The Awkward Silence

12:06 AM

"if my parents tell Anne’s mother they can’t make it, she’ll probably get defensive and/or miffed." Let them. If you can't go you can't go, and if they can't understand the reasons why then why should you even care about them? Blunt but honest. You need to be firm with these people as they clearly care more about themselves than about you. — Lightness Races in Orbit 25 secs ago

#10206 Lightness Races in Orbit (101 rep) | Q: How do I tell a friend I can't afford her wedding? (score: 75) | posted 5 days ago by Gypsy (578 rep) | edited 3 days ago by Em C (5063 rep)

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Magisch

7:08 AM

Hi

I'm back from my holiday

Tinkeringbell

7:25 AM

How has it been? I missed you :)

(As in, I noticed you weren't around :P )

Magisch

7:50 AM

nice overall

spent the last 4 days doing nothing but reading a really good scifi novel

Tinkeringbell

Sound perfect actually ;)

Extroverted Main Man

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Q: Should I have gotten up for my sister?

Me and my sister have a relationship that goes up and down, sometimes we can go through one door and sometimes definitely not.... Right now its somewhere in the middle mostly because we don't see each other all the time any more, not a bad thing per say. Now this morning I woke up and went down...

family

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Magisch

@Tinkeringbell the trilogy is called "remembrance of earth's past"

IPS Comment Bot

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Magisch

7:59 AM

it's a scifi adaptation concerning one of the theories developed to solve the fermi paradox

Tinkeringbell

@Magisch Doesn't ring a bell :/

Magisch

probably pretty obscure

Tinkeringbell

But I know the fermi paradox, that's always creeping me out :P

Magisch

and heavily laden with physics terminology and a lot of concepts that you'd get in a college physics course

so it was pretty hard for me to understand, but very interesting nonetheless

Tinkeringbell

Uhmmm... I'll stick with Indiana Jones then ;)

Magisch

8:01 AM

the theory is called the dark forest theory

premises are that all intelligent life's primary goal is self preservation and that the universe and thus the ressources contained within aren't infinite, only very big

Tinkeringbell

So?

Magisch

it follows logically that the only course of action in keeping with self preservation once you've discovered another civilization is to eradicate it

Tinkeringbell

Ahhh

Now we're talking grin

Magisch

Imagine two civilizations, one very adanced, another very primitive

A J

@Magisch Hello

Magisch

8:03 AM

the advanced one knows about the primitive one but not the other way around, what's the advanced one to do?

If they contact them or leave them alone, they might have a technological boom and surpass the advanced one, and then eradicate them

Tinkeringbell

@Magisch antrhopology?

@Magisch That's a stretch ;)

A J

Afternoon all!

Tinkeringbell

@AJ Heya!

Sorry, we were busy discussing aliens ;)

Magisch

@Tinkeringbell think of all of our technology

we took less then 300 years to get from semi-medieval to that

that's the blink of an eye in the cosmic scale

A J

@Tinkeringbell which alien?

Tinkeringbell

8:06 AM

@Magisch Meh... Middle ages weren't as illiterate as some people thought ;)

Magisch

so the only logical course of action that bears no substantial risk to your own self preservation is to eradicate every form of intelligent life you find

because if you found them, if they progressed to your level they could find you and in turn threaten you

Tinkeringbell

@Magisch Just slam a be nice policy on the universe, problem solved :P

Magisch

even if you know they're no malicious, you don't know that they know that you're not malicious

this goes deeper, it's called the chain of suspicion

Tinkeringbell

@Magisch Hahaha you're beginning to make me paranoid ;) I dunno, I'd like meeting an alien I think...

Magisch

assume I know you're not malicious and you know I'm not

we should get alongr right? nope, because I don't know that you know that I'm not malicious. Even if I know that I don't know that you know that I know that you know that

Tinkeringbell

8:09 AM

Okay, so what's the next step?

