The Awkward Silence - 2017-10-18

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Extroverted Main Man

12:55 AM

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Q: How to get along with European roommates?

I am a white male engineer born in Brazil and lived also in United States and France. I usually opt to live with roommates since it is more affordable and also I like the atmosphere of a shared living. The only problem that I have is that, despite rarely having problems with my multinational room...

europe roommates

Extroverted Main Man

1:23 AM

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Q: Is it weird that I sometimes don't respond to comments / jokes?

When someone makes an off the cuff remark, joke, or observation to me, I sometimes just laugh and nod along. I realized this silence might be kind of weird. I typically don't respond because I don't have anything clever to say back, so sometimes I'll just say "That's pretty funny". Most often tho...

Introverted Meta Man.

1:45 AM

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Q: The Dark Side of Interpersonal Communication - where do we draw the line?

Interpersonal skills has a dark side. Sometimes, it's about getting what you want, not making a better and healthier relationship. Various unsavory tools can and have been used since forever that favor your outcome over the quality and type of the relationship. This post is an effort to find whe...

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4 hours later…

5:26 AM

all oneboxes and no human messages, makes the awkward silence a dull room

Extroverted Main Man

6:07 AM

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Q: What to do if you've harassed someone?

Every now and then, I'm reminded about something awful or embarrassing that I did, and this, sadly, includes sexual harassment, mostly in the form of - but not limited to - drunken messages or phone calls. I understand that the best thing to do is just to not harass someone in the first place, b...

Extroverted Main Man

6:21 AM

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Q: How to ask girlfriend to pay rent when she moves in

I am on the cusp of moving to a new part of the country (1000km from my current location) and start a new job. I have just signed a lease to an apartment (that I am able to pay by myself if need be) and have invited my girlfriend to move in with me. She will be unemployed as we are both moving t...

relationships life-partner

Jarko Dubbeldam

6:35 AM

Is the tour page gone? I am trying to find a clickable link to it, but with the new layout, I can't find it anymore.

@JarkoDubbeldam It is still there.

In the footer section under the site title.

Jarko Dubbeldam

Wow, they sure managed to bury that one

thanks

Morning every one :)

Wow I got a lot of feedback yesterday :) 2 HNQ's :)

Afternoon

@dhein Nice :) Hopefully some of it helps :)

> drunken messages or phone calls.

Is that really considered sexual harassment?

With regard to the #MeToo thingy that's happening on twitter/facebook

Jarko Dubbeldam

6:46 AM

That was my first thought as well, but TBH, that probably depends on what was said and other circumstances. And if the offender feels bad about it and wants to make up for it, be my guest

Yeah but if we're counting that... it sort of devalues the whole hashtag ;)

@JarkoDubbeldam site switcher dropdown - help, I think

I thought I saw girlfriends post this thing and was thinking rape or pussy-grabbing..

not getting a drunk text message.

I was confused, that these people were having those problems, but I can imagine them being the sort of girls that are screaming 'murder' when somebody texts them, so for me, that's the last of that hashtag... I'm not taking it seriously anymore ;)

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Bad keyword in answer, bad keyword with email in answer, pattern-matching email in answer: How to get along with European roommates? by christ jackson on interpersonal.SE

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Mithrandir I couldn't find it on the help page though

@SmokeDetector Is this already gone?

6:54 AM

@JarkoDubbeldam Yes... and he didn't even use my flags :(

Jarko Dubbeldam

@Tinkeringbell Well, the hashtag is used by victims, while that question was by an offender. I think that that is significantly difference. It doesn't devalue anything if a potential offender feels that it was sexual harassment

Hmmm... I still think that if we're counting things like drunk text messages as sexual harassment, this world is very, very broken. And I want the guy to understand that, because he's feeling way too bad about this... But I don't think I can write an answer without starting to rant (or one of those major discussions like with the Mary/Nina question)

Jarko Dubbeldam

On one side, yes. On the other side, now that a lot of people are opening up about it, I don't think it is a good time to start deciding who is allowed to feel bad, and who isn't

@JarkoDubbeldam Right. They should have done that before starting the whole hype ;)

To avoid attention whoring....

Oh please not another Mary/Nina dilemma sigh

7:03 AM

@ExtrovertedMainMan @dhein this one... no Mary or Nina

I just feel bad for the guilt complex that that guy has been talked into...;) Because I don't get the 'seriousness' of the offense from the question.

