That you for the thoughtful response. — MindDr810 18 secs ago

Your husband has been unemployed for several years?? Why do you tolerate this. If the kids are in daycare, he should be able to get a job. — user1751825 13 secs ago

@apaul as I mentioned, because I am emotionally involved, it makes it difficult to see the situation clearly. Doctors do not operate on their family members. And even though I am a counselor, it doesn't mean I have all the answers, and I am very open to hear different people's persepectives. That makes me a better counselor and helps me to see areas in my personal life differently. — MindDr810 13 secs ago

@LinuxBlanket, I have talked with her earlier this year about certain behaviors that I feel have hurt the friendship. I have told her I worry about her drinking and driving, and her health, However, I have not specifically done what you asked. I will have to think about why that is. Thank you for asking. — MindDr810 12 secs ago

I don't think there is anyone in the world that knows how to handle this situation. Don't beat yourself up too hard. — Carl 1 min ago

Moz, how old are you? I would expect that if you are abone 65 years old, some people are just assuming that you are a bit senile. — Mandrill 1 min ago

Thank you, I'll take a look at that, but I'm not certain that therapy would help - it might just turn something which she doesn't see as too scary into a really terrifying thing (that's something that her parents often do which just makes various academic things worse). But other than that, they sound like great ideas, thanks!!! And especially thanks for the link! — DaveThePerson 51 secs ago

Not a duplicate, yet related to your situation. In that question OP wants to convince their girlfriend that she's gorgeous regardless of her weight. You might find some answers there as well. — avazula 1 min ago

This doesn't completely answer the question in my opinion. The OP's question isn't only about how to make it not awkward but more importantly how to make it happen at all. Since he failed to get with her to the bedroom entirely. — Ivo Beckers 1 min ago

Thank you very much for your reply. I'll try out your suggestions. Thank you for your help! — DaveThePerson 47 secs ago

It definitely seems like a mismatch of something is happening based on your comment above, but I can't tell which. — YetAnotherRandomUser 35 secs ago

Some more context would make this more relevant. Are you a fresh out of school intern? Have you tripped over simple things like this before? What region are you in? Is there a language or culture barrier of some kind? Do you come from a substantially different region/background/ethnicity/something than the other people? I can't tell if your people are being overly friendly as a norm, or if they are being condescending because you've developed a reputation for not knowing anything, or something else is afoot. — YetAnotherRandomUser 44 secs ago

@Darkwing That "avoidance strategy" tackled the obvious problem very successfully. — gnasher729 21 secs ago

@scohe001 what's all this new fangled coffee business? "So, would you like to come up and see my etchings?" — mcalex 1 min ago

You are free to expect what you want. You may be wrong, or right - as you are predicting a future event. If sex is what you expect, then you will act to facilitate that outcome. The actions are what you must pay attention to. You don't necessarily have to feel bad about the expectation. — VISQL 1 min ago

"He thinks my job is just 'free time' as I often could send him a short message and tell him about my day, and he does the 'real work' - as our toddler is very demanding." :: Wow! I think this would be the same argument if the roles were reversed. Sorry. Just amazing to read. — VISQL 1 min ago

@Tinkeringbell Thanks for your feedback! I've updated my answer to try and incorporate more of my personal experience and further elaborate on the reasoning behind my answer. — nmg49 36 secs ago

This title is awesome. The answer is, of course, frequently and with high interest forever. — YetAnotherRandomUser 28 secs ago

On the flip side, you could ask what they are getting. I can never decide what to eat, so it gives me a starting point and a price point to compare to. One time a friend was treating me, and I wound up getting the same thing as them. It was easy to pick because it was something I liked, and I knew i wasn't overstepping any boundaries, even if they didn't have any. — YetAnotherRandomUser 2 mins ago

@IvoBeckers OP is looking for a non-awkward method, while this answer indicates there is none. The first step of fixing a problem is identifying the problem. — Mast 24 secs ago

The trope mentioned may well be the Hot Coffee Minigame. TVtropes link (you have been warned). — Mast 33 secs ago

what is an SO? I guess it's not a "Stack Overflow"... — Surb 1 min ago

I got that, indeed. However, even though I agree with you, I think it's important to remind people that even if you expect something sexually related and thefore will act in order to provoke what you want to happen, you should push if you see that the other doesn't want to do it (anymore). — avazula 1 min ago

@Surb: SO = "significant other". — V2Blast 1 min ago

@V2Blast Of course :), thanks — Surb 52 secs ago

Do you mean "sarcastic" instead of "ironic"? I'm unable to see what irony is possible here. — GoodDeeds 1 min ago

Sources please? — gparyani 18 secs ago

Is he able to do things on his own still, or does he require a caregiver to be around all the time (and if so is that her)? Also, ouch -- I've seen a few couples in my congregation go through this and it's awful. — Monica Cellio 1 min ago

Welcome to IPS! Please take a minute to read through How to Answer and How do I write a good answer?. Answers here are required to teach some interpersonal skill, as well as explanation of why you’re suggesting this course of action. How does OP have that conversation? What about the fact that the girlfriend already runs regularly? — Em C ♦ 29 secs ago

Can you explain why you're suggesting those examples in the last paragraph? I'd especially be interested in sources on recovering from abuse or body image disorders that recommend such a technique, if possible. — Em C ♦ 11 secs ago

You could try getting a girlfriend. Then you could tell them you have one, and it would be true. — Nacht 37 secs ago

Can you explain why you're suggesting those examples in the last paragraph? I'd especially be interested in sources on recovering from abuse or body image disorders that recommend such a technique. — Em C ♦ 1 hour ago