Magisch

It goes on ad infinitum

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha ;) It's an interesting theory to build a book upon ;)

Magisch

the inevitable conclusion is that you're a threat regardless of what I know about you or you know about me

also the reason why no two intelligent life forms on earth can coexist if they know about each other

Rory Alsop

@Magisch this sounds awfully like Cixin Liu's "three body problem" trilogy

Which gives the single best explanation for the Fermi paradox ever

Magisch

@RoryAlsop That

is what it is

Tinkeringbell

8:13 AM

@Magisch Meh, there's been archaeological/gene evidence for multiple species living on earth and co-habitating/reproducing

Rory Alsop

It is brilliant

Magisch

I've spent every waking hour since thursday morning reading it

that's where I got the name "dark forest theory" from because that's what it's called in the book and what the second book is also called

Rory Alsop

I ended up buying it in paper and kindle form as I enjoyed it so much

Magisch

the series is called remembrance of earth's past according to amazon

Rory Alsop

I didn't know that

Magisch

8:14 AM

I'm almost convinced that this is actually the explaination for the real world fermi paradox

Rory Alsop

As an answer, it does just work, doesn't it :-)

Magisch

@RoryAlsop The only thing that could torpedo that theory is if the universe was actually infinite or energy preservation could be tricked to not be a thing

although I did have to spend several hours researching theorethical physics because they don't hold back with the physics in these books

Rory Alsop

@Magisch or another nice theory I saw that held that entropy was not consistent across the universe, but only locally relevant

In which case, local maxima/minima would drive behaviours

Magisch

that would also mean our models predicting the expansion of the universe would be inaccurate

since they assume consistent entropy

Rory Alsop

The discussion on it posited that as long as fluctuations balanced out, expansion could still be as we see it :-)

Magisch

8:23 AM

although I haven't fully grasped what happens to the earth at the end

this sounds like some really weird dimensional displacement bomb

Tinkeringbell

9:23 AM

This is going to be a loooong day. Heat doesn't work :(

It's freezing at the office now

JAD

9:38 AM

rip

Tinkeringbell

I just logged a bitchy call ;)

Let's hope enough people complain so they'll take it seriously :)

Ohh... instant reply!

'It's already mentioned to the owner of the building'... Yeah well, go mention it again! Because apparently they don't know!

D.Hutchinson

@Tinkeringbell :(

JAD

sounds like at least something is getting heated over there

Tinkeringbell

Hahaha ah well, our company isn't known for being perfect :P I hate getting mails stating 'we know' > Then make sure I know too

We get mass e-mails for the most trivial stuff... so you'd figure a cold building would get more priority

Loong

@Tinkeringbell My day?

Tinkeringbell

9:44 AM

@Loong Hahaha ;) Even more looooong :P

But now that you're talking, how's your day going? :)

Loong

Terrible

Tinkeringbell

Whoops... sorry for asking? Wanna rant about it? :)

Loong

I should read more on this site. I might have questions.

Tinkeringbell

@Loong Who doesn't ;)

IPS questions? Or questions about the way the site works?

Loong

IPS

Tinkeringbell

9:47 AM

Ahh ;) No spoilers then, just ask :)

Loong

One part is several issues at work. Everything is in chaos. And my contract is ending soon. So I just took my remaining vacation days. I have no idea how it will continue. And a large part of this mess is due to missing communication.

The other part is my relationship. We are from different countries and cultures. Classic IPS ;-)

Not to mention that she is still married and has two children.

Tinkeringbell

But, if you're on vacation until your contract ends... shouldn't you just stop worrying about it? No longer your problem :P

The cultures one is always difficult, I can't imagine that in a relationship. My workplace is pretty multicultural and that's already more than I can handle sometimes...

Uhhh... that last part doesn't sound too good...

Or is this the kind of relationship where one can have multiple partners?

Loong

@Tinkeringbell She actually proposed that to her husband. :-o

Tinkeringbell

@Loong Lemme guess, didn't go so well? :/ Marriage seems to me a pretty monogamous thing ;)

Loong

But she is also considering a divorce.

Magisch

9:52 AM

the tangled webs our lives weave

Tinkeringbell

@Loong I hope for you she does that ;)

Loong

@Magisch exactly feels like that

@Tinkeringbell thanks

One problem is that people in her culture don't talk so much. I feel like a hobbit talking to an ent.

Tinkeringbell

10:14 AM

@Loong Does alcohol help? ;) Best talks I have with some people is after a good glass of wine

But otherwise, all you can do is ask to the point of being annoying :/

Loong

@Tinkeringbell It actually does! Although people in her culture need something stronger. Then they even start talking in my language. :-D

JAD

@Tinkeringbell idk, pressuring someone to get a divorce in favor of you feels pretty...

not sure how to finish that nicely

Tinkeringbell

@JAD petty? :P

I don't think loongs is pushing anyone?