Jarko Dubbeldam

7:22 AM

IDK, I think it's a tricky thing. On one side, people opening up and being honest about it, being able to talk about these taboos is a good thing. On the other hand, the idea that, as long as you spout your story on FB, all your sins will wash away is a bit attentionseeky.

Similar to thoughts and prayers. It's nice and all, but in the end completely useless.

1 hour later…

8:40 AM

A company asked me for a snippet of any code I made for opensource or private. Should I just sent them the snippet from here: codegolf.stackexchange.com/a/55989/31033 And mentioning that it was for a coding challenge, or might that miss the purpose?

Jarko Dubbeldam

8:52 AM

Hmm, on one side, being able to golf in a language, implies that you are pretty familiar and comfortable with it. On the other hand, codegolfing isnt anywhere close to something you want to have in your codebase

Exactly these 2 thoughts I had in my mind too. '^.^

9:21 AM

@dhein, if you can point out exactly what kind of behaviour there isn't done normally... Maybe show that solution, and write a 'good practice' one as well?

To accompany it?

So it shows that a.) you're comfortable enough with a language to do challenges and b.) You know about best practices and can apply them to your own code.

Jarko Dubbeldam

Most of these submissions are not as impressive when ungolfed

fairly trivial and so

But then you're basically handing in 2 pieces of code... Don't know if that's okay...

Ah okay, I've never code-golfed.

I thought that Life-thingy you linked me a few weeks ago was code-golf ;-) That was very impressive :)

Jarko Dubbeldam

Basically, CG is throw every good practice out of the window to make things as short as possible

the golf part is to use as little bytes as possible

the Life thing was hard enough to do properly in the first place

@Tinkeringbell: Well this specific challenge was a polyglot (a code being compilable in different languages, having different functionalities for each of them), so hard to give a good practice way to accompany it :P

@dhein, I'll let you figure this out with @JarkoDubbeldam. You both know more about code-golfing than me ;)

9:26 AM

But, it is a polyglot of c99 vs c89 so demonstrating I'm VERY aware of the standard. and as that companys product is a C and Java code validation and code coverage compiler built in for GCC, I thought it still might be a snippet, they might have fun with.

@Tinkeringbell: sure, thanks for your inut anyways :)

@Tinkeringbell: feel free to have a look on the link anyways, I'm very proud on that snippet :)

Jarko Dubbeldam

You probably know better what it does than me. You should judge for yourself, is it just hacky golfing or is there more behind it?

OTOH, if they ask you for a snippet of some project, it is possible that they want some functional code. Your judgement call to tell whether this represents any qualities that they might want to see in that

@JarkoDubbeldam: It isn't really about golfing, but more about a polyglot. So the code behaves different depended on the C standards version it compiled with. Well, I just sent them the snippet and noted, if they are interested in something more practical, I would like them to give me further requirements. They just asked for some Code, written by me in C or C++ and added "It doesn't need to compile.".

Jarko Dubbeldam

hum, spent the last hour trying to find the source of some obscure warning generated by my odbc driver =.=

@dhein It doesn't need to compile... Hmm...

Jarko Dubbeldam

snippets can be annoying to compile as standalone i guess

9:35 AM

@JarkoDubbeldam Wanna know what I did the last three days? Figuring out that I needed to delete 10-15 lines of xml in an .xsd file....

Jarko Dubbeldam

Not like a compiled binary is more insightful than code

>.>

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Q: Why does dbListTables give a warning message when called via a function? (R DBI)

I wrote a function using dbListTables from the DBI package, that throws a warning that I cannot understand. When I run the same code outside of a function, I don't get the warning message. For info, the database used is Microsoft SQL Server. Reproducible example library(odbc) library(DBI) # d...

sql-server r odbc r-dbi

writing an answer for that as we speak

9:52 AM

By the way I got +8 rep for "serial voting was reversed" So indeed someone here on IPS doesn't like me ^^

@dhein Yeah, you get that sometimes ;-) Wasnt me :P

You feel caught?;P

Ssssh.... Don't mention that! There's mods in here too :P

@dhein Deja Vu

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Extroverted Main Man

11:46 AM

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Q: How do I ask a close family friend who keeps delaying communication to pay me for the work I've done

SITUATION A close family friend who has given my brother a lot of photography work in the past offered me some work designing and implementing some new websites for a brand new business that she is involved with. Working for her boss, I was to write 6 websites in wix for $150 each. No formal ...

