The Awkward Silence

12:36 AM

...silence....

@apaul I was wondering how the site traffic has been doing, if you know?

DaveG

@ElizB thanks for keeping the question alive, I appreciate it. Been thinking a lot about what to do.

@DaveG i hope the edits and my answer help?

Em C

1:00 AM

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^ definitely less chatbot cleanup since no HNQ ;)

1:22 AM

@EmC Yeah, definitely.

apaul

1:42 AM

Don't have stats. Gotta ask one of our SQL heroes.

@ElizB Questions per day, seem to be doing ok, definitely fewer trash answers and comments. But that's just anecdotal observation.

Okay

@apaul mmm, yeah. I observed that as well.

apaul

It is nice not having the daily dumpster fire... just sayin.

2:13 AM

@apaul I do realize that as well. I may not have experience dealing with these but hearing about it is enough to make me understand :)

Em C

2:32 AM

@ElizB ^

I have limited excel skills but that's based off the "25k" site analytics info

Q: Appropriate behavior after accidentally touching female player's chest in co-ed sports game

2:48 AM

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Recently I was invited to a co-ed indoor soccer game where all the participants were people from my company. At the time I didn't really know any of the other players personally and most of them I'd never met before because none of them worked in my building. I was made to believe ahead of time t...

@EmC thank you!

3:05 AM

@scohe001 @ash and whoever else is curious, the video of the alarm clock working is incoming! :D

user15026

Yay!

I'm so proud of him and his work. Doing both hardware and software is pretty impressive :)

Raspy Alarm demonstration

►

Yay! :D

user15026

@El'endiaStarman That is excellent!

3:14 AM

Still need to do: better user interface for editing alarm times. Right now, I literally just manually edit a file and upload to the Pi.

Oh, and get an LCD display working.

4:18 AM

@El'endiaStarman SPI or something less exotic?

@JourneymanGeek Uh, not sure? This is what I got: amazon.com/gp/product/B07D83DY17/…

4:39 AM

ah

I THINK that's over SPI

but ya, I consider that exotic XD

ahh maybe using GPIO

@JourneymanGeek Oh, yeah, that I recognize! I'm using a Python library named gpiozero for interfacing with the relays and the buttons. Trying a different library for the LCD display since it's quite a bit more complex and so far, all I've got are blocks. I plan on swapping out the display for the other one in the pair and see if it's any better with that one.

If not, then I've got a lot more debugging to do.

ah

I have a car reverse monitor for that sorta thing ;p

its more for well, video, but its pretty darned flexible

I'd poke around adafruit industries

Q: How we convince our parents that we are not ready for getting marriage yet....?

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if anybody who's happy without marriage that why everybody want to convince for marriage .they spend there life with her own way and stay more happy.and if marriage is necessary then she have a option to spend her life with understandable person.

relationships

they probably sell a very similar display, and their documentation is supposedly top notch

But but but... money.

I think I did consider one or two Adafruit products when researching LCD displays on Amazon.

4:51 AM

no no

if they have a simiar product, their libraries are FOSS and very good ;)

and might be mostly the same

Well, I've made my purchase, so I'm going to stick with it as long as I can. :)

Ahh... I am not being very clear ;p

they might sell the same thing - or something similar enough that their docs abd libraries work with what you have

Oh, you're saying use Adafruit's libraries?

That might work! I'll research it. Thanks for the tip!

5:13 AM

yaaaaaa

their documentation is good enough that you can probably figure out if its using the same chip

5:28 AM

Good morning everyone :)

6:09 AM

Shame on me :x

@dhein Good morning :)

@dhein ?

@EmC Nice charts! But it's a bit weird to see that we still have the same number of new visite

Shame on me for triggering the comment bot :P

Haha, yeah ^^ Why are you asking that to Peufeu by the way?

@dhein PS: You do realize that your comment might be deleted before Peufeu sees it, right?

Yeah, I know. I would even del it my self as soon I got response. To the why I am buisy right now. responding later

Also, I don't know if it helps you but, from Peufeu profil it is shown that Peufeu was last seen "5 hours ago"

eyeballs-plz | phrasing request | interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/1894/21067

Q: Gently turning down undesired physical contact/setting boundaries in a nightclub environment

6:48 AM

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In many ways this question mirrors Asking a girl whether she would like to dance with me The setting: I am alone in a nightclub. I am located in a city/region known for being culturally progressive and sex positive. Loud electronic music (generally house, or other electronic music) is a constant...

