just to conform to societal norms - yet you choose to be part of "society" . If you really don't want to be constrained by societal norms , why not live on a desert island, or walk around naked, or cover yourself from head to foot with a burlap bag? Clearly you don't have a problem with societal norms when it behooves you. I hate shaving too.... — Vector 1 min ago
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#12663 Vector (143 rep) | Q: How do I deal with people trying to convince me to wear makeup? (score: 104) | posted 29 hours ago by Stacey (6448 rep) | edited 13 hours ago by Catija (10718 rep)
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Honestly, I had the same hesitation when I posted my answer... My first inclination was that this really should be answered by a woman. +1 — apaul 2 mins ago
#12763 apaul (31682 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: 1) | posted 7 minutes ago by Jane S (1136 rep)
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#12763 apaul (31690 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: 1) | posted 24 minutes ago by Jane S (1144 rep)
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#8212 peufeu (10546 rep) | Q: How do I rebut my Dad's political Facebook posts that are factually untrue and offensive, without destroying a fragile relationship? (score: 6) | posted 108 days ago by rbsdca (366 rep) | edited 107 days ago by rbsdca (366 rep)
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As a fellow guy I mostly agree with this answer. Most women are intelligent and know how to dress appropriately or adjust if necessary. So there is no need to apologize (THAT would be creepy: "Oh btw. sorry for being human and staring; please say something to make me feel better about myself"). The advice on "it's your problem" is plenty rude though. (I will try to explain in another comment because I'm out of characters :D ) — FirefoxMetzger 1 min ago
#12763 FirefoxMetzger (101 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: 22) | posted 3 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep)
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I totally agree with establishing transparency. However, sometimes I feel asking for a date using the word 'date' implies some from of prior commitment from the women and can be a red flag. Saying "yes" means you are officially dating and have no excuse. "Lets do something to see if we can have a deeper connection then just friends" sets a similar tone, but gives her more maneuverability. — FirefoxMetzger 50 secs ago
#4299 FirefoxMetzger (101 rep) | A: How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date? (score: 91) | posted 195 days ago by Tinkeringbell (17234 rep) | edited 195 days ago by Tinkeringbell (17234 rep)
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I think linking food and death isn't such a bad idea: the cat is indeed likely to die because of the overfeeding. However, I agree with @AllTheKingsHorses on the fact that your solution doesn't prevent the neighbour from giving extra food to the cat. — avazula 44 secs ago
#12770 avazula (2969 rep) | A: How can I ask my neighbour to stop feeding my cat in a way that will be effective (I've already asked twice)? (score: -2) | posted 45 minutes ago by Cats are people too (1 rep)
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"The objective problem here" - I would heavily disagree that her choice of clothes is objectively the problem here. That final remark also adds nothing useful here, and if OP took it seriously would likely be labelled as a creep and put the player off playing in future. The OP made it clear they want to run a fun event for everybody - not try to (inappropriately and badly) flirt with the player. — Bilkokuya 1 min ago
#12765 Bilkokuya (1177 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: -1) | posted 2 hours ago by ivan_pozdeev (123 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by ivan_pozdeev (123 rep)
#12763 Bilkokuya (1177 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: 45) | posted 5 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep)
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While I think this is the best answer, I also disagree with the sentence
the onus is on you, which is fine because it seems that you (@Jane S) disagree with it too, or otherwise contradict it, since you suggest that the woman in the OP's equation also has some onus to control her behaviour (you say that she should express at least some tolerance to the eye-wandering, given that most women "are used to it"). The fact that most women (in the West) should have some level of tolerance toward eye-wandering when wearing sexually provocative attire lines up for me. — Ghoti and Chips 34 secs ago
#12763 Ghoti and Chips (101 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: 52) | posted 6 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep)
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This answer is very 2018 politically correct, but there is a lot logically wrong with it. The qualifier "is blatantly inappropriate for wearing on out in public" - ask n different people and you will get n+1 different opinions about that. Also the onus is on you to control your behaviour, not hers - OP already seriously tried to avoid staring but didn't manage. If communicating is forbidden, the only realistic course of action left for him would indeed be to exclude her from the group. In a way, OP is asking "how to avoid being creepy" and this answer is "don't be creepy". — R. Schmitz 1 min ago
#12763 R. Schmitz (101 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: 65) | posted 7 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep) | edited 6 hours ago by Jane S (1326 rep)
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I don't disagree that this isn't the best solution - just providing some context for there being more types of ring than a wedding or engagement ring that may be worn on the left ring finger and convey a sense of "off the market." — dwizum 57 secs ago
#12719 dwizum (101 rep) | A: How do I tell someone I recently met that I am in a relationship? (score: 0) | posted 18 hours ago by drewbenn (109 rep)
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@WendyG I totally agree with you, that's the kind of liberation and progress one would want, that's why you don't see me trying to justify the man's behaviour or encouraging him to exclude her. Instead, you see me praising that the woman is willing to tolerate some eye-wandering (until it gets creepy), because it's a choice that acknowledges that it was her decision to say "sod you". It's a more realistic analysis. — Ghoti and Chips 40 secs ago
#12765 Ghoti and Chips (101 rep) | A: Can I ask a returning player to wear a higher-cut shirt? (score: -1) | posted 5 hours ago by ivan_pozdeev (147 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by ivan_pozdeev (147 rep)
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Ok, everyone, we know that something is going on. We know that CHQ is being watched/trolled. Everyone wave to the troll and then ignore it. There are plenty of people here that can handle this.
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