11:57 AM

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Link at end of answer: How to ask your girlfriend to pay her share of the rent when she moves in? by pankaj karnwal on interpersonal.SE

@SmokeDetector 6 minutes to deletion. too slow, eh.

@NVZ shouldn't happen too fast, I'd like to score my helpful spam flags :P

I turned on autoflagging yesterday, but it didn't use my flags for the previous one, and also not for this one. I think I forgot a step ;-) I'll look into it tonight

@Tinkeringbell if you'd like, you can check out the mother of all spam detection: charcoal hq

@NVZ Been there ;-)

Mithrandir24601

I get virtually all my flags from first post and late answer review queues - about a tenth of them require flagging and an alarming chunk of them, I would flag if it weren't for the fact that they're newcomers, so I'm a bit more lenient

12:06 PM

Not now, too much distraction...

Mithrandir24601

(this is on Worldbuilding)

@Tinkeringbell autoflagging works by picking up to 3 random volunteers. 3 flags aren't enough to remove a spam. the rest have to be cast by other users manually.

@Mithrandir24601 you should flag especially if they're new users

also, the autoflags are cast on spam from various sites, not just ips.

are you two related; mithrandir and mithrandir24601

no, we're not

12:09 PM

@NVZ Then I should pay closer attention to smokey here ;-) Have his messages tag me :P

Then, I get a popup whenever there's spam ;-)

that's possible

@Mithrandir but unnecessary as well

just pop into Charcoal and run this command: !!/notify 61165 interpersonal

@Mithrandir what's the number

The room ID

12:11 PM

so what does that command do?

Mithrandir24601

@Mithrandir I generally comment, asking them to expand/fix etc. then regularly come back to check if they've done so - most of the times that they haven't, it's already been picked up on. The problem is that you can't 'hold' answers, only delete them

@Tinkeringbell You'll now get pings from me if I report a post on interpersonal, in room 61165 on chat.stackexchange.com

Smokeys reply :) very polite fella

@NVZ it makes Smokey attach an @Tinkeringbell to the end of reports in this room

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to make someone give me their weights at the gym?

How can I make someone give me the weights they're not using at the gym? Last night I went to the gym and there was one of the regular guys there hogging about 8 different sets of dumbbells and two barbells and I needed to use one of the dumbbell sets he had so I went up to him and I asked him i...

@Mithrandir attach I hope, not attack? :P

12:12 PM

@Mithrandir24601 'deleting' rude or spammy answers is in a way the only 'holding' we can do.

@Tinkeringbell err yeah

typo, sorry

funny one, leave it ;)

too late

Never too late, you're a mod right? :P

Or can't you change messages, only delete them?

I can edit them.

12:13 PM

okay, i've ping-requested smokey as well

I just meant that I had already edited it :P

hope smokey doesn't pester me later about this

lol

Right. My curiosity is satisfied ;) --> I meant just change it back then! :P

@Mithrandir and what's the command to stop this feature

/notify 61165 interpersonal

I didnt xD

12:15 PM

@dhein not here; but in charcoal

@NVZ errr

hang on, let me look it up

!!/unnotify <chatroom_ID_number> <site_domain>

Mithrandir24601

@NVZ Oh, I flag them - those are part of the ~10% that I do flag - it's the ones that need a bit of editing to actually answer the question (instead of hinting at answers or missing something important) and similar that I comment instead of flag

ah, thanks.

so that's be !!/unnotify 61165 interpersonal

this needs to be closed interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/5537/31

@Mithrandir done

12:19 PM

@Mithrandir Why not do it yourself? It's clearly one of those cases where it doesn't really matter if there are 1 or 5 close votes IMO.... (just curious, because I'm seeing very little close-voting from mods, even on those things that are imo obvious)

btw, this one could do with a healthy dose of details imo: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/5532/…

@Tinkeringbell I did vote to close it. I'm a moderator on Literature, not IPS...

@Mithrandir Where did I get that idea then... Sorry ;-)

Is it weird that this question is closed as POB? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/5505/345

"Is this weird?" is an opinion based question.

@Tinkeringbell so what about "is it rude?"

12:23 PM

That's what I picked ;-) It IMO needs some editing to bring out the How can I respond to X a little better..

'is it rude' I think also fall in that category... example?