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7:21 AM

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7:57 AM

Good morning

@Noon:I want to award him a bounty, because like 1 year ago, he gave me an advice (I at least think it was him, sadly can't find that note he made anymore... must have been in a chat room. is there a way to find all chat rooms I was once in, even if they are frozen?!) and that advice helped me me a lot in professional and personal life. And I would prefer awarding that bounty, when he will at least take notice of it >.<

I asked building management if we could have a slide in the office, but they said slides aren't safe. So I said Google has a slide. Response: "Go work at Google then." I think I'm starting to convince them.

@dhein From Peufeu profil, they are still more or less active here (last seen 6 hours ago) but they didn't answer a question since 18th September, so...

Good lorde, time zomes are complicated

@avazula Bring in daylight saving time!

8:08 AM

So the HNQ discussion on meta.se has been unfeatured and is now invisible unless you know the link since it's downvoted off the front page even if active

I had a call with a Russian guy this morning that was supposed at 8AM CEST time, he called me at 6. Now I have another called scheduled at 9AM CEST time and I was confused and thought it'd be at 9AM GMT!

@Magisch :(

@avazula Fun fact. Daylight saving time in France ends on the last Sunday of October (so last Sunday). Daylight saving time in Australia begins on the first Sunday of October (so 3 weeks ago).

So Melbourne is sometimes 8 hours ahead of us, sometimes 9 and sometimes 10

@Belle-Sophie Wow. I had no idea about that. That's weird!

@Noon: Well the chat I am talking about must have taken place somewhere between september and october (maybe even early november) of 2017

@dhein I'm not sure there are easy ways to find frozen rooms ...

8:17 AM

yeh, thought so. What uneasy ways are there? '^.^

@dhein It depends. Do you know whether such room would have been associated with the IPS site?

@dhein From your profile, here are all the rooms you once created

@avazula Frozen exactly one year ago :P

peufeu seems to never have created any other room than one for discussing electronics

@Tinkeringbell: The problem is, the chat you hopped in isnt containing him saying that. So it must have been another chat rather than the "discussing Narcism" one. Also either it wasn't him giving me that advice and I am honoring him for a year as result of a confusion (I doubt that) or there must be another room him and me had been in. ( I remember that at that time I had a handfull of chats I discussed that topic in )

@dhein Oh... ah well, I'm sure you can explain in there (left him a superping) ;)

8:25 AM

@Tinkeringbell What's a "superping"?

@Noon A way for mods to ping people that aren't 'pingable' in a room

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A: What is a 'superping'?

Superpings are a chatroom feature only available to diamond moderators, where they can reach a user irrespective of past interaction. Compare that to a normal ping, where you can @name someone in comments or in a chatroom only if they have been active on a post or in that chatroom. Superpings h...

some kind of inter-chatroom pings for mods

doesn't work for us common humans

@Cashbee Also a way for us to drag people into chat that never have been there ( don't have a chat account) :P

@Tinkeringbell wait, you can superping non-mods?

@Cashbee Yes :)

8:28 AM

ooooooooOOOOOH

@Tinkeringbell Oh okay, less fun than what I thought :P

@Tinkeringbell: Feels a bit like drawing a lot of attention on it '^.^ But thanks tho, definetly should fit its purpose xD By the way, got my first payroll after having finished my first month at SAP its great here. Was such a good idea following peufeus advice :)

@dhein Oh. I'm sorry. I thought it would be the best way to get their attention (instead of a comment ;) ). Didn't want you to feel uncomfortable!

@Tinkeringbell: It is ok. uncomfortable isn't the right word. Just feels a bit over the top. But I didn't ask you for it, so I am fine and thankful with it ;P

@dhein Oh, you work at SAP? BOOOOO. Just kidding :) (they're a competitor of the company I work for.) Glad you like it.

8:39 AM

hehe thanks. Yeh, they do great work supporting employees being on the spectrum. Feels like this might be the employer I finally found to be able to stay with :)

and for that reason I am wishing y'all a nice day. I need to continue my work now '^.^

@dhein Good luck!

Q: How can I defuse a violent argument between two people?

9:17 AM

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TL;DR How can I calm the situation when my mother and sister are violently arguing without the situation backfiring at me? Background The other day, my mother and my little sister (17 years) were arguing (my sister didn't wanted to do what my mother wanted her to do because of X) and the situa...

