@doppelgreener TBH I noticed this trait of your personality since quite a long time and it was the only reason why I didn't vote for you as a moderator. I'm glad you learned it, it can only make you a better mod !
@Magician In pathfinder there are a list of feats you will find one pretty much any monster from the bestiary, and some you will never find. Little game: can you name one monster without Improved Initiative?
@doppelgreener Well, you technically still "vote to close" it, but it's the kind of "one man, one vote" vote that Pratchett explained thusly: You are The Man, and you have The Vote.
@AnneAunyme That is fair enough. I can definitely be pretty firm with people and that can come across as grumpy even when I'm not actually genuinely grumpy.
@godskook That I came across as snarky, and was probably genuinely being a bit snarky, is itself the issue. I would prefer a zero-snark policy for myself.
Moderators need to be someone community members can have a good accord with, and snark & grump put up obstacles between community members.
@godskook snark is not always mandatory, but what is important is that when you need to be not snarky you 1) manage to not be snarky 2) people know you are not snarky
not being snarky at all is imho the simplest way to achieve that
- are patient and fair - lead by example - show respect for their fellow community members in their actions and words - are open to some light but firm moderation to keep the community on track and resolve (hopefully) uncommon disputes and exceptions
I feel that being grumpy breaches those expectations of moderators, since we're looked to for setting part of the behaviour standard of the site. Also grump works against being patient and fair.
> As a moderator, your actions now represent the community, so you will be held to a higher standard of behavior. You are an ambassador of trust, with the same sorts of rights that the official development team and community coordinators have. -- stackoverflow.blog/2009/05/18/a-theory-of-moderation
@doppelgreener you're also still human. And the patience you have can a still be tested at times. When someone keeps poking, it's hard to keep your cool. But realizing it and owning it are the best things you can do. Which you've done!
@SevenSidedDie SUBOPTIMAL! 5 MINUTES OF FUN per session! INCOHERENT GAME THAT'S NOT VERY CLEAR ABOUT WHO IT CATERS TO! [keeps throwing anathemas over all those things]
As it was explained to me, yes. But fair warning, I'm a 5th-hand source.
More specifically, as it was explained to me, reality warping works on group-think true-belief. If enough people all believe the same thing, and all believe it hard enough, it becomes true. Which is why the god-emperor is a "god", and not just an emperor.
@CaptainBohemian hmmm, are you replying to someone specific? Just so you know, you can hover over that message and click on the "new line" symbol that appears at the far right to have your current message be a reply to that one.
In modern times, "bro" is sort of a unisex term when used in such a manner. But I can understand being bothered by people assuming others are male on the internet. It bugs me too.
well, I can only blurt out a theory, but it muight be because, in your specific case, the chat system trims your name at "Captain" and Cpt is a title, not a name. One might wonder "Captain what?" (On the contrary, I've been called out for calling a person "Lord" because it was part of the nickname. Apparently, someone else thought it was boosting his ego too much, or something like that (I would have expected to be told it was impersonal or rude to not use the other part of the nickname but... IIRC that's not what happened.)
@CaptainBohemian More like "cool story bro" being a citation of a meme, thus being a sort of fixed sentence, hence Papayaman10's "in that context"
@Zachiel And now, given the context that someone actually went after her for not giving her name, I feel like an ass for using said meme in said context.
@Zachiel Still, I made the comment thinking it was some sort of blanket statement, intended as a big entrance. Which would have been rather pretentious. Now I feel like I just offhandedly dismissed something rather more important. Which is how that meme is used, most of the time.
@Zachiel Yeah, if you see a single-line comment on your 5-paragraph Tumblr post or whatever, containing simply, "cool story bro", it usually isn't meant as a sincere compliment.
Sort of like colloquially referring to it as "your 5-paragraph Tumblr post or whatever".
@DrRDizzle If my NPC is classed, I prepare as that class. But not all of my magic-using NPCs are classed. (I often dig into a FUDGE supplement I love for differently-mechaniced magics that I'll throw out there in the world.)
I live in a place where I have no mental relevance to my neighborhood. I don't follow any custom or festival here. I am just physically here but mentally wandering.
@Papayaman1000 agreed. The fish is costly, but you don't use a whole lot, especially if you also make veggie. But the time investment is real. You have the tools?
