Perhaps I'm being overly cautious, but it feels like this answer needs more backup/evidencing based on your experience. In particular, the first point - to manipulate them - is a behaviour that puts up big red flags for me, and seriously reduces my opinion of the person doing it. That doesn't mean it can't be the correct answer, but I feel it needs at least some warning of how it could potentially be perceived badly. — Bilkokuya 17 secs ago

I agree with @Tinkeringbell’s closing point. Why make things awkward by forcing yourself into conversation with someone you’ve no interest in and who after all this time hasn’t appeared to show interest in you? — Matthew E Cornish 31 secs ago

“Given the context, I would guess that he was "performing", or essentially playing a role for comedic effect.” Utterly tone deaf projection. Incorrect on many levels. This person was not performing, but was 100% aggressive. — JakeGould 6 secs ago

Great answer! Selected. — JakeGould 45 secs ago

@AlexA I would never ever ask my mother or sister something like this. Even if my wife would ask me I would tell her to get her own. Which is fine, because that is normal where I come from. Cultures differ a lot, in my experience especially on food and sharing! — Mixxiphoid 2 mins ago

It almost sounds like he suffers from some mental disorder. Are you sure he is mentally stable at all? — Nat 2 mins ago

Just to be sure, Alice isn't part of your family, you are in bad term with her but you still want to be friend with her, that's why you wish that she would invite you. Did I understood right? — Noon 1 min ago

First of all you should clarify why you are blamed for things you haven't done. Can you simply call her and say you heard about "something" and want to see if she is ok? (probably not - but why?) The description sounds like you better have no contact so can you explain to yourself what the desired result is. — puck 21 secs ago

@MonicaCellio Yes, you're right. I didn't intend to criticise your answer, but merely add that it is somewhat unintuitive - at least for me. — ArtificialSoul 34 secs ago

Can you please add a country tag? They might be cultural differences here. — Noon 35 secs ago

Also, she is a distant family. — Sara 2 mins ago

Can you please add a country tag? They might be cultural differences here. — Noon 1 min ago

The biology is pretty simple like cascabel shows. A woman is going to have children, so their interest is WHO they are going to have them with. Men are not guaranteed to have children so they put on a display to try and earn that privilege with a woman. As for why not putting in effort (which is what not paying for dinner essentially amounts to) might be considered rude. It is (1) defying expectations, (2) telling the woman you don't value her enough to put in effort. Why this might be considered impolite should be self explanatory. They can of course just no choose you. — Tyler S. Loeper 2 mins ago

@ArtificialSoul “I would want to avoid this person for the rest of my life.” And the subtext from this thing is not also something like that, but also the next time I would meet him I would be blunt and say, “Maybe I didn’t meet you but you are really acting hostile and I do not want to deal with this. So I need to make this clear to you.” Anything past this other than a basic agreement will allow me to say, “Look, a-hole! Back off or get out.” I have no desire to escalate a situation like this but assuming someone is not getting the message, clarity needs to be provided. — JakeGould 1 min ago

Really? Because, in past, me and my friends used to share each other our foods and drinks, and nothing happened, it was all normal and even in present we do the same thing. Maybe is she a jerk? — Alex A 9 secs ago

Hi, this sound like a good answer to me, I just have one question though: Where you in a similar situation before where you successfully used this technic? In here it's better to back-up your answer with personal experience (here is a guide to How to write a good answer if you need it) — Noon 41 secs ago

He is unhappy with the pay of his profession and his solution is to upgrade his living situation using borrowed money? How bewildering. — Jamie Clinton 2 mins ago

@AlexA Yes, everyone CAN. But whether it's okay to ask, and how to ask, is a totally different matter. Everyone can hug somebody, but trying to hug random strangers will probably lead to them talking about it as well, possibly to a police officer, and maybe in a shouting-for-help way. The social context, the relationship etc is very important. — janh 1 min ago

From your description it sounds like Bob is a courier (whatever his job title might be). In the UK, couriers get paid per delivery, not per hour. If your small talk makes the 10-second checking procedure take 20 seconds, you are delaying Bob's finish time for his days work by 10 seconds. If 100 people do that in the course of the day, Bob gets to go home 15 minutes later than he might have done. So … don't make small talk, beyond the basics of "hello" and "goodbye", "please" and "thank you!" — alephzero 2 mins ago