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Would you guys be interested in seeing the last drawing I made? (Sorry @Tink, it's not your portrait yet. I need to work on it :) )

hello

@Termatinator Hey there :)

@avazula I finally got some rest now, just did some exams

@Termatinator Oh! How did it go?

9:23 AM

don't know, I'll hear the results in a few weeks

ok :)

@avazula it's still inktober so yes we want to see it :)

@Cashbee Last day of Inktober! :o

Time flies ...

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It's far from being perfect but I had a really nice time drawing it (I love red :D)

Very nice! How Much?

I really like your style

with the different thiknesses of lines

@Cashbee How much what? Time?

9:27 AM

@avazula Money. it's a borat joke

@Cashbee Hahaha

@Cashbee I started doing this after visiting the Mucha museum in Praha. I really like the difference in lines thickness

I did another one recently with the same thickness game, it was more of a programmer joke

I also love the feelings your painting invokes

its very relatable

@Cashbee The idea came to it when listening to "Hold the line", the Toto song

Ugh, I can't find the code 418 drawing in the chat history :'(

@avazula ooh teapot :)

@avazula Hahaha :P I will wait patiently. Don't feel rushed, or pressured into doing anything you don't like doing ;) I have the same with crocheting, I don't like having to make stuff I don't like making :P

9:36 AM

@Tinkeringbell :) I just had a few complicated days where I didn't feel like drawing a very precise thing, because I know I'd have been so frustrated if it didn't look like what I expected in the end

@avazula Oh, I get that feeling. I still have to finish some ends on a blanket I made... and I kinda don't like how it turned out :(

Really hard to get the will to finish it ;)

@Tinkeringbell Oh no :( That feeling is the worst!

@avazula That one is looking great too :)

@Tinkeringbell Thanks :) It took me a long time drawing it but I'm quite happy with it!

it's not a teapot :(

is it finished, or a work in progress?

9:38 AM

@Cashbee Here's one:

you're hired

@Cashbee The sketching in itself is done (there's a filter here though because I wanted to hide all the white painting I used to correct bad lines :p). I'm currently coloring it with Photoshop

@Cashbee I love that meme haha

cool. I hoped it wouldn't be finished, as I would thereby have insulted your painting

@Cashbee Why? è_é it lacks of teapots?

@avazula by asking wheter or not it is finished yet

9:41 AM

@Cashbee Ah yes haha

Don't worry, I'm used to your rudeness ;_;

ಥ_ಥ

I'm kidding, you're the nicest banker bee I know

(づ｡◕‿‿◕｡)づ

hm I must not form a habit of using too many of these smileys

@avazula also the only one?

9:57 AM

@Cashbee Again?

I have never posted it before

it was magisch

@Cashbee Nope, but @Magisch did at least twice ^^

but yes, again :)

:p

"sei unser Star"

it seems I was wrong, what's the saying again? I stand corrected?

9:59 AM

@Termatinator yes thats it

@Cashbee ok, thx

@avazula unbeelievable

have to say though, it's a beeautiful image

what's the best way to send images from c# over to php every few miliseconds?

@Termatinator Ugh, C#. Sorry, but I pass

I wouldn't bee of any help anyway :)

@Termatinator ctrl-c, ctrl-v

10:12 AM

@Cashbee I meant via code, and I am not that fast that I can do that in a few miliseconds

@Termatinator then you need practice. Sry I don't do C#

@Cashbee oh ok, thx anyway

Q: Can't find replacement to roommate who got kicked out (that I never met) and now they want me to cover his portion of rent

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Last month I moved into a shared house. There are 6 people living here. The primary lease holder told me he had told another tenant to move out because he was always late on the rent. I never met this tenant or had a say in him moving out. Now it’s close to next month and we still don’t have a re...

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@ExtrovertedMainMan off-topic what should I do

@avazula explaining why it's off topic and pointing where it is on topic?

10:21 AM

@Termatinator I'm currently writing a comment, indeed

@avazula Nice drawing!

@Noon Thank you :)

Are we being rude @Cashbee?

I don't understand why they're annoyed

10:37 AM

@avazula not intentionally

@Cashbee Doesn't sound comforting to me ^^

did you mean my comment on Q

@Cashbee yup

no not rude at all imo. just wanting to understand the question

is it rude?

@Cashbee Don't think so. It's just that they seem annoyed so I was wondering whether we were too harsh on them but I don't think so :/

DaveG

10:40 AM

@ElizB Hey just read your answer, it does give me some good food for thought. I realize my situation isn't really the same, but I can work off what you've suggested.

