed to destroy all of my other relationships. Classic story.
Background
Through voluntary work I have been helping a man with disabilities (let's call him Bob) by giving him a lift (or ride) in my car a couple of times a week to help him meet with other similar people for a couple of hours or so.
Bob's conditions would be classified as physical disabilit...
How to politely tell my girlfriend that often hugging may become annoying at some point? We live together and when we're both home she often walks to me and hugs. Last time I said that sometimes I don't like it she said it is sad to her.
I rummaged through our questions from last week and noticed they most all fit into certain categories:
How to talk to X about Y, so I achieve Z?
How to ask a friend to do professional work?
How to ask ex to not be too personal
How do I ask my Dad to finance my computer?
How do I approach tell...
When opening my inbox on on MSE, MSO, SU or SO I see a 404 resource not found for:
https://meta.stackoverflow.com/teams/theme.css?v=10056:1520526728:10063:1520539764
Notice the /teams/ there. I'm part of the teams beta on Stack Overflow but this issues hunts me on every site.
Due to this error...
