This belongs on law.stackexchange.com and already has a few related questions that might help: law.stackexchange.com/questions/641/… — Jesse 43 secs ago
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#9227 Jesse (2172 rep) | Q: What's the etiquette for posting a webcomic on your site? (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by Fodder (1235 rep)
To expand on your "first things" a bit. Unless the mother is going to be visiting often, who cares if she has a slightly less positive impression of a person who may well live hundreds of miles away, she wouldn't recognize if they ever did meet, and has no influence over the OP's life? It would be one thing if the roommate was "gossiping" to other suite mates and people in the same social circle, her talking to her mother might as well be her recording an audio diary for the significance it has for the OP. — Derek Elkins 1 min ago
#9225 Derek Elkins (151 rep) | A: How to deal with a suitmate who gossips about me within the first few days of move-in? (score: 11) | posted 4 hours ago by AndreiROM (5897 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by AndreiROM (5897 rep)
#9229 Paparazzi (583 rep) | Q: How to restore harmony between my family and my wife or is it necessary? (score: 0) | posted 44 minutes ago by Ray Tsai (1 rep) | edited 15 minutes ago by Ray Tsai (1 rep)
#9229 Ray Tsai (1 rep) | Q: How to restore harmony between my family and my wife or is it necessary? (score: 0) | posted 51 minutes ago by Ray Tsai (1 rep) | edited 22 minutes ago by Ray Tsai (1 rep)
My background is Asian and I can assure you that this is the tip of the iceberg. There is no simple way to shorten complicated Asian relationships. One thing I will say is that I commend you for seeking help. These situations tend to fester to extreme degrees. — doctordonna 1 min ago
#9229 doctordonna (785 rep) | Q: How to restore harmony between my family and my wife or is it necessary? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by Ray Tsai (6 rep) | edited 31 minutes ago by Ray Tsai (6 rep)
1:12 AM
@Adnan Y "OP owes the gas station attendant nothing" - Question clearly states she does, otherwise why would she be there? — RyanfaeScotland 1 min ago
#9147 RyanfaeScotland (221 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 30) | posted 59 hours ago by Hertz (429 rep) | edited 59 hours ago by Hertz (429 rep)
1:31 AM
I haven't booted Windows for over a decade and the closest thing to a Mac I've ever used is FreeBSD. Trust me: This answer is one of the best ways to avoid the whole problem. — L0j1k 53 secs ago
#9063 L0j1k (101 rep) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 8) | posted 4 days ago by Harper (605 rep)
#9202 user2497 (101 rep) | Q: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle? (score: 22) | posted 17 hours ago by Peaceful (646 rep) | edited 7 hours ago by NVZ (8310 rep)
@jwodder Use of force does not necessarily mean physical contact. That said, I've been in this situation myself and had to use actual physical force to disentangle myself from people repeatedly until they got the message that I am not a hugger.
Some people learn through experience, others through pain. is right on the money. See also: Learn the easy way, or the hard way. For some people actual physical contact is required for this problem. — Underverse 1 min ago
#5019 Underverse (101 rep) | A: How to redirect a real-life help vampire to an alternate source of food... um... assistance? (score: 1) | posted 103 days ago by TwoThe (367 rep)
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#9231 sphennings (480 rep) | Q: How should I approach a fellow employee who left a "bad" review of our company? (score: 0) | posted 14 minutes ago by Coomie (101 rep)
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#9229 Ray Tsai (6 rep) | Q: How to restore harmony between my family and my wife or is it necessary? (score: 1) | posted 3 hours ago by Ray Tsai (6 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Ray Tsai (6 rep)
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#9203 Wildcard (476 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle? (score: 6) | posted 19 hours ago by doctordonna (785 rep) | edited 9 hours ago by doctordonna (785 rep)
#9213 Wildcard (476 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle? (score: -3) | posted 14 hours ago by pie (1 rep)
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#9232 Jesse (2171 rep) | Q: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 1) | posted 46 minutes ago by anonymous (6 rep)