@avazula @Cashbee I think you are overthinking here. Your comments are both fine (IMO) and, if they are annoyed (which we don't know), that absolutely not on you (IMO again)

@avazula I havent picked up any sign of annoyance. if you mean their reply to you, that is not being annoyed

just inexperience in this stack

> @avazula that just using different words but ok

It may be my trouble at spotting emotions but it sounds like annoyance to me

to me it is acceptance of a fact they didnt know

@avazula It might be a sign of annoyance or it might be what Casbee said, without the voice I don't think we can know

10:44 AM

if it is annoyance, they hid it well

Oh okay, my bad then.

does anyone know how to make an infinite loop that runs side-by-side with the rest of the code in php

@avazula no C# this time

@Termatinator You can do some multi-threading and run a while(true) for one of the threads

@Noon so multiple files you mean?

@Termatinator Also, remember we have a nice programming-dedicated room to disucss such issues :)

10:53 AM

@Termatinator No, multi-thread. Here to learn more about it for php

(but if you don't know multi-threads yet, you should start by learning about it before trying to implement it for php)

@Noon "Don't try multithreading ... or multithreading will try you"

MT is both my dearest and worst love

Like a very difficult, wasted friend that you love despite of the fact that they're unbelievable

@Noon it's actually for a project on school, I have to complete it so that I can finish college

@Termatinator what's the language?

Hi again

php

10:55 AM

As is, it really sounds like you need multithreading

@avazula Ahah, I also love multithreading but yes, it can be a bit... challenging XD

@Belle-Sophie hello

@Belle-Sophie Hey!

@Belle-Sophie Hi!

My threading philosophy: I know enough about threading to know I know nothing about threading.

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10:56 AM

@Termatinator are you absolutely 100% sure what you try to achieve does not work without a side-by-side loop?

@Noon ^^ what's your core specialty? I shall say, I ate a lot of multithreading as I graduated as an embedded systems engineer

@Belle-Sophie this

@Cashbee yes

@avazula I don't really have a specialty but it was called "Ingénieurie des Systémes d'Information". It means nothing and everything at the same time

Philbo

Hi guys, sorry if this is something we're not allowed to talk about here, but I've just noticed the HNQ removal in meta (I had wondered where IPS had gone!). What did we do wrong? Something about twitter?

@Philbo You can read this and that

Philbo

11:06 AM

@Noon thanks. Didn't see the second one

-184, wow

Does anyone here have enough rep on meta to see the actual amount of downvotes?

@Philbo In short, we did nothing wrong but HNQ is not great and can show inappropriate topic for work

@Belle-Sophie +130/-314

haha

@AJ -314, that HUGE!

11:08 AM

yep it is

By the way, I thought you should have the same amount of rep on meta as on your highest network site?

@Belle-Sophie No, the rep on the meta meta is independent :/

@Belle-Sophie Nope. Meta Stack Exchange is quite different from other site's meta sites.

@Belle-Sophie on site metas you have the same rep as on the respective main site.

You gotta earn the rep there.

11:11 AM

Interesting

@Noon Agreed ^^ but you're quite polyvalent then :)

Oh, I started a course in photography :D I decided I'm not going to stop being a software engineer because some people are rude to me. Instead, I'm going to do the two things I like doing. It's not a degree, just a course. And in a few months, I'm applying to a degree in Computer Science. :)

11:27 AM

@avazula Did you draw this?

@Belle-Sophie nice, it's always good to follow the path that you try to set for yourself, I wish you good luck

@Belle-Sophie That's so cool! I'm happy for you! :)

@AJ yup

I'm writing the first draft of my application at the moment. I'm hoping to get into Goldsmiths. Applications open in January, but my English certificate doesn't seem to count and I need to get a new one, which doesn't seem possible in time. That means I'll have to postpone my application half a year, but I stopped worrying about half a year :)

@avazula NICE!

@avazula You're such a talented artist :D

11:30 AM

@avazula "time flies" would be an fitting name for the drawing ;D

@Belle-Sophie I hope you'll get it soon :)

@dhein Eeh, I didn't think about it that way, but you're right :)

I drew this because I have a friend who's hurt so much by his divorce (he left his wife because she has mental health issues she doesn't want to get help for and she's become a real danger for him and their children). It feels like he's not over it yet and that he's still going through so much pain because of it. I feel his pain and I hardly bear it so I drew it to "evacuate". It was some kind of reminder that love isn't always on time.

