"What should I do?" type questions are typically closed on this site. If you decide what you want to do and ask a question about that, we may he able to lend a hand. — apaul 1 min ago

Breaking the first paragraph into multiple paragraphs along with staying on topic will make people more receptive to your question. — Rob 56 secs ago

Welcome to IPS.SE! Take the tour to learn more about this site and earn your first badge. As for your question: we can't decide for you what to do. What do you want to achieve? It looks like your implicit question is "How do I make her stop giving me the silent treatment"; at any rate, edit your question to ask a more precise question. Also, can you give us more details about your ages, your nationalities, since when are you together, what you tried and what was the effect? — LinuxBlanket 24 secs ago

I wish it were this simple. Point of experience: given a completely respectful graceful invitation, unless the recipient is unusually self-aware, whether the invitation lands as creepy or non-creepy will depend almost entirely on whether the recipient's answer is "yes" or "no" (where "no" comes out as "no, and what a creep" due to lack of skills and/or lack of self-awareness on the part of the recipient). Acknowledging that seems like a necessary start. Whether it's worth it depends on whether one is self-confident / thick-skinned enough to be able to receive "no, and what a creep". — Don Hatch 55 secs ago

I dont think that this will stay open, so I only leave a comment: yes, speaking to a councelor is a very good idea, if the situation already is this harmful for your health! — Lot 41 secs ago

yes 'suggested' is even better, thanks for pointing that out — Cashbee 17 secs ago

It conveys to me she doesn't do it, because there's not enough external pressure. The same thing for the cleaning. She literally said "Now I HAVE to do it, because now there's external pressure." I consider this lack of selfdisciplin. I have tried the suggestion of cutting the tasks into smaller pieces, but the answer is "That doesn't work", without any explanation. She has a therapist, which told her to go to Group therapy and she cannot continue the sessions with the individual therapist before finishing the Group therapy. Should I update the question with this information? (2/2) — Caroline 37 secs ago

Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. What @DaveG is pointing out is kinda why I asked the question; she doesn't have the 'relatable' reasons (kids, work, school, etc). She has a history of complaining about what other people are doing to her, which I consider normal (no mobile phones allowed while you're working in the store, having to clean the store even though you got hired as a cashier.) The group therapy is not working, because she says "I don't do the homework as there are no consequences" This conveys to me that it's not not having the energy to do it. (1/2) — Caroline 1 min ago

Without knowledge of your general life circumstances, and based only on what you said, my first reaction would be: that's not a girlfriend for you. Separate, and build a better relationship with somebody else. — Christian Geiselmann 33 secs ago

do not go to couples counselling, you are in an abusive relationship joinonelove.org/learn/emotional_abuse — WendyG 26 secs ago

@M.Herzkamp It was in Dubai: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prosecution_of_Marte_Dalelv — jafe 1 min ago

A cup of tea? What is this, Britain? — Pharap 1 min ago

@Imperator Sounds like he is in for a wake-up call then. I still stand by my advice not to worry about it. If someone really hasn't learned to take constructive criticism, how can you possibly hope to constructively criticise that aspect of his personality? He will have to learn the hard way. — Astralbee 27 secs ago

Frankly, I don't even believe Alice that she wants to reconcile with Bob (but note all info I have is second hand). That makes this answer even more appropriate: the OP should not let himself be dragged into this, it is fully up to Alice to take responsibility for her erratic behaviour. — Jan Doggen 21 secs ago

On a side note: A couple of weeks after that, Bob got suspended again That is totally unfair, and if this was brought to a court it could even be illegal (double jeopardy). — Jan Doggen 43 secs ago

Hey, thanks for the answer! Could you explain why you think this is a good idea? Why do you say to take this course of action? What’s the thought process behind this answer? As it stands, you answer is quite short and essentially a “Try this!” answer. We require that answers provide some sort of explanation for why they are suggesting this solution, and unfortunately, at the moment this answer doesn't appear to do that. — Chilly 1 min ago

Hi paulj, we expect answers here to contain some sort of reasoning for why you think it will work and be related to interpersonal skills. Can you explain how this relates, and how you expect this will solve the issue? — Em C ♦ 13 secs ago

In addition to what @Chilly said, we require that answers provide an interpersonal solution to the question; this appears to be a lifehack. Could you please explain what interpersonal skill is employed in this answer? — Arwen Undómiel 24 secs ago

Kerekplayer, despite the edit, the main question is still "What should I do?". What is your goal? Do you want her to stop giving you the silent treatment? Do you want to understand her reasons? Even if you look for professional help, you will still have to go with a clear goal in mind. — LinuxBlanket just now

What stops your colleague from just telling the student exactly that ("You have signs from being dyslexic. You might benefit from visiting a doctor about it")? — XtremeBaumer 1 min ago

What kind of relationship do you have with Joe? Have you discussed, or would you be open to discussing Jane's situation with him? — DaveG 1 min ago

Is this happening to a child? They might not know what to do with that information. In that case, would the parents not also be informed at the same time? — Kozaky 1 min ago

@XtremeBaumer Good question. Or, probably, a good self-standing answer. :) — Baskakov_Dmitriy 12 secs ago

@Kozaky The student is 28. — Baskakov_Dmitriy 51 secs ago

In case the teacher isn't sure about the protocol, there should be resources available to him and if the resources are other teachers (I think that worth noting) — XtremeBaumer 37 secs ago

@XtremeBaumer Agreed, and added. — Astralbee 1 min ago

Just out of curiosity, where does your legal name appear? — DaveG 1 min ago

Who of the others knows who you are, which skin you have or even if it was you who voted? Holy ... you are really serious about that? As if anybody cared which color you chose :-) — puck 1 min ago