Without an example I'm thinking I'm walking into a trap :P

i'm not saying that that question is great, but i'm thinking why is "is it weird" treated differently than "is it rude". "Is it rude?" has been well-received: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/search?q=%22is+it+rude%22

'rude' is less opinion based than 'weird' IMO

it's weird to me to see milk in plastic cartons after using milk in bags for the past 7 years, but to my cousins the bags are weird

@Mithrandir hmm.. but that's even pob as it is.. what's rude for me may not be rude for you. lol

@NVZ , btw, the Opinionbased question also needs a bit more cultural information.

@Tinkeringbell that question could benefit from an edit with additional details. yes. but the idea of "is it weird" is not any different from "is it rude" is my current thinking. i could be wrong.

12:27 PM

every question could benefit from more details IMO

Hmm... I think you've found a meta :-)

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How can I be confident?

How can I be confident when I talk with people, and not being shy to talk and share my openions with them?

conversations relationships

@Tinkeringbell well, would you like to pick up the ball?

I think, being rude differs in so far from being weird, as culture usually dictates what has to be seen as rude, while weirdness is more of a personal preference and therefor more of a opinionbased thing. Or am I missing something?

that time it takes 3 mods to close a question ;)

12:30 PM

@Mithrandir Yeah.... that's also true, more details are always better. But in this case, we don't even know what culture we're dealing with... basic info (that I think I need for writing an answer) is missing or just not coming across clearly

@NVZ Let's race. I might have time tonight to write one, but I also promised a group of friends to do some gaming and I'm very busy working on a new crochet project that needs to be finished before winter arrives ;-)

@Tinkeringbell no race. i can't write these days.. writers block or something..

In other words: I'll put you on the list and will see if you've beat me to it or not ;-)

@NVZ You're doing fine here :P

@Tinkeringbell this isnt writing.. this is chatting.

chatters block, not a problem today. maybe tomorrow, who knows

I'll put it on the list... I still have an answer to finish for that close-reason for 'telling people what to do/write'

@NVZ You need to write if you want to do chatting...

Otherwise, it would be talking ;-)

@Tinkeringbell i would think of "is it 'adjective' to do 'X'?" sort of questions. are they pob? or something like that

12:34 PM

@Mithrandir What went wrong there? Did the system not recognise your authority?

@Tinkeringbell 'twas before they were elected, but it looks odd after they're elected

@Tinkeringbell its an old elu question; where the close voters are now mods, but werent back then.

@NVZ Are 'Is it weird/rude/adjective to do 'X' questions POB?

There's your question title...

@Mithrandir Ah, I get it ;-) Thank you!

(both of you :P )

Is it weird that we've closed this "Is this weird?" question?

@Mithrandir plagiarism. ;P

12:35 PM

Yeah that is sure to get some attention ;-)

@NVZ not if you post it

@Mithrandir lol, no problem. feel free to pick up the ball and run with it. i am not in a mood to write metas at the moment..

neither am I TBH

I may need to bug the CMs again though, have something I'm going to dig into today

@Mithrandir dig into my brain; throw out the migraine.

ouch

12:37 PM

well, that rhymed; woah!

I wonder how many upvotes and downvotes I've cast across all of SE...

@Mithrandir any script or sede for that?

Guys, is it normal if a girlfriend dumps you because you might get fat again? I've known the girl for 4 months and I've been in the military all this time. I lost about 80 pounds while in the military. She told me she was gonna leave me if I get fat again. I didn't give much attention to her words when she first said it, but decided to bring it up again yesterday. I told her that if I get fat I'll do it on purpose to see whether or O TBN sbr

Oops didn't finish clicked send by accident

@Pavel well, if you want an answer, do ask on the main site; and here we can help you formulate it better, not answer it.

I told her that if I get fat I'll do it on purpose to see if she leaves me just or get rid of a shitty person, and she answered, saying:"Might as well stop talking now", so I said goodbye and deleted my Facebook, she hasn't contacted me ever since.

12:41 PM

"is it normal" is likely to get closed as POB ;-)

@Tinkeringbell Better asking if its weird?:P

is it a girlfriend (like, relationship), or female friend?

Relationship

And you've deleted your facebook profile or blocked her/unfriended her? Has she any other means to contact you?

@Pavel: Why facebook is such an important thing her? had you seen before?