I haven't showed him though. I'm way too afraid of his reaction.

@avazula Why do Java developer wear glasses?

@dhein OMG BECAUSE THEY CAN'T C#

audible groan

@Magisch It's the joke that bothers you? :p

11:38 AM

@avazula: I am sorry for you. not due to not Cing# but you know...

@dhein huh?

@avazula XD

Fixing a bug in production be like

Me, every time I do some CSS (but, thanks me, I won't have to do CSS again)

12:05 PM

@Noon So relateable! I do Wordpress as a side gig.

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@Noon @avazula This topic came up at lunch that I have no answer to. Are venus flytraps vegetarian?

@Belle-Sophie Idk what this is, let me search first :)

@Belle-Sophie you mean eating venus fly traps?

@Magisch Yes

12:14 PM

I would say so :) Plants regularly use nutrients from dead animals :P

Uh... Depends on how you reason

I would say that depends on the person eating

Every plant has a bit of dead animal nutrients in it

Most plants don't actively kill animals, though

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12:15 PM

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@Belle-Sophie To me the response is yes unless you are giving them the flyes (but it would still be vegetarian, just not vegan)

But why would you eat a venus fly trap? Is that even safe? Or will it cause stomach aches/worse?

@Tinkeringbell It was a hypothetical

@Tinkeringbell tonsil removal

It's being used as a natural remedy in ground up form, so I guess it isn't toxic

non nutritious at worst

12:18 PM

@Belle-Sophie Ah. I don't like hypothetically eating unsafe stuff either :P

@Magisch Really? What is it supposed to cure, lack of appetite?

That crazy disease ticks carry, that makes you allergic to red meat?

@Tinkeringbell It's being marketed as a cure for cancer and crohn's disease, but there's no research on it besides some showing it to be ineffectual

@Belle-Sophie Sometimes, bees are trapped into a fig (on a fig tree) and died inside. The tree then uses the nutriment who comes from the dead bees. Figs are considered vegan. I think the main difference is "does this animal died by itself or did a human act on them so they would die?"

@Noon It's actually wasps, and it is mandatory for figs to form, otherwise we'd have no fruits :)

@Noon Oh, I heard that figs are actually not vegan. But apparently all plants that require bees to polinate are not vegan either according to some people. And yeah, wasps.

what is this

wasps being good for something?

12:21 PM

@Belle-Sophie That's just asinine

@JAD yup :)

@avazula Oh, sorry for the misinformation!

What about plants pollinated primarily by other vectors?

@JAD OMG, you're right! I didn't know that wasp could be useful!

What about plants that procreate by being eaten by animals? Every wild strawberry plant's seed came from some creature's digestive tract, for instance.

12:22 PM

@JAD I hate wasps! bees ftw

@Noon oh no, I was just saying because there's only a few fruits that do not get pollinated by bees :)

Yeah :\ I think it's not as black and white as some people make it seem.

@avazula Anyway, I'm happy to learn new information :)

What's even the basis of that? Any fruit that encapsulates animals into its reproductive cycle isn't vegan?

@Magisch now you're trying to apply logic to people's life choices and philosophies. I'm not sure if that will help with your sanity

12:24 PM

Bees don't pollinate for free either, the plant has to provide nectar for the bees to thrive off of

@JAD you're probably right

Like there's some standard you have to hold to. All or nothing. For example, flexitarians get so much flack.

@Belle-Sophie only a Sith deals in absolutes

@JAD and vodka lovers

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@Magisch I think it depends on the reason you are vegan. For me, it's about unnecessary pain and death. So, if nothing suffer (or die) in the process, it's vegan IMO

@Cashbee ><

@Cashbee Almost as bad as the C# pun. Almost.

12:28 PM

@Belle-Sophie I'm trying, ok?

@Belle-Sophie Oh no, I think it's worst :P

@Belle-Sophie honestly, I think that all or nothing mentality is hurting the cause. I can expect a lot of people being willing to eat less meat, but not stop eating meat completely. If that proposal is met with "that's not good enough, you still suck", that might trigger the reaction "well, nevermind then".

@JAD I agree. I'm a light 'vegetarian'. I eat fish once a week and don't research whether my wine and cheese are 100% vegetarian or not. I don't buy the obvious meat. But I've got quite a few comments like "you're not a real vegetarian if you eat fish!" and "you gotta research your wine if you want to be a vegetarian".

