The Bridge

SaintWacko

8:00 PM

user15026

@SaintWacko Oh I like that

SaintWacko

@AshleyNunn Me too :D

spugsley

well my brother called and apologized for yesterday. I accepted his apology but I still don't really want anything to do with him for awhile. Does that make me a bad person? :/

two bugs

Keep in mind I don't know anything about the situation but I'm going to say it doesn't make you a bad person at all. It's your life. You don't have to spend it with people who make you upset, even if they aren't entirely malicious.

spugsley

he felt pretty damn malicious yesterday :/ I thought he was going to hit me

but I don't think he remembers much of what happened. He kind of snapped.

he seemed kind of confused today when he called.

two bugs

8:10 PM

Like I said, I don't know anything about the situation, but you sound 100% justified in your feelings.

spugsley

I guess it'll just take some time

two bugs

Especially if you thought he was going to hit you. Violence is not cool.

Ronan Forman

@spugsley Ugh that sucks, I know someone who was dealing with a similar situation and it's not fun.

But what ever you think is the "right" thing to do, don't stay in a situation which is not good for you.

spugsley

that's where I'm at. I can only handle so much. Even talking to him on the phone just now was making me anxious so I had to get off

GnomeSlice

He can't hit you over the phone

Ronan Forman

8:14 PM

@GnomeSlice Helpful @Gnome, helpful.

GnomeSlice

So there's that St least, for now

at*

No I mean

Agh

Ronan Forman

@spugsley Yeah, it's not like you're helping him if you're in that state anyway.

GnomeSlice

Nevermind

Unionhawk

Your phone has been autocorrecting at to St too?

GnomeSlice

Yes

Well only if I type st by mistake

spugsley

8:16 PM

@GnomeSlice no I get it. You're right, having that distance is good right now. But anxiety flares aren't really good with logic :p

GnomeSlice

Anxiety sucks eggs. I have it about different stuff. Like kissing.

And phone calls

spugsley

mine's kinda indiscriminate. It can really be anything anytime. But I guess that's why GAD is GAD

Rapitor

@GnomeSlice i think thats just being generally shy

GnomeSlice

No

I don't think so

Something specifically about kissing scares the shit out of me

There's a word for it

Philematophobia or something

Rapitor

i mean. if you think about what it is, yeah it's kind of scary and weird.

spugsley

8:20 PM

@GnomeSlice phobias suck so much ass

MadMAxJr

Someone I met recently has that one... fear of tall ceilings. Kinda sucks cause we can't go out to movies due to that.

Rapitor

@MadMAxJr wat

GnomeSlice

I've never met a girl I had the slightest interest in kissing

Shit like holding hands, sure

user15026

THe illogical stuff our brains can do is both horrifying and fascinating

MadMAxJr

@Rapitor Altocelarophobia

user15026

8:22 PM

Mostly sucky and shitty, though

GnomeSlice

Even other physically intimate things

spugsley

@GodEmperorDune please don't do the "haven't met the right one" thing. That's really condescending no matter what it's about

GnomeSlice

I don't mind

Pretty sure that's not it though

GodEmperorDune

@spugsley sorry, didn't mean anything by it

spugsley

I get it all the time with not wanting to have kids. People literally tell me that my husband just "isn't the right one" ugh

user15026

8:23 PM

@GnomeSlice This is why being human sucks sometimes, because you're like "this isn't logical" and you know that, but it doesn't change that whatever that thing is is a thing that just freaks you out because reasons

user15026

@spugsley Stab them in the face.

spugsley

RIGHT

SaintWacko

@spugsley o.0

Unionhawk

I'm pretty sure you can go to prison for that

MadMAxJr

I had anxiety issues while working tech support. That has finally reduced since I no longer work in a part of helpdesk that takes outside customer calls.