Maybe she already started looking before she even decided on a divorce (not that I like that, but I'm a very boring monogamous person ;) )

Loong

@Tinkeringbell I am clearly not pushing. She came to me. She is unhappy in her marriage and tries to find a way out.

Tinkeringbell

Still, JAD does have a point... it sounds like something from a book/movie. Please be careful and don't let her toy with you :)

Loong

10:19 AM

Yeah. Sounds like a bad movie.

JAD

10:44 AM

@Tinkeringbell not really what I was going for, but sure

D.Hutchinson

11:05 AM

almost Valentine's Day <3

Feb 14th

Tinkeringbell

@D.Hutchinson Meh, I'm more fond of the 15th :P

A J

@Tinkeringbell lol

why?

Tinkeringbell

@AJ That's when the discount on chocolate and soap start ;)

D.Hutchinson

@Tinkeringbell haha why?

haha ... I was totally guessing that, too :)

wait ... soap??

that's good to know ...

I'm on my last bar of soap :(

Tinkeringbell

@D.Hutchinson Yeah, there's often those fancy gift sets that they start discounting :)

D.Hutchinson

11:15 AM

Oo I see ...

A J

@Tinkeringbell There is a running and very old joke here about Children's Day that is celebrated on November 14th. ;)

@AJ Oh? Tell me?

9 months after feb14

Exactly. :P

where 9 months is the average pregnancy period

D.Hutchinson

11:18 AM

hahaha ...

Tinkeringbell

@JAD Ohhh... :P I was too lazy to do that math :P

JAD

so if you're born in november, you could assume your parents had a lovely valentine's

Tinkeringbell

@JAD Hahaha, I was born august ;)

A J

yup ;)

Tinkeringbell

I can't think of a day that would coincide with. I'll have to check for power outages :P

JAD

11:19 AM

@Tinkeringbell hah

those are so infrequent here, I doubt htere is any correlation

Tinkeringbell

@JAD Because they're so infrequent, the rise in births/pregnancies is often even more pronounced :P

JAD

the effect would have to be huge to bear any significance

Tinkeringbell

And there were a lot of kids in 'basisschool' that had their birthdays in August :P

I think there were 5 in my class alone ;)

JAD

half my class' was around january

A J

One of my friends' birthday falls on November 14th. We don't wish him "happy birthday" but we wish "Happy Children's Day" ;)

Tinkeringbell

1:23 PM

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Q: How can I politely request that an authority figure respected protocol?

I am in a postgraduate University program and part of the program is to do an internship, in one of the recommended by the program, organizations or schools, mostly by observing a class or by shadowing a professor at his job. There is a requirement of a two week internship. After that the schoo...

conflict-aversion approach college cross-culture requests

Is that one going to be migrated? Or should the OP do it themselves?

JAD

@Tinkeringbell it was flagged for mod attention

Tinkeringbell

Yesterday :P So, if not, I might answer it ;)

JAD

It's not closed, so go ahead

Tinkeringbell

Answering it won't prevent migration?

Sid

1:46 PM

@D.Hutchinson yep. Best day to just sleep soundly.

Or join Bajrang Dal. :P

Tinkeringbell

@Sid What is that?

Sid

@Tinkeringbell en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bajrang_Dal

Tinkeringbell

@Sid Way to keep a conversation going :P

Sid

It is a running joke in educational institutions here. If you don't have a Date on Valentine's Day, join that and search for couples to harass. :P

To be honest, no one really does that. It is just a joke people like to laugh about

Tinkeringbell

@Sid It sounds like fun :P

I was a bit confused when I saw the 'militant organisation' bit ;)

But I guess there must be similar jokes over here :)

Sid

1:52 PM

@Tinkeringbell see the controversies section of that wiki page

Tinkeringbell

@Sid I noticed ;)

Sid

Those people believe that Valentine's Day is against our culture and hence, no one should mark that occasion and blah blah blah

Tinkeringbell

@Sid Ah... well, aside from the 'against culture' there's a similar sentiment here, but it has more to do with 'it's a commercial thing, not a religious one'...

Sid

The joke, though is so greatly publicised that students in my uni now have whatsapp groups with "Bajrang Dal" and "Anti-Bajrang Dal". It's hilarious to see all this.

