I prefer people use whichever pronoun they feel most comfortable with, for whatever reasons they have. When you reach the point of correcting people, that's someone else asserting as if they know that I belong to a particular sex and that's the kind of assertion I dislike.
@GraceNote Yeah, but I shouldn't have assumed in the first place. :\ Sorry about that. What pronouns would you prefer (I get what you said, but I'm asking what you wish me to use)?
@GraceNote @JonEricson While it wasn't an ethical way to shout out you guys through an MSE loudspeaker, thanks for looking into site graduation process, a massive weight has been taken off the shoulders here.
The whole behind it is, basically, I... kinda loathe gender as a construct. In two previous net communities I've been in, after a long period of being basically "genderless" in the fact that it was never a thing of anything, in one community I suddenly was asserted as male (I never figured the trigger for this), and one I was asserted as female (originated from a bug in the forum software)
In both cases, treatment of me completely changed. I stopped being "one of the gang" and instead became, well, the corresponding gender. And that sucked. Big time.
I am me, one way or the other. I don't be a different person just because of either sex or gender. So that's why my stance is neutrality on the matter. What I am doesn't matter, it's who I am.
(The forum bug one was particularly egregious because I'd been with that community for SIX YEARS and suddenly that all became invalidated basically in how people treated me)
@RikerW If you asked me a few years ago I probably would've had a more stubborn answer but after so many years of adopting this neutrality stance... I kinda like that more, really.
On an academic level, you can argue that "sex" is physiological and "gender" is identity, but on a linguistic level they're exceedingly interchangeable in common parlance (look at how form fields are done in various forms).
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I had a childhood friend who got a sex change, but it was after I had already left town. I accidentally referred to my friend as a "he" on Facebook and got chewed out for it. Said I was a jerk for not checking her gender before posting. How was I supposed to know she had an operation?
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So here's an odd question. A man gets a sex change, but you are speaking about a memory that you had before the operation. Do you use the pronoun from the past, or the pronoun from the present?
@ThomasKwa Sports are one good example I can think of off the top of my head. You wouldn't want to combine men's and women's tennis or soccer into a single bracket.
@ThomasKwa I've disliked them for as long as I can remember, but seeing that essay recently (Lynn linked it a few days ago) I still found it very powerful. It should be shown to more people...
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@Rainbolt At a family gathering once I just kind of wondered aloud why there aren't women's football games on tv. My sister's response: "Because who would want to watch that?"
@Lynn It does. My point was that we shouldn't be mandating an increase in the role gender plays in our lives, as that runs contrary to...everything gender-neutral that's happened over the last decades.
It would also make sense to have weight categories and height categories in many sports, but there aren't. Some sports don't divide by sex or gender, some do. There doesn't seem an underlying good reason that wouldn't also apply to other physical characteristics
Speaking of socks, my roommate and I threw out every sock we own and got two sets of two very distinct kinds of sock. If I catch him wearing my socks again, I am going to be extremely fussy.
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It's not often that my Java answers lead the pack in votes for three hours in golf. Sometimes for a bit right after posting if I'm one of the first, but it usually doesn't last long at all.
Challenge about advacado
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