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#9233 Boondoggle (218 rep) | A: How to restore harmony between my family and my wife or is it necessary? (score: 1) | posted 23 minutes ago by doctordonna (795 rep)
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#9234 doctordonna (795 rep) | A: How to restore harmony between my family and my wife or is it necessary? (score: 1) | posted 25 minutes ago by Boondoggle (228 rep)
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#9100 davidbak (181 rep) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 7) | posted 4 days ago by T.E.D. (412 rep) | edited 4 days ago by T.E.D. (412 rep)
What do you mean by "protect"? I'm not sure how that example really supports your worry. The response to it seems to suggest that you don't need to be concerned. — Catija ♦ 55 secs ago
#9235 Catija (8621 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 0) | posted 8 minutes ago by Tim (311 rep)
@PoloHoleSet Agree with you on principle. But in practice, that would mean pulling the door shut behind you, generally in someone's face. Doing it repeatedly is a cause for social friction. Which is why I try to find the middle here. I don't facilitate holding the door open for anyone else, but I'm also not going to actively prevent them from e.g. reaching for the door just as it closes. — Flater 32 secs ago
#7095 Flater (3199 rep) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 6) | posted 55 days ago by Flater (3199 rep) | edited 55 days ago by Flater (3199 rep)
6:06 AM
This does not provide an answer to the question. Once you have sufficient reputation you will be able to comment on any post; instead, provide answers that don't require clarification from the asker. - From Review — Jarko Dubbeldam 21 secs ago
#9213 Jarko Dubbeldam (3249 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle? (score: -3) | posted 16 hours ago by pie (1 rep)
6:43 AM
@TPAKTOPA to give an example, if my little ones don't want to cuddle I just don't force them too. Because as much as I love them, if you ignore someone's boundaries, it doesn't matter why, you are giving the message that your wishes are more important than them. And learning this as a child can have terrible consequences later. — DarkPurpleShadow 5 secs ago
#8844 DarkPurpleShadow (1894 rep) | A: How to make my mom respect my wish of not being photographed? (score: -1) | posted 11 days ago by TPAKTOPA (115 rep)
Just to be clear, I want to give my mom love, which she deserves and I hopley do, but when she takes photos from me agains my will it's not love, it's being disrespectful and giving me a toxic message. — DarkPurpleShadow 7 secs ago
#8844 DarkPurpleShadow (1894 rep) | A: How to make my mom respect my wish of not being photographed? (score: -1) | posted 11 days ago by TPAKTOPA (115 rep)
7:13 AM
Why does it matter to you personally? Do you own a stake in the company? Does it make your work more difficult (such as sales becoming slower) etc? — 雰囲気読めない人 24 secs ago
#9231 雰囲気読めない人 (1359 rep) | Q: How should I approach a fellow employee who left a "bad" review of our company? (score: 0) | posted 4 hours ago by Coomie (101 rep)
@JaneS While it is fair enough that you (or the ex in OP's case) may get upset, OP does not seem close with the ex. OP's goal seems to be whatever is best for their friend, not their friend's ex... Whether risking upsetting the ex is enough for me to instead recommend trying another approach I couldn't say. — Jesse 2 mins ago
#7355 Jesse (2171 rep) | A: How can we tell a divorced friend that his ex has moved on, and appears to have a boyfriend? (score: 55) | posted 49 days ago by Bryan Turriff (1198 rep)
7:30 AM
I edited "protect myself" to "avoid sexual harassment accusations", please feel free to revert the edit if it is not what was intended — Jesse 29 secs ago
#9235 Jesse (2171 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Tim (314 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by Jesse (2171 rep)
7:57 AM
Personally, I can't see that asking for a smile is any ruder than asking someone to have a nice day. — Michael Kay 51 secs ago
#9110 Michael Kay (131 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 20) | posted 4 days ago by Wayne Conrad (309 rep)
#9202 Tom (648 rep) | Q: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle? (score: 25) | posted 24 hours ago by Peaceful (661 rep) | edited 13 hours ago by NVZ (8310 rep)
This is a really interesting topic and one more reason to be already married, but it might be a bad fit here. What do you expect to hear here that you don't already know? Be nice, treat her with respect, don't date co-workers/people that an take advantage? This one might be best if you discuss it with a lawyer. Unless you are a celebrity, in that case you have a problem, you should know what is punishable by law in your country and so on. Any other way to protect yourself is trivially with common decency — Raditz_35 29 secs ago