SaintWacko

8:23 PM

Just borrow @AshleyNunn's hug gun

Yuuki

@spugsley Maybe those people aren't the right ones. And you should stab them in the face, yes.

spugsley

@SaintWacko literally strangers in line at Starbucks have said this to me

GodEmperorDune

@spugsley I think that is a much different and much more offensive context

spugsley

@Yuuki BAHAHAHAHA

SaintWacko

And hit them with hugs... OF DEATH

GnomeSlice

8:24 PM

@spugsley wtf

MadMAxJr

I think that defeats the purpose of the hug.

spugsley

@GodEmperorDune sorry, it's just a knee jerk reaction to "not the right one". I think it makes people feel shitty

Yuuki

Do You Believe In Magic - The Lovin' Spoonful

►

I've been listening to this song non-stop today.

MadMAxJr

TLDR; all people are terrible. Lets get those Boston Dynamics Atlas robots ready for social interaction. Cold, unfeeling, robots. <3

user15026

In general, being told "oh you just haven't done x" where x is the thing that will make whatever thing you are afraid of/anxious over/dealing with better (whether true or otherwise) just sucks

spugsley

8:24 PM

@GnomeSlice additionally "Is it because you can't have them?" NO STRANGERS THAT IS NOT OKAY

GnomeSlice

@spugsley Some people are just trying to make conversation

but I mean that's pretty personal I guess

user15026

@GnomeSlice This is not a good way to do so

two bugs

@spugsley Yeah, wow

GnomeSlice

I would probably ask somebody that without thinking, and if somebody asked me I probably wouldn't think much of it

user15026

ask me about my cute shirt or about the weather or about whatever local event we are both attending

GnomeSlice

8:25 PM

Everybody is different

two bugs

That's not cool at all.

GodEmperorDune

@AshleyNunn how are the bats in the bat hole?

GnomeSlice

Whenever I tell people I have Tourette's they get all quiet and try to avoid the subject

user15026

my marital/relationship status, my bedroom habits, my childlessness, etc? None of your busienss thank you

two bugs

It seems like a lot of people just kind of drift through conversations on auto-pilot

GnomeSlice

8:25 PM

like they don't want to offend me

It's not a big deal to me though, I'm an open book

SaintWacko

@AshleyNunn Did you get that cute shirt a this local event we are attending with excellent weather?

MadMAxJr

Hey, at least you don't spell it turrets, like every other place I see online where someone has a claim of that.

user15026

@GnomeSlice I'm one of hte most open people I know, but sometimes, you just don't say things to people

SaintWacko

It would be way more badass if he had turrets

two bugs

Isn't Tourette's also vastly different from the popular perception of just yelling swear words? I'm sure you get that a lot too

spugsley

8:26 PM

I wish I had turrets. I really really do. I want them to grow right out of my shoulders.

GnomeSlice

@twobugs Yes, and yes.

Well, it can be.

That's just the thing everybody knows about.

MadMAxJr

"This a very serious case of Maginot Line along your shoulders..."

user15026

@SaintWacko You know it

GodEmperorDune

TARGET ACQUIRED - @GnomeSlice's turrets

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two bugs

From my understanding it's just about having behavioral 'tics' that are extremely hard to control or resist

GnomeSlice

8:27 PM

omg turrets

2

@twobugs pretty much

user15026

I think it comes down to "are you actually honestly asking me, or are you using this as an excuse to judge me"

GnomeSlice

Mine have prevented me from trying to get a driver's license, but I think I might try to get it soon anyway

Yuuki

@AshleyNunn Okay, I get that going up and asking about those things is incredibly offensive because those are very personal things, but just saying those things should never be talked about is not the solution either.

GnomeSlice

They've been a lot better lately

user15026

@Yuuki When you are a total stranger? It's none of your damn business.

Yuuki

8:28 PM

It depends on how the person in question feels about it.