Tinkeringbell

There's many people in my environment that only celebrate religious days, and not 'commercial' ones (the hypocrits buy presents for Christmas though!)

Sid

1:59 PM

@Tinkeringbell commercial?

Tinkeringbell

@Sid Yeah... they're arguing that stuff like Mother's Day isn't a day to celebrate, because it's just there to sell people stuff

Some people put Valentine's day in the same category, although I'm pretty sure it has something to do with Saint Valentine (but that's the wrong religion for those people ;) )

Sid

Duh. Arguing with people over that is akin to hitting oneself with a hammer

Tinkeringbell

@Sid Yeah, they're fun people :P

I often don't even listen when they start it anymore...

Rory Alsop

I enjoy not buying anything on any of those commercial nonsense days. I do tend to give my loved ones presents, but just when I decide to, not at the whim of some commercial decision

Tinkeringbell

I'll tell people I'm busy crafting a blanket for my mom for Mother's Day and they'll go ranting on how they don't celebrate it ('any more') since they were so enlightened that it's only for commercial purposes

@RoryAlsop Yeah well... Mother's Day is one of those few days my mom will accept a gift without complaining ;)

Other than that, I agree ;)

Rory Alsop

2:04 PM

@Tinkeringbell actually - for my mum I do make an exception, as a card on that day will make her smile

Tinkeringbell

@RoryAlsop Hahaha see! They got you too ;)

Magisch

@Tinkeringbell I do this for father's day

Tinkeringbell

I think what bothers me most is the 'holier-than-thou' attitude by adding a religious argument into the discussion :)

Magisch

my dad will not really accept gifts on christmas, only on father's day and his birthday

Tinkeringbell

@Magisch My dad always says he doesn't know what to ask... so we usually just gift him a weekend in a hotel with mom once a year, on random weekends :P

@Magisch Yeah, we don't do gifts on Christmas either, but that is because we celebrate Sinterklaas ;)

Rory Alsop

2:06 PM

@Tinkeringbell if people try that I argue the case for all religious celebrations being fake. Co-opting proper pagan celebrations with modern nonsense :-)

@Tinkeringbell in Scotland we do celebrate Yule or Jul.

Tinkeringbell

@RoryAlsop That's a very, very dangerous one :P I might get burned for witchcraft if I mention that :P

Magisch

I usually go with I don't believe in your god so why would I respect their religious holidays

Rory Alsop

@Tinkeringbell lol

Tinkeringbell

@RoryAlsop That's pagan christmas, right?

A J

Currently most viral video in India. This girl got over 600k followers in one day.

Rory Alsop

2:08 PM

@Magisch demand they respect your religious holidays. And then put on a colander :-)

@Tinkeringbell pretty much - winter solstice

Magisch

@RoryAlsop I did buy that 20$ certificate so I'm technically a priest

Tinkeringbell

@RoryAlsop That makes me think of Wednesdays... we eat pasta every Wednesday.. :/

Magisch

it was to make a point to a religion teacher, but still

Tinkeringbell

@RoryAlsop Yay, I am starting to remember :P I always mixed up winter and summer solstice ;)

Rory Alsop

@Tinkeringbell one is cold

;-)

Tinkeringbell

2:09 PM

@RoryAlsop Lemme guess, the other one is rainy? :P

Rory Alsop

@Tinkeringbell in Scotland, they can both be rainy :-)

A J

Watcha discussin'?

Sid

@AJ conversation shifted from Bajrang Dal to religious vs commercial holidays. :P

Tinkeringbell

@RoryAlsop See, I am starting to get better but I'm not there yet ;)

A J

@RoryAlsop Here they can both be dry. :P

Rory Alsop

2:20 PM

@AJ well, theoretically here one is snowy and one is sunny. But in reality one is dark and wet and cold and the other may be sunny. If you're lucky.

JAD

@RoryAlsop one is dark and wet, other is light and wet

A J

Lol

Em C

2:44 PM

good morning :)

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Hello! good afternoon :)

Em C

@Tinkeringbell I wish it were afternoon here already :P

Tinkeringbell

@EmC That bad of a Monday? :P

Em C

@Tinkeringbell just slow, and I have things I'm excited to do after work :D

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Cool ;) Anything so fun that you're willing to share what you're going to do?