12:43 PM

(I feel like I'm collecting gossip now.... aaargh! I'm just as bad as my family)

Aha your family? Gossip a little bit more please '^.^

We just talked on there, we had to use some sort of a messenger to text each other

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/5540/… 'Nother Should I

just hearing "creepy" lets my stress level raise again '^.^

@Pavel: Would she ahve any means to come over to you? And especially, where exactly you need help with? Whats your goal? try to collect these things and ask them on the main site: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/ask

She has my phone number

12:50 PM

Sound to me like you already broke up with her :P

I just got frustrated cause I think she's a bitch

Mithrandir24601

@NVZ Given enough context, "is [this] rude?" can be objectively answered as it's a measure of what the society of that context finds rude, while 'weird' varies from person to person, hence is POB. Or at least, that's my opinion on it :P

Oh wait, @dhein pretty much already said that... At least someone agrees!

Okay, little experiment. I've edited this. Go or no-go, don't do it again?

Mithrandir24601

@Pavel I agree with @Tinkeringbell - does it matter if "it's normal" or not if, by the sounds of things, you seem quite happy with the outcome?

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: How to warn a school employee about about a creepy admirer

I am currently enrolled in a small co-ed school, which, at the moment, is only comprised of males (of which I myself am one). There is however, one female on staff in this small school. She's in her mid-20's, and I'll call her Mary for the sake of privacy. This is obviously somewhat awkward for M...

united-states awkward-situations boundaries school

1:01 PM

@Tinkeringbell: you droped Nina's role in this story :P

I am not happy such people exist in this world. Like she seemed nice and adequate and then said that crap about me being fat and it seemed as if it wasn't her, like she changed all of a sudden from a nice person to a bad one.

@dhein I think OP is the Nina here :P

@Pavel Yeah, but if most of your contact was across Facebook... It takes a lot more time to find somebodies character flaws when you only interact online (In my experience).

@Tinkeringbell: lemme reread and verify :D

Do that, I'm going to have a cup of tea (and do some work) See ya!

@Pavel: I'm not so good in analyzing intentions, but are you here to ask that post as a question or just want to talk about it?

@Tinkeringbell Hmmm, Nina is a strange name for a male, but in the end everything else would fit :P

1:24 PM

Dhein, I just wanted to talk about it

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Mom asked my grandparents to take the grandkids out of their will

A few years ago I invited my parents, brother, and grandparents (on my mother's side) to my Master's thesis presentation. At one point during their weekend visit, I overheard my mom talking to her mom about removing the grandchildren from their will. My mom was making the point that she doesn't w...

family grandparents

@Pavel: Ok, well to know. In that case I hope our help satisfied so far.

Extroverted Main Man

2:08 PM

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Q: Will an hour's drive place too much of a barrier on a relationship?

Yes, I've heard of the stories of people from different US states having long-distance relationships and eventually flying to each other and meeting up that way. But I get the feeling that this is very atypical. So the question is, typically, what is the furthest distance you should consider tr...

united-kingdom relationships online-relationships

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Extroverted Main Man

3:20 PM

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Q: Under what circumstances is it okay to not hold a door open?

So, we’ve all had a situation where someone is coming into—our out of—some place, we notice someone coming towards the doorway we are in… At what point is it safe to just let a door close an not hold it open? By my benchmark, if I make eye contact with someone who is close to me (behind or in fr...

politeness courtesy

Extroverted Main Man

3:40 PM

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Q: How to intervene in a random abuse situation?

To be clear, this is not a situation where it is an abusive relationship. I was relaxing at an outdoor area in a local open air shopping mall, when a group of four late teens/early twentysomethings stopped near me and began taunting someone about their assumed background and intentions based on ...

social-cues intervention

Extroverted Main Man

4:08 PM

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Q: How can I politely tell someone who is ineffectively holding a door open for me, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

The key word here is “ineffectively.” I have no problem with someone holding a door open for me. They hold it open, I thank them, life goes on. But something I have noticed recently is that some people are excessively and ineffectively holding a door open to the point they are actually not help...

united-states politeness public-issues courtesy

@ExtrovertedMainMan I'll bet you never hold doors for people.

Introverted Meta Man.

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Q: To diagnose or not to diagnose? That is the question

I have a lot of experience - several years professionally - with mental illness and drug addiction. Twice (that I can recall), I have made potential diagnoses in my answers regarding people the OP is having problems with. I was asked about the wisdom of doing this by a moderator, so I stopped, ...

4:39 PM

[ SmokeDetector | MS ] Link at end of answer: How to warn a school employee about about a creepy admirer by user7441 on interpersonal.SE (@Tinkeringbell @NVZ @dhein)

Wow... it works! Thanks for notifying me SmokeDetector

2 hours later…

6:21 PM

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/5596/… this should be closed

Extroverted Main Man

6:31 PM

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Q: I really want to be in a relationship but

I really want to be in a relationship but I cant cuz I have to study hard and work hard :( besides I have to attend to 2-year- military service as soon as i finished my studies. and just because i don't have military-service-card i cant work officially and while i'm studying i have to pay for the...