This situation seems similar as the labelling of sexualities. vegetarian is just a label we use, but there are soo many variations that you can't say I'm not a vegetarian because I still eat fish

@avazula: Huh? Why did you huh me?

12:37 PM

@dhein I just didn't understand your last message :)

@Cashbee: So am I a vegetarian too? I don't eat fish '^^

@JAD I feel that too. I used to live vegan, and found it uncomfortable and not tenable for myself long term. I still eat a lot less meat then I used to

So ... mission partially accomplished?

@avazula: I am sorry for the reasons you had to vent with the picture. and since the las message we exchanged was the joke, I added, I am not sorry cause you can't C# but for the other thing

@dhein Haaaaa it's clearer now haha

@Magisch I'm actually the other way around. My dad is vegetarian, so when I was young, we used to not eat meat. Now I live on my own I'm slowly learning to eat/appreciate more meat

12:39 PM

So now u C# xD

@dhein If you want to be :) It's just a label

Awesome. I'll keep that one in mind xD

@Cashbee. Yeah. It's like bi people in a 'straight' relationship somehow can't be part of the lgbtq+ community.

@Belle-Sophie exactly

I get the feeling that most of the comments come from non-vegetarians, though.

I've never eaten a type of nuts due to an allergy. Never a single rude comment when I asked if that nut was in the ingredients. Now when I ask about meat, queue the rude responses, sighs from servers, etc.

Okay, never is an exaggeration. Some people believe allergies are fake.

12:43 PM

@Belle-Sophie I think that's because nuts can kill you, meat won't ;)

@Belle-Sophie rant time

A friend's grandmother was a nasty person and didn't believe in allergies

@Tinkeringbell True. I'm 'lucky', though. I 'just' get rashes ;)

when my friend was very little, she would deliberately defy his mother's instructions to not feed him peanut butter

I've had... trouble with that too, living in a house with vegan/vegetarian people. I really didn't like the way they used different utensils for everything, and got mad when e.g. I made meat and the oil/butter spattered into the pan of boiling potatoes :/

tl;dr anaphylactic shock, minor brain damage

friend still hates his grandma's guts

12:47 PM

@Magisch That's awful! My grandmother did something similar to my brother, not as bad though. He was allergic to strawberries. He looked like he had chicken-pox for a few weeks. He still has a few scars.

so now I'm at the point where my crush likes my advice, am I going the right way with her?

I do believe that should count as attempted murder

just had a chat with her

if you deliberately feed someone allergens when you know they have a deadly allergy

Murder implies knowingly doing something that you know will kill them. Given that she doesn't believe in allergies, it is debatable whether it was knowingly. Stupid, but wouldn't surprise me

Attempted manslaughter on the other hand

12:49 PM

@Tinkeringbell Yeah, that's very annoying and nonsense in my opinion too. It doesn't matter what was cooked in the pan before. That's just making it needlessly complicated.

@Tinkeringbell ugh, the people I lived with in Leiden didn't believe in storing away the dishes after doing them. Just left them in the leaking rack. Only to then get mad when I put them again on the stack with dirty dishes on the other side of the sink

If they were in the kitchen unattended for that long, surely you don't think they're clean anymore. Might as well clean them again

(the kitchen was far from clean)

@JAD My husband does that with dirty and clean clothes! So frustrating. I just make him do laundry again.

@Belle-Sophie I do that. I don't have a clothing storage, all my clothes are either on the drying rack or on the dirty clothes pile

yeah, but are there other people that might want to use the drying rack?

if not, that's fine. If so, that's more or less the situation I was in

@Magisch I hope you don't put the clean clothes on top of the dirty clothes pile? Or I'd make you do laundry again too :)

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@JAD Bah. That sounds disgusting... I'm having some of the same arguments with my mom right now, we got a dishwasher quite recently (6 months now?) ... and she wants me to put away e.g. a glass I used in it, but also wants me to reuse it. I don't like that. I'm willing to just rinse the glass and put it on the drying rack, but it feels dirty when I take it out of the dishwasher...

My sister just puts all the dirty clothes on a pile, once a week she brings it to the washing machine, so once a week we have a load of dirty clothes and the rest of the days less (we wash regularly)

@Tinkeringbell Eew. Everything that does into the dishwasher stays in there until it's ran. The thing doesn't care if you put 2 or 4 glasses in it! I just grab a clean glass.

@Tinkeringbell True. True. :P

@Belle-Sophie Heh. With 5 people in a single house, we run out of glasses too soon for that ;)