The Awkward Silence

12:28 AM

@TheSnarkKnight Reading back I think we may have been talking past each other. You're right that I should be assuming the best and I'd like to recommend that we both start fresh. My intention wasn't to slap your wrist for doing anything wrong. I'm actually quite concerned about the site and where it is so far and how slowly I think we're progressing, so I'm a bit sensitive about that.

I do very much appreciate your recent participation, particularly on meta. Active meta participation is so very important to a beta site and my intention wasn't to push you away.

anongoodnurse

1:17 AM

@Catija - I would like to correct a misunderstanding. I did not intend to "berate" Chris Sunami. I respect Chris across several sites and think his answers are thoughtful, well written and helpful. I know I always read his answers when I see them, because I learn something valuable from them.

I reacted to the situation the woman was in, but I wasn't berating Chris. (Somewhere or other, I seem to remember telling him I was sorry about all the fallout on the thread, and I seem to remember he said he was fine with my comment, but I can't find those comments now. Maybe I dreamed them.) But it would be nice if malice wasn't attributed where none was meant. In fact, I think that's a semi-official guideline on all SE sites.

I have seen this often in comment threads:
"Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence." Or, "Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity." Or, simply, the written word, especially when brevity is involved, is without visual and auditory cues, and that should be taken into account when assessing what has been written.

I would never intentionally berate Chris Sunami.

Catija

@anongoodnurse Could you point out where I used the word "berate"?

anongoodnurse

I have intentionally berated a user here, I'm sad to say.

@Catija In the teacher's lounge?

Catija

@anongoodnurse Chat search turns up no usage of that word since September in the TL.

anongoodnurse

I berated a user who then proved me right by serially DVing me 100 times across various sites.

I didn't dream it up. I would have posted when I saw it, but for the desire to think about it and the need to go to the hospital today.

Catija

I'm not trying to start an argument at all... I need to go home but I'll be back in about an hour?

anongoodnurse

1:26 AM

I think we would do better probably somewhere else. And not the TL.

Catija

@anongoodnurse I can unfreeze our other chat room if you want... or you can post a question on meta. Your call.

anongoodnurse

I'm not sure what I would want to post on meta about. Not following you.

Gotta go feed my pups. They're looking at me askanse... wondering what 'old lady' might taste like.

Catija

@anongoodnurse I'll ping you in the other room when I get home and settled.

Extroverted Main Man

3:15 AM

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Q: Did I invite people in the correct way?

So my wedding is round the corner. I have sent the invites. Apart from sending the invites via post, I have also mailed the respective people and called them and talked to them over the phone inviting them for the wedding. I could not meet them for the sole purpose of giving the invite, however, ...

A J

3:48 AM

Morning

Extroverted Main Man

4:04 AM

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Q: How to tell our wedding venue that we're postponing our wedding?

So my girlfriend and I decided to get married, and we talked to our Church and reserved one of our campuses and we found a good date in May and reserved it. However, we've decided that we should wait longer to get married for personal reasons. We're still together, and strong, but we both think ...

weddings

apaul

@AJ Night

-1

A: How do I learn to pick my battles a little better?

Pick all of them. Use a brick.

HDE 226868

@apaul I suspect there's a bit of trolling going on there; I've also deleted a second answer of his on a different question that's basically the same thing. Do flag away if you see him keep at it.

apaul

@HDE226868 I thought as much. Have to admit, it is kinda funny though.

HDE 226868

I did find it slightly amusing, yes.

apaul

@HDE226868 So... professional...

Catija

4:18 AM

@HDE226868 There's three of them.

HDE 226868

You beat me to deleting the third by a second.

Catija