6:56 PM

@SmokeDetector aww, sweet. you remember me. :)

@ExtrovertedMainMan SmokeDetector might be a solution to this :P

@Tinkeringbell eh, how so?

Well, he remembers you, and me ;) That's sort of a relationship that doesn't require much time, money or effort :P

@IntrovertedMetaMan. Clever titling.. like it..

7:16 PM

Howdy!

7:42 PM

@BradleyWilson Hi :) How's life? Finally getting settled? Or still busy?

7:56 PM

Why did that message get removed?

Did Smokey delete its own message? Or did a mod do that?

I did. The post is gone, no need to have it littering up this room :D

Smokey will remove its own message if we determine that it's not spam in rooms other than Charcoal HQ

!!/wut

Nope, no commands in here

But this was spam.... :S Ah well, it's removed ;)

Ah well, I have got the chance to increase my helpful spam flags with 100% today ;)

@Tinkeringbell Just finished the induction program, been super busy. Got a few days off now, going to start properly on Monday. Super nervous. But looking forward to meeting some likeminded people! What about you? how are things?

been busy as well, but tomorrow is my last day and then I've got a long weekend...

that's also super busy, but that's all fun stuff ;)

8:02 PM

ah that's good, I'll be studying all weekend I reckon. So I'll be around, hopefully I can throw some answers down, it has been a while

btw, on the meta post, you want to throw down third place?

I'll cover first and second.

Sure :)

I'm willing to do second/third as well, split the 'bill' equally ;)

I think it's popular enough now to warrant the original rep

it's totally up to you

we'll decide on the day

Let's split things equally ;)

Okay :)

awesome

Doesn't seem like I have many fans... :( Two nominations and no votes :(

@BradleyWilson Studying all weekend is boooring. I've been there, I'm not going to do that again :P

8:12 PM

@Tinkeringbell I'm studying some new concepts I might need to know throughout my first couple of weeks, it's fun when it's for something worthwhile rather than just a grade imo

@Tinkeringbell Plenty of time to go yet, you'll get some votes

I'm trying to avoid voting until abit later on

@BradleyWilson I think I'll need to go campaigning :) I'll put up posters on the site :P

Vote for TB, 2017!

Okay, work-related learning is better than learning for a grade. Still, there's more fun things to do: I'm gonna spend 31 hours at the zoo! :P

aw man I would totally love to go to the zoo rn

on the other hand, I've spent the day looking around my new place I live and met a couple of the neighbours

new place being area rather not my apartment

@BradleyWilson Are they nice looking neighbours?

Yeah, I got the area part :) Figured you'd know the layout of your apartment by now :P

8:14 PM

@Tinkeringbell They're mostly young professionals, they seemed nice enough

I'm tryna think of ways to introduce myself to my intermediate neighbours

I might ask a question on here

@BradleyWilson I need that too... visited an apartment today that I thought I wanted to buy, but the neighbours were noisy... had some children running around/screaming/crying and they were screaming as well. (And there were other flaws with the apartment as well :/ )

@BradleyWilson Throw a party with loud music, they'll show up to your door :P

I never had to that though so I have no idea how that's done. Make a question and I'll steal the answers for when I'm finally able to move :)

I'm torn between asking 'should I introduce myself..' or 'how to introduce myself..'

@BradleyWilson Do the how to, if it isn't customary people will say 'don't'?

I'll do that now then

You can always put in their that you've already doubts on whether it's appropriate, but that you're going to do it anyways ;)

8:21 PM

I was thinking that

I'll add a couple of suggestions to what I was thinking of doing to make it a little less broad, too

even though I haven't properly thought of anything lol

I think that 'I've recently moved, haven't properly introduced' isn't too broad personally... As long as you say culture and maybe the fact that it's all young professionals...

could work, i'll write it up now

I'll see it tomorrow then. I'm off for today :) Bye!

ciao for now

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Q: How to tell if she wants to be more than friends?

I met up with a friend at the weekend who also brought some other friends. One of them added me on facebook as she thought I was interesting. She has been messaging me since then each day until one of us has to go to bed, each time she says she wants to talk more the next day. She's been asking t...

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