@Papayaman1000 yes, this is a highly urbanized area. You can't expect to see a little bit of natural view. The most common recreation facility here is bar. But I have never been to a bar. That's why I said I am not a person of the type of my neighborhood.
Ah, we have a lots of bars even here (and this isn't that highly urbanized of an area, there's even some factories around here. It's a small town, around 20k inhabitants. But the town centre is mostly bars, banks and dress shops.
@CaptainBohemian That's the telltale signs of a big municipal center, if not a college town. Despite the fare nearby being astoundingly boring, trust me, you have a lot of tourist there.
@CaptainBohemian To me, tourism means someone in the town neither lives there nor has relatives there.
@CaptainBohemian ...you'd be surprised. But still, "big city" usually means tourists, no matter what. Which is very frustrating for everyone who's not a current tourist.
Even if there are no sceneries, I suppose you have some, I don't know, historical buildings, or other things worth visiting. If not, people could visit to taste local foods, or because of thermal pools, or of some festival or other event. I know people who visited Hong Kong for the food, and from the few photos I've seen of it it doesn't really look like a city with much nature and haunting natural vistas. Sometimes people visit places just to know how they look from within
@Zachiel I have only passed Hong Kong browsing in its airport. But I heard Hong King is famous for its shopping feature. I guess I wouldn't like such a place. I prefer a place having spectacular snenery.
I read from Quora the impression of my city from foreingers is thatthe main feature of my city is food. No wonder I don't feel my city interesting. I just feel food not much attractive to me.
I have visited Beijing and I found food in Beijing is so rough and doesn't taste well commonly. But I still like Beijing for its scenery.
@Papayaman1000 I usually only feel food delicious when I eat it the first or second time. Then I don't feel it that delicious anymore. I don't feel not much food can be always delicious. I always want new kind of food to feel delicious.
@Papayaman1000 I feel actually I enjoy atmosphere than food itself. I would feel having a picnic in a sceneic place very enjoyable, far more than a usual restaurant.
@CaptainBohemian I am notoriously easy to please when it comes to food. As long as you avoid the few things I dislike (like peas), I'll eat anything, and will be perfectly happy eating the same thing everyday.
@CaptainBohemian So I don't think I can help with this problem
@GreySage Really? Then you are opposite to me. I am often forced to eat food I don't really like due to overhunger. I just can't find food I really like.
@GreySage I usually only eat when I am hungry. I don't feel much desire to eat when not hungry. I feel doing a lot of things are far more interesting than eating. But I really hate the feeling of hunger.
On the contrary, there's a lot of things I don't like eating, but some I really like - mostly pasta with minced meat sauce, pork with milk and flour sauce, curry rice, fried onions... I don't obsess over food, but it's one of the few things I spend extra money on (I don't like going to the movies, or buying things - in fact, all D&D manuals I have are more like the remains of disbanded groups, or common property of the current one. But going to a restaurant with a decent price? I'm in.)
A lof of our food also has no suitable English translation. Our feature food for Drangon boat Festival on lunar May 5 is translated into dumpling rice. I guess you can't tell what it means.
@CaptainBohemian That's more lazy translators. Again, most people just go by the original name. Sushi, for example. Sometimes its particularly bad; just go over to Anime.SE and mention "jelly donuts".
Funny things I've seen: a bunch of British people really confused why us Americans love breadsticks so much. They weren't thinking of delicious, fluffy sticks of fresh-baked bread dough, they were thinking of crunchy, pencil-thick biscuit sticks.
@Papayaman1000 Pocky is in probably every grocery/convenience store I have been to near my hometown, but that is probably because my hometown is an Asian as you can get while being in North America
@GreySage I live in Ohio, near Cleveland. The capital, Columbus, is a huge Asian culture center, especially for Japanese, but otherwise we voted Trump, so...
@BESW I'll take the latter any day simply because everything I eat has garlic in it and I love that fact
Your problem is the Uncanny Valley
See, humans love seeing the resemblances between things. Well....only when we know its an "other" thing. When we see things we truly and really believe are a representative of a set of things, we then start looking for differences. Basically, if its in the s...
@godskook As a general rule, answers are best received which frontload a summary of their advice, then support their reasoning and explain their advice in more depth.
Your problem is the Uncanny Valley
See, humans love seeing the resemblances between things. Well....only when we know its an "other" thing. When we see things we truly and really believe are a representative of a set of things, we then start looking for differences. Basically, if its in the s...
