About your third P.S. How do I check that? I mean I had a guage on that before, but any guess on how hireable I am after I am more openly trans would only be a guess. And my conservative guess and my generous guess very widely meaning I have no idea. — AGirlHasNoName 1 min ago

I'm a bit lost on your question too. The question being "how can I let him know how disappointed I am?", the natural answer would be "tell them how disappointed you are." So my question to you is, why is the simple/direct solution not possible? What help exactly do you need from us, what are the roadblocks preventing you from telling them how disappointed you are? — msb 1 min ago

While this doesn't answer the question, I do appreciate your perspective on this, which in fact is shared by many of my friends who know about this person. — user13232774 1 min ago

Thanks for taking the time to write an answer! However, this doesn't seem to address OP's question of communicating with the friend. Please note that answers on IPS must respect the OP's request and answer the actual question asked. Also, we require answers here to be backed up by personal experience or external sources. So, could you edit to tell us about a similar situation you were in the past? Who was involved, what did you say and how did the other person react? — Ælis 29 secs ago

Hi I hope you're doing well in your life! And this answer might be relatable to OP too. Can you add a bit about how to use the nerd behaviour in conversation? Looking forward to a cool example :) — ankii 1 min ago