MadMAxJr

Wait. You don't go up to a person and push [A] to start a chat with someone and pick from the choice box?

user15026

See above re: asking vs. judging

spugsley

@Yuuki yes. But there's no way to know that. Unless I say specifically "Hey, would you like to talk about my childlessness" then you shouldn't say anything about it

user15026

most of the time people are just "asking" so they can feel better about their lives, judge you, or tell you some bullshit advice that has no basis in reality or has nothing to do with your acutal stuff

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SaintWacko

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spugsley

8:29 PM

@AshleyNunn THISTHISTHISTHISTHISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

@SaintWacko FUCKING OH MY GOD I AM SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

two bugs

@AshleyNunn Yeah, that's a better explanation

GodEmperorDune

@spugsleyWarMachine new headcanon accepted

two bugs

I've definitely encountered that personally. Sometimes in job interviews

user15026

So no, @Yuuki, I am not saying "we can't talk about this stuff" I am saying "don't be a dick about it to people you don't know"

SaintWacko

@spugsley :D

Yuuki

8:30 PM

@SaintWacko I always wondered if there was a in-universe explanation to why War Machine's arc reactor glowed red instead of blue.

spugsley

@SaintWacko where did you find this completely accurate full body portrait of me?!?!

MadMAxJr

@SaintWacko Okay that is severe turrets with aggressive Robert Downey Junior syndrome.

user15026

I will happily talk about my queer neuroatypical freak flag flying hot as fuck fat self til the cows come home, but sometimes, I just wanna buy coffee or toilet paper or whatever and not have someone say a damn thing.

SaintWacko

@spugsley Top secret. My Google-fu knows know bounds

Yuuki

4 hours ago, by Yuuki

YES, THAT IS SALT AND PEPPER (POTTS).

Unionhawk

8:31 PM

@SaintWacko You just googled "Samantha Pugsley" didn't you?

GodEmperorDune

@Yuuki -1 needs more @spugsley

user15026

And now i am going to put some real clothes on (Pusheen eating pizza shirt!) and go get the ice cream I told myself I could get once i cleaned my living room 2 hours agho

user15026

AND I EVEN HAVE COUPONS

user15026

so that's hella grownup

MadMAxJr

Lesson 1: People are terrible. Lesson 2: Try to be less terrible than the people you've met. Lesson 3: ???

spugsley

8:32 PM

@Unionhawk full disclosure - don't actually do this unless you want to see a brillion articles about how my article is terrible because "yay purity and religion"

Unionhawk

Heh

@MadMAxJr Lesson 4: PROFIT

spugsley

@AshleyNunn YUS

@AshleyNunn DOUBLE YUS

GnomeSlice

I would never be able to safely ride a motorcycle with my tourette's tics

But I can probably get a driver's license

GodEmperorDune

@spugsley hello, may I talk to you about accepting "the bridge" into your life?

spugsley

@GnomeSlice and coincidentally, also if you had turrets

Unionhawk

8:33 PM

I don't know, that would probably be more efficient

Yuuki

@spugsley To be fair, having turrets doesn't mean you can't ride safely.

Unionhawk

Just, blasting your way through traffic

Ronan Forman

Now I want to do something artsy and with turrets.

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MadMAxJr

According to The Bridge army movement chart: i.stack.imgur.com/yWWup.png Spugsley has never deployed armies, but has been the target many times. So my sympathy.

Ronan Forman

Does anyone want a H.U.G gun 3d printed?

user15026

8:33 PM

@spugsley I got the Pusheen shirt at Hot Topic yesterday along with a Kirby shirt and my friend looked at me all serious face and was like "sweetie you got the two best fat kid pride shirts in the whole place"

user15026

@RonanForman Meeeeeeeeeeeee

spugsley

@MadMAxJr O_O WHAT IS THIS

MadMAxJr

Fredley put that up earlier, it's some data metrics on stuff in chat I think.

Unionhawk

@spugsley This is 30% of the "I blame x" data that @fredley was compiling

MadMAxJr

I really, really want to see this with more data.

Ronan Forman

8:34 PM