When you say something, what matters is not your intent, but how the other person understands it. I know what you mean, but it is not generally true. I knew a person who was treated badly in the past and if someone search for hidden hostilities, you will be flabbergasted how innocuous statements could be misinterpreted; it took years until the person trusted again. The idea "The other person interpretation is always(!) correct" is bad; it opens you up for manipulation. —
Thorsten S. 1 min ago