I dont like the first part because the two quotest where quick comments written by me here and not at all word for word what i said and the second quote were just thoughts of mine, nothing i ever said to anyone. But the rest is interestingly written and gave me some insight!

@EnglishStudent Yes i believe that she might be introverted to a certain extend, because she sometimes likes going out in a baar for a drink, bit dislikes partys drinking and prefers a good book at home. I on the other hand like being alone sometimes but mostly prefer going out with people which gives me energy. But yes might be an issue. Do you have any experience with introvert dating extroverts how this works out?

No such dating experience of my own along those lines @MansNotHot, but my friends say that if one partner is extrovert and the other is introvert, then it is not necessarily a problem, except that the introvert becomes tired first (as rightly noted by Peufeu) -- so as the extrovert here, you should expect it often and give her free time of her own to recover her energy, and schedule other intresting activities, maybe with other friends, to fill that time for yourself.

Also see these many articles about introvert-extrovert dating @MansNotHot: google.co.in/…

@EnglishStudent Actually this seems to me like a positive trait because i actually have nothing against giving free time because i need some myself and my ex wanted me to spend all my time with her which was nice at the beginning but really hard after a while. This might be the opposite case whereas i want more contact at the beginning but after a while appreciate the freetime both people give each other

Yes indeed @MansNotHot!

Yeah, the important thing is to have interesting stuff to do on your own so you don't have to actually make an effort (and then resent it) or get bored when your introvert partner needs some space.... getting all needy and begging for attention is even worse, also it'll make her feel guilty for needing her space.

@peufeu If you would update your first part of the answer a bit to the things i added/said i would like to accept this answer because i really like the rest and this one helped the most :)

ok, you wrote that the words you used were different, so what did you tell her?

@MansNotHot check out a book called "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking". I'm somewhat extroverted and married to someone more on the introverted side of the scale. It gave me a lot of insight and compassion and understanding that I did not have before.

As somewhat of an introvert, this answer puts into words what I thought when reading your question. OP, you're asking for an edit of the first part, but I'm not sure that's warranted: even if your actual words were somewhat different, the fact that you portrayed them here in this way shows that this was pretty much what you thought and wanted to say. She probably got the same feeling from you. If that is the case and if the assumptions about her being somewhat introvert are also ciorrect, then the combination might really be what's at work here. At least that would be true if I was her.

To expand on it: as introvert, once I get the feeling that someone else is too curious about and possibly judging my way of spending my time - even if not expressed in words - then that is quite an issue. I broke off a friendship where the friend would often call and first ask what my plans were for that night, then tell me why I should do something else with them instead. Now that's extreme. But simply the question itself makes me generally feel uncomfortable. I might be extreme in this way, but if she feels even slightly the same, then your choice of words might be very, very relevant.

@domsson Oke might be, will accept this answer, but if it is as you tell it...i dont think i want to be in a relationship with a person like this, because i am rather straightforward and pushy in many aspects originating from how i grew up with a VERY straightforward and honest family, and thats just me. Cant be in a relationship with someone that gets offended every time.

@peufeu And my words were (if i remember correctly, translated from german) "So what are you up to this evening?" didnt say the part where i have nothing to do, this was just to illustrate in the comments. And the second quote was just a thought, nothing i ever expressed, so noone can know i feel this way, so i dont think it to be relevant to her

Yeah, again, this is all just theory and might well be wrong. Maybe she is even an extrovert. Just wanted to support peufeu's notion, as his interpretation of things does sound likely and familiar to me. And yeah, you might just not work out if that's the case. But I wouldn't give up just yet either. Combine the advice from this answer with that of others, see how it goes for bit longer -- is what I'd do. :)