Welcome to Interpersonal Skills! Asking "What should I do?" is off topic. - Questions should ask for help achieving a specific goal. Your question is asking for personal advice on "what to do" without defining a goal; this is too subjective. Edit your question to explain what you hope to achieve and how you would like to interact with the others involved. — Cashbee 1 min ago

@WendyG, that seems more like an answer than an actual attempt to improve the question. — Froopy 11 secs ago

@Froopy the question is on hold, I can't post an answer — WendyG 16 secs ago

Can "use reactions and not offend anyone" be considered a goal? — Denis Stafichuk 37 secs ago

@Andrew: Not a great edit. You've already stated that it's about consent in your answer, no need to keep repeating it. And the "EDIT" moniker is unnecessary; we're not a forum. We keep detailed records of when and what edits occur that anyone can view at any time: see interpersonal.stackexchange.com/posts/17509/revisions — Robert Harvey 21 secs ago

@RobertHarvey What makes you think I have the power to do that. — Andrew just now

If you're going to summarize the comments in your post, then I would suggest a comment purge. — Robert Harvey 31 secs ago

@RobertHarvey What's the famous quote? You can please some of the people all the time ..." Read the above comments to see why I included it. Also, the "edit" tag is a kind of courtesy to make it absolutely clear this was added after many people voted. I am aware that SE retains edits. — Andrew 1 min ago

[shrug] Suffice it to say that people don't need this level of hand-holding. The comments already describe in detail the conversation that has occurred, and edit histories exist precisely so that we don't have to litter posts with "EDIT." — Robert Harvey 1 min ago

The context is "an English teacher working in Russia". As a former ESL teacher (working in Japan), I can state that many of us had little more than a college degree and minimal training on the course material. Certainly we had zero training in identifying/dealing with things like dyslexia. Moreover, I don't know how Russia deals with this condition, whether public-school teachers have the training or capacity to identify and treat it. — Andrew 1 min ago

Hi Denis, I'm not sure if that would help considering you're still asking "what reaction is not offensive/racist?", and as the help center says: "whether something is rude/racist/sexist/[insert other discriminatory terms]" is off-topic. You could try posting your question in the sandbox if you'd like help figuring out if/how it could fit the site though. — Em C ♦ 1 min ago

I marked your answer as correct because I think it's the most complete, but I'd love to see some info about the "social" aspect of these games, often the player gets involved in a community and starts to chat with people playing the game. They then play the game more to stay in touch with the friends than for the actual game. Being all addicted to the same game, they reinforce their addition talking all the day about it with each other... — Fez Vrasta 1 min ago

Okay, then feel free to close it as off-topic. — Denis Stafichuk 46 secs ago

I agree wholeheartedly with this approach. This graphical language is commonplace nowadays, on websites, talk shows, TV programs (particularly cable channels like HBO), and even television news, so much so that you'd have to actively limit your exposure to certain media if you want to avoid it. My elderly mother frequently watches programs where explicit sex talk is part of the routine banter between the main characters, and she couldn't care less. If these questions offend your delicate sensibilities, just pass on answering them. — Andrew 50 secs ago

It's always creepy to invite a girl back to your hotel room. A woman on the other hand... — Kyle Delaney 22 secs ago

Not gonna lie, I would break up with you if I were her, even with the understanding that you don't cheat. If I can't trust you to be honest about something so innocuous then how can I trust you about more important things? — Kyle Delaney 50 secs ago

@JanDoggen We're clearly missing some information here, that I suspect would make the 2nd suspension make more sense. — DaveG 18 secs ago

Just a side note on the "no governmental support due to wealthy partner" part: is it possible that she finds this unfair because it makes her realise how much her current life depends on him (definitely economically maybe also in other aspects)? She might fear to lose him or secretly doubting whether he's Mr Right out think she's a burden to him or similar. Have you ever asked her, why she wants gov. support? Just to have more money or to have "her own" money? — Marzipanherz 11 secs ago

Why does the description bug you (apart from the yoga that is)? It doesn't set off any "crazy" alarm bells in my mind. — TheRealLester 55 secs ago

Instead of trying to probe her beliefs, can you just indicate that you need to spend time alone and don't want to appear unfriendly but you won't be available for socializing? — DaveG 47 secs ago

@DaveG The things is I will be willing to socialize (it's not like I'm a solitary maniac) but only when I feel that I talk to a person "on the same level" — Colonder 1 min ago

@TheRealLester yoga, from the description it seems that she's living alone or will be for at least a few months, child therapist working with animals... I don't know, somehow I feel like it can be a source of some weird beliefs as well — Colonder 1 min ago

@Colonder I'm suggesting that rather than trying to determine via email whether she's someone you want to talk to, start out with the idea that you won't be talking, and then if she seems interesting, you can always start some conversations. — DaveG 1 min ago

Hi, welcome to IPS! What nationality/country are you and your family from? There may be cultural nuances that may affect your answer. — BFG95 15 secs ago

I realized today that this wording reminded me of a time, years ago, when a woman was trying to reassure me that no, of course she wasn't suggesting that we date (when in fact it was obvious that she was) and we should get together again as friends and... It was incredibly awkward. Which I why I suggested a simple question and an equally simple answer. — DaveG 1 min ago

On the other hand, speaking as someone who is overly literal, if I were single and someone asked if I wanted to go back for some tea, I'd probably say I'm not much for tea because I'm totally oblivious and don't care much for tea. — neminem 1 min ago

@neminem Yes, that's entirely possible, and probably rather endearing. It is a normal part of any new relationship to learn how to effectively communicate with someone. Mishaps are ok. — axsvl77 9 secs ago