"She could not turn to a psychologist - in our country this would mean that she was locked up in a psychiatric hospital for the rest of her life." May I ask what country you are from? Also, your question is broad. I'm not sure I know your question. Are you despairing of ever feeling normal, asking if you should get back into this relationship, or might you be suicidal? Are you afraid of seeing a therapist as well?

Thank you for clarifying. Two questions, though (please forgive me), what country are you in,and are you resistant to therapy? Because someone is likely to suggest that.

Russia, and yes.

I somehow knew I shouldn't post it probably.

Thanks. There's no reason to fear; you're anonymous here.

This is a huge wall of text....can you condense this a bit?

@MisterPositive unfortunately I'm not sure what is important here and what not. I'll gladly accept edits if someone know what paragraphs can be deleted. I tried to post as much info as I can, it may be useful.

This question has already collected 2 close votes (not mine) as 'too broad.' To prevent it getting closed before somebody can write a good answer, may I suggest @Andrey that you make a few edits to remove generalisations and focus completely on this particular relationship. " Sometimes I find myself thinking that I want to be with her again.How can I overcome this relationship and continue to live? Or should I contact her and try once again? " __ You should make it clear what you want to achieve in terms of this relationship. Then members can help you towards achieving your goals here.

@EnglishStudent "To prevent it getting closed before somebody can write a good answer," If a question is put on hold, it's not necessarily permanent. Rather, it's to improve the question so that it can get even better answers.

@EnglishStudent made it a little shorter. Is it enough?

Your actual question is "How can I get over this relationship and continue to live". This is not an interpersonal question.

I can see that by IPS site standards this question is likely to get closed as too broad. Why to wait till it actually gets put on hold? I was trying to help OP improve the question and clear the very valid objections of broadness (if possible) even before it gets put on hold @Anne Daunted. [Update: It now has 4 close votes and the fifth will soon follow.]

@EnglishStudent Why not prevent a question that needs improvement from getting answers before it is improved? If you care about the question, why are you not voting to close it, so that it can be improved?

That is rather complicated for me personally @Anne Daunted. Your point is well put and well taken but I cannot argue this matter here because I have been asked by a moderator to avoid expressing my controversial opinions [in general] about close voting.

@Anne Daunted Note that you can post any further comment to me related to closing and reopening, under the recent meta question on that topic.

"I want to get over it. How can I overcome this relationship and what to do if she start to stalk me again?" __ that last line is now a much better way to express your question's goal @Exerion. Based on that edit I am voting to reopen and you can also vote to reopen your question by clicking on 'reopen' at the end of your question, just near your username. You can see whether 3 other users agree. Meanwhile, please continue to improve your question to make it less broad and narrow it to focus only on this particular interpersonal relationship, based on the guidelines given in the help centre.

Please note too I have rearranged a few paragraphs to make the summary of your question very clear right at the beginning @Exerion.

@EnglishStudent sorry, but I don't see 'reopen' button anywhere

If you are using android phone browser, the reopen button is clearly placed with some other options in grey type at the end of the question, left side of screen above your username. If you are using the desktop page version the reopen button is in the same general area on left @Andrey but username will be seen towards the right-centre section. If you are using the stackexchange app for android, the reopen button is not seen in an obvious place but you can open the question in a browser such as Chrome or Firefox and vote to reopen.

@EnglishStudent I'm on desktop. Used ctrl+F to find 'reopen' text and find it only in this comments. Is it matter of reputation? I can post a screenshot, but I don't know where. There are only 'share edit delete flag' options on the bottom of the question.

I don't understand why. The person who asked the question gets a unique reopen vote but it could be a matter of reputation in that, unlike senior users of a site, the reopen option might be shown to you only when the question has collected 3 or 4 reopen votes @Andrey. Update: An old Stack Overflow post says that you need at least 250 reputation or some such minimum to vote to reopen your own question, and the help section on this site IPS.SE confirms that 250 minimum is how it is applied here.