#9235 Raditz_35 (180 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 1) | posted 2 hours ago by Tim (319 rep) | edited 33 minutes ago by Jesse (2171 rep)
@Raditz_35 yes, the being married solves the “bad sex” bring equated to sexual assault but first I need to find someone to marry! The concern I have is not what is punishable by law, but what is punishable by society. A woman publicly accusing me in front of my current friends could be just as damaging as any criminal charges... — Tim 42 secs ago
#9235 Tim (324 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by Tim (324 rep) | edited 36 minutes ago by Jesse (2171 rep)
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#9110 Ave (101 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 21) | posted 4 days ago by Wayne Conrad (319 rep)
#9235 Raditz_35 (180 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 2) | posted 2 hours ago by Tim (324 rep) | edited 52 minutes ago by Jesse (2171 rep)
You could replace "when medically necessary" with "when absolutely necessary". It sounds like the doctor is performing a digital rectal exam for a conjunctivitis otherwise. — Eric Duminil 57 secs ago
#9218 Eric Duminil (236 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: 23) | posted 16 hours ago by IamSoNotListening (5247 rep) | edited 13 hours ago by IamSoNotListening (5247 rep)
#9118 Ave (101 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 12) | posted 3 days ago by Tycho's Nose (4984 rep)
@NotThatGuy, I don't want people - and especially not people whom I like - having to guess why something is changed. The idea is just to take away the possibility to drink my water. — Mads Aggerholm 2 mins ago
#9212 Mads Aggerholm (79 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle? (score: 7) | posted 19 hours ago by Mads Aggerholm (79 rep)
Depends on the situation. Are you trying to sell them something, is your story important? Very often, if the discussion shifts away from what you are saying, it's a good indicator people don't really care / are bored. Care to give an example ? — Raditz_35 38 secs ago
#9241 Raditz_35 (180 rep) | Q: How to handle being interrupted (score: -1) | posted 36 minutes ago by Silicabello (6 rep)
8:52 AM
#9104 Mario Trucco (101 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 62) | posted 4 days ago by doctordonna (805 rep) | edited 14 hours ago by doctordonna (805 rep)
#9232 Cursed (107 rep) | Q: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 4) | posted 5 hours ago by anonymous (21 rep)
9:16 AM
Very few of us actually stop and try to look at things from the other person's point of view. You're not really doing that right now either. This is the answer to 90% of all human relations questions ever. — Nico 32 secs ago
#9225 Nico (101 rep) | A: How to deal with a suite mate who gossips about me within the first few days of move-in? (score: 17) | posted 12 hours ago by AndreiROM (5977 rep) | edited 12 hours ago by AndreiROM (5977 rep)
9:29 AM
@Ave Though I don't necessarily disagree with you, keep in mind that a lot of times people sound awkward when trying to express themselves. And unless we can really read people's minds to know exactly what they mean - sometimes they don't know themselves - when they say something to us, we can only rely on gut feeling and unfortunately our own biases and projections. — Tycho's Nose 1 min ago
#9118 Tycho's Nose (4984 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 12) | posted 3 days ago by Tycho's Nose (4984 rep)
9:44 AM
Keep in mind, just because you used "non-aggressive and polite terms" certainly does not make the entire interaction non-aggressive and polite. You are still interrupting someone with the intention of making them feel bad. To your credit this probably works, and is at least better than "I want", which is appalling etiquette. — Jesse 52 secs ago
#9242 Jesse (2171 rep) | A: How to handle being interrupted (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Markino (2453 rep)
@JaneDoe1337 - Have you considered referring them to your supervisor? Just a simple "if you have a problem with what I'm currently doing feel free to discuss it with my supervisor". I'm sure your supervisor would be happy to set the record straight. Your coworkers might not believe you but they should believe your supervisor — Trebor 1 min ago
#9090 Trebor (121 rep) | Q: How do I explain to my coworkers I'm not 'facebooking'? (score: 7) | posted 4 days ago by JaneDoe1337 (2675 rep) | edited 4 days ago by HDE 226868 (5270 rep)
