"The amateur is a narcissist. He views the world hierarchically. He continuously rates himself in relation to others, becoming self-inflated if his fortunes rise, and desperately anxious if his star should fall.
The amateur sees himself as the hero not only of his own movie but also in the movie of others.
He insists in his mind, if nowhere else, that others share this view."
You have to find somewhere more firm to stand rather than exclusively outsourcing your sense of self worth to the whole world around you.