Day has been slow here too, but we had impromptu gymnastics in the MFR because the heat is off :/

Em C

2:48 PM

@Tinkeringbell sewing a dress :) I got maybe halfway done yesterday and I'm itching to finish it

oh, that sucks :(

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Oh nice! :) For a special occasion? What kind of dress?

@EmC The gymnastics were fun for like 25 minutes... but then you're sweaty and you cool down even faster :/

Ah well, 10 minutes to go and I can start packing :D

Then I can go home quickly and decide whether I'm going to crochet another square or work on the ravelry profile some more :)

Em C

@Tinkeringbell strapless and twirly :D I'm going to visit my boyfriend this weekend so I guess that's the occasion ;)

hooray ravelry :)

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Sounds like a perfect dress for that! :) Does the weather lend itself to wearing dresses over there? ;)

@EmC Yeah well... Maybe I should never have started it :P I spent the entire day yesterday putting the stash in there :)

Em C

@Tinkeringbell lol not at all right now :P it's quite impractical but I had this fabric.. soo...

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Ahh... I do know that.. I have this yarn, and I really need to make XYZ :P

Em C

2:52 PM

@Tinkeringbell exactly! sometimes you just want to make pretty things :)

Tinkeringbell

@EmC Yeah... but there's too many pretty things in this world :P

Oh, that reminds me:

Magisch

@EmC is envious of the creativity

Tinkeringbell

@Ash ^

Magisch

all I can do is math and more math and different math

Em C

@Magisch hey, math can be pretty too :P

A J

2:55 PM

@EmC good evening :)

Magisch

thats a cool carpet

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell Ooohhhh, is that the thing you've been working on?

And, hi everyone! :-D

Em C

@Tinkeringbell aw, images aren't loading for me :( I'll have to check later

Sid

@Magisch Math is beautiful.

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Yes, those are the squares from week 3 ;)

@EmC Please do :)

@Magisch Hahaha :P They're nowhere near big enough for a carpet :) But thanks :)

@EmC Agreed, especially if all those numbers and stuff are written down to align beautifully :)

Extroverted Main Man

3:34 PM

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Q: Communicating a stubborn group that I'm well intentioned

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Anne Daunted

3:47 PM

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Q: How to respond to a flat-earther?

I wanted to provide evidence for a friend who recently shocked me with her views that the Elon Musk car in space was a fake. My answer to her that I trust people who specialize in the field to know better than me is 'BS' to her. My friend believes the earth is flat. She believes NASA is fake. An...

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has just been reopened

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Well, it is no longer asking 'how would you'... :/

But I don't really see how answers here would differ from the 'arguing science' question by anongoodnurse

Anne Daunted

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Q: Should I have gotten up for my sister?

Me and my sister have a relationship that goes up and down, sometimes we can go through one door and sometimes definitely not.... Right now its somewhere in the middle mostly because we don't see each other all the time any more, not a bad thing per say. Now this morning I woke up and went down...

family

This one also got 1 reopen vote already

it's bad even for a "Should I ... ?" question

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted True ;) But I'm on a strike, I won't comment or vote anything for a while :) I might have been overdoing it lately so... let other people figure it out. Once there's a certain rhythm going I'll chime in again.

Anne Daunted

4:05 PM

@Tinkeringbell "let other people figure it out." optimist

Catija

Actually means "Let the entire site die a horrible death"

Tinkeringbell

@Catija I wasn't that overbearing :P

I'm sure it'll survive without me ;)

Don't worry, if it gets to the point where stuff needs to be resuscitated, I might step in as well ;)

TheTinyMan

@Catija /submits a bunch of "should I" and gratuitious-sex questions

Tinkeringbell

But right now, I'm curious to see what will stay open and for how long if I don't start the commenting/close-voting... and people seem to be doing well ;)

Anne Daunted

@Tinkeringbell That "Should I ... ?" question stayed open long enough to get two answers.

Tinkeringbell

4:09 PM

@AnneDaunted Yeah... well, that's a community problem, not a 'lack-of-Tink-around-here' problem :P

Anne Daunted

This was directed at your "and people seem to be doing well" comment

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted Oh... that was a tad sarcastic ;) I also secretly enjoyed the struggle here: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/10394/…

That one took a lot of restraint to not step in ;) BUT people did it anyway, so from there to 3 hours is an improvement ;)

Anne Daunted

@Catija Reminds me of your funny post, that sadly cannot be upvoted anymore.