@Trebor - Please don’t write answers in comments. It bypasses our quality measures by not having voting (both up and down) available on comments, as well as having other problems detailed on meta. Comments are for clarifying and improving the question; please don’t use them for other purposes. — Arwen Undómiel 15 secs ago
#9090 Arwen Undómiel (963 rep) | Q: How do I explain to my coworkers I'm not 'facebooking'? (score: 7) | posted 4 days ago by JaneDoe1337 (2675 rep) | edited 4 days ago by HDE 226868 (5270 rep)
9:59 AM
#9244 RedSonja (695 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by RedSonja (695 rep)
#9221 Peaceful (676 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle? (score: 3) | posted 17 hours ago by WernerCD (131 rep) | edited 14 hours ago by Catija (8621 rep)
#1670 Mawg (101 rep) | Q: How do I stop my fraternity alumni from contacting me about recruitment? (score: 4) | posted 158 days ago by Alex Bochel (23 rep) | edited 130 days ago by NVZ (8310 rep)
10:22 AM
@redbow_kimee I believe this site is about what you saw. But I didn't find anything about the guard being part of the show! — frouil 2 mins ago
#7525 frouil (101 rep) | Q: How to avoid a museum guard when you feel he might endanger you? (score: 2) | posted 45 days ago by redbow_kimee (116 rep) | edited 42 days ago by Vylix (5646 rep)
Not my DV, but you say -> It would be relatively simple to seek out male doctors when OP stated [...] and among the females, 3 of them have made an 'unecessary physical contact'. I guess there's a misunderstanding somewhere... — OldPadawan 57 secs ago
#9244 OldPadawan (7736 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by RedSonja (695 rep)
10:43 AM
I don't see too much issue with the "venting" of her anger to a family member whom you'll likely never meet and who won't have any bearing on your studies or social life. It's probably better for both of you if she does this to an uninvolved party than to a co-ed or neighbour or let these feelings escalate towards a potential later outburst. — David Foerster 14 secs ago
#9224 David Foerster (101 rep) | Q: How to deal with a suite mate who gossips about me within the first few days of move-in (score: 11) | posted 14 hours ago by David Yang (96 rep) | edited 17 minutes ago by Tycho's Nose (4984 rep)
10:58 AM
@DavidRicherby the OP has mentioned visiting shamans, and it's hard to say anything shaman does is of medical necessity... — 9ilsdx 9rvj 0lo 1 min ago
#9218 9ilsdx 9rvj 0lo (131 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: 27) | posted 18 hours ago by IamSoNotListening (5297 rep) | edited 15 hours ago by IamSoNotListening (5297 rep)
Yes, it all depends how and when you say it. And it's very culturally-dependent too, for example a waiter in the US can be much more "friendly" with customers than in the UK. — Michael Kay 8 secs ago
#9110 Michael Kay (131 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 21) | posted 4 days ago by Wayne Conrad (319 rep)
#9155 bluevapor (38 rep) | A: How do I ask if I'm invited to a birthday party? (score: 3) | posted 57 hours ago by paxdiablo (211 rep)
Well, it was 3 females out of 4 non-male doctors. OP "went to" and was not blind-dated, so OP must have had some choice in the matter. — RedSonja 35 secs ago
#9244 RedSonja (695 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: -1) | posted 2 hours ago by RedSonja (695 rep)
@9ilsdx9rvj0lo I guess that must be in the comments somehwere. But I was talking about doctors. — David Richerby 27 secs ago
#9218 David Richerby (171 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: 27) | posted 19 hours ago by IamSoNotListening (5297 rep) | edited 15 hours ago by IamSoNotListening (5297 rep)
#9042 NaCl (713 rep) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 135) | posted 5 days ago by NaCl (713 rep) | edited 28 hours ago by 200_success (107 rep)
Everyone has skills that they happily share with those they love for free. Someone in your family regularly cooks for you for free, yes? Someone cleans for you? Someone organises family holidays etc... — Ben Watson 1 min ago
#9042 Ben Watson (101 rep) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 135) | posted 5 days ago by NaCl (713 rep) | edited 28 hours ago by 200_success (107 rep)
#9042 Ben Watson (101 rep) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 135) | posted 5 days ago by NaCl (713 rep) | edited 28 hours ago by 200_success (107 rep)
#9042 NaCl (713 rep) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 135) | posted 5 days ago by NaCl (713 rep) | edited 28 hours ago by 200_success (107 rep)