@Tinkeringbell That was posted around the time everyone in the US is asleep

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted So there's only US people here, and me? :P

Anne Daunted

No

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.

Tinkeringbell

4:20 PM

There's also another version of that, that has to do with Golden Rules (philosophy). I don't have the exact quote/term around, because the book is at home..

But the principle is that people can profit from other people living by a Golden Rule, and if enough people abuse the other people living by a Golden Rule, in the end no-one cares for it any more/it becomes impossible to keep living up to that rule

Like, if the rule is 'If you have more food than someone else that is hungry, you share your food'... This works fine if there's someone willing to share your food with you when you're hungry, but if you're only ever sharing food and no-one ever shares with you, in the end you're the one that ends up either hungry or unwilling to share because that will mean you end up hungry

Anne Daunted

That's why you just stand there while evil triumphs?

Tinkeringbell

@AnneDaunted That's why I'm trying to see if the good people do something

Because I'm not the only good person around here

Anne Daunted

The benevolent Goddess testing her sheep? ;-)

Tinkeringbell

In fact, my eagerness to close stuff and have it perfectly written might have been keeping people away...

@AnneDaunted Just trying to find other gods, I'm getting lonely :P

Anne Daunted

Which people did you supposedly keep away?

Tinkeringbell

4:25 PM

I might have overdone it here, as 2 comments suggest: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/10383/1599

There were more, but I can't find them :/

Anne Daunted

One from the user who deleted his own answers and edited in an insulting picture?

Tinkeringbell

Like I said, there were more, but I can't find them off the top of my head.

It's not the best example, I agree..

TheTinyMan

4:56 PM

Now, the responsibility falls on @AnneDaunted

Tinkeringbell

5:14 PM

@TheTinyMan That sounds like you're planning to shirk your duties ;)

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell My duties!? Madam, I am working! ;-)

Tinkeringbell

@TheTinyMan Hahaha... Well, I'm going home, where it will hopefully be warm

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell Okay, be safe out there! :-)

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IPS Comment Bot

5:58 PM

@AbhigyanC I don't see how that question is relevant to this one, other than the general topic of "vegan" - in which case you should probably just link to a search for "vegan" on this site. — Adam Davis 16 secs ago

#1556 Adam Davis (1826 rep) | Q: How to ask a vegan to stop telling me about veganism because I am not interested in it? (score: 139) | posted 186 days ago by ArnoldF (839 rep) | edited 180 days ago by Shog9 (101 rep)

Matched regex(es) ["you\\W(really)?(need\\Wto|should)"]

Anne Daunted

6:08 PM

@TheTinyMan You mean I have to fight the forces of evil on my own?

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted You have your faith in the Goddess! :o

Anne Daunted

I'm not religious

Anne Daunted

7:02 PM

Amy Winehouse - Back To Black

►

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Oh no, don't let @Tinkeringbell know that you're not among her flock! :o

Anne Daunted

So let's just not tell her

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Good idea!

Anne Daunted

She will never find out (note to self: Don't mention that he pinged her)

TheTinyMan

@AnneDaunted Ehh, we just need to deny it strongly enough that she doubts her own perceptions.

Anne Daunted

7:08 PM

It's worth a try

Tinkeringbell

7:21 PM

:P I'll just pretend I didn't read that either. Maybe I should leave the chatroom as well ;)

IPS Comment Bot

7:36 PM

@Abigail, that's not the point of the question. OP is referring to letting people know they can speak like proper adults when talking about technical terms, without going through the usual nanny-like discourse that tech support has to provide to non-techies. For instance, it happened to me with Amazon support. The speaker told me exactly where to touch in order to clear the cache of the Android Amazon App Store. Given that I work as an app developer the guy could have just said "please clear the cache". No need to go through "tap here, then here, now you should see this, tap that"... — Andrea Lazzarotto 2 mins ago

#10239 Andrea Lazzarotto (570 rep) | Q: How to let tech support subtly know that I am proficient without showing off? (score: 98) | posted 5 days ago by Bananenaffe (597 rep) | edited 5 days ago by Bananenaffe (597 rep)

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Mithrandir

9:08 PM

@TheTinyMan FYI - "low-quality posts" is technically a suspension reason ;)

TheTinyMan

@Tinkeringbell Noooo! D: D: D: What have I done? :'(

@Mithrandir Are we talking about my glorious chat messages now?

Mithrandir

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