@Jesse keep in mind that this person has ALREADY made ME feel bad. As I said in the answer, whatever this person feels is the SAME I've already felt, therefore he/she could not blame me for "rudeness/aggressiveness" without blaming him/herself too: at that point, his/her best option (if we're speaking about a normally polite person) would be quit insisting - once realizing he/she entered a peer-to-peer battle where all peers have the same blame - and let me finish. — Markino 1 min ago
#9242 Markino (2453 rep) | A: How to handle being interrupted (score: 0) | posted 3 hours ago by Markino (2453 rep)
11:49 AM
Could you clarify what specifically you're unsure about? What more than @Raditz_35 's "Be nice, treat her with respect, don't date coworkers" do you need? Right now the question only conveys a vague fear that the evil feminists are out to get you. I think it should be more concrete, e.g. asking about a specific situation. Are you a celebrity? — AllTheKingsHorses 50 secs ago
#9235 AllTheKingsHorses (1995 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by Tim (339 rep) | edited 3 hours ago by Tim (339 rep)
Solid points @Jesse Ivy. My adviser should read this answer. I think some senior members here might suggest you incorporate these 2 explanatory comments into your answer. — English Student 7 secs ago
#9237 English Student (6092 rep) | A: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 0) | posted 5 hours ago by Ash (131 rep)
12:15 PM
I do not mind more to be touched by the opposite sex people or by the same sex people, but maybe I have a observation bias. — GlinesMome 28 secs ago
#9244 GlinesMome (408 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: 0) | posted 3 hours ago by RedSonja (705 rep)
#9235 Em C (4801 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 4) | posted 6 hours ago by Tim (337 rep) | edited 3 hours ago by Tim (337 rep)
#9235 Em C (4801 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 4) | posted 6 hours ago by Tim (337 rep) | edited 3 hours ago by Tim (337 rep)
This is the Interpersonal Skills StackExchange. I'm not sure where on StackExchange a question about job markets would be on topic, but it definitely isn't here. — F1Krazy 38 secs ago
#9252 F1Krazy (103 rep) | Q: Delphi programmers in norway (score: -1) | posted 16 minutes ago by Amir (4 rep)
#9235 Tim (337 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 4) | posted 6 hours ago by Tim (337 rep) | edited 3 hours ago by Tim (337 rep)
#9235 Tim (337 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 4) | posted 6 hours ago by Tim (337 rep) | edited 3 hours ago by Tim (337 rep)
@Tim sorry, one more question to ensure I understand. That story is about two people having sex, but your question is about "flirting". Does this mean your definition of "flirting" includes "having sex"? If not, I think the quote from Vox is misleading, as that's not the same type of situation that you're asking about. — Em C 25 secs ago
#9235 Em C (4801 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 4) | posted 6 hours ago by Tim (337 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by Tim (337 rep)
@EmC I will concede that it is two questions in one - I possibly should have split it off! Perhaps writing it at 5am was a bad idea. My concerns are twofold - the survey about 5% of women saying they consider being asked on a date harassment concerned me, and the potential for consensual sex to be recounted and twisted. I’ll consider writing a more specific question, but right now I need to sleep! — Tim 1 min ago
#9235 Tim (337 rep) | Q: What are sensible dating precautions to avoid accusations of sexual harassment? (score: 4) | posted 7 hours ago by Tim (337 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by Tim (337 rep)
#9253 雰囲気読めない人 (1359 rep) | Q: Why does virginity have a degenerative effect on interpersonal relationships? (score: 0) | posted 13 minutes ago by user11500 (6 rep)
@Jesse I simply don't do things like that (partly because I can't) but I still want to be friendly in class or while waiting for class — anonymous 5 secs ago
#9232 anonymous (26 rep) | Q: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 5) | posted 9 hours ago by anonymous (26 rep)
#9253 NVZ (8310 rep) | Q: Why does virginity have a degenerative effect on interpersonal relationships? (score: -1) | posted 15 minutes ago by user11500 (4 rep)
@Cursed I do when they come up and talk to me but no, I typically do not give out my age unless necessary — anonymous 25 secs ago
#9232 anonymous (26 rep) | Q: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 5) | posted 9 hours ago by anonymous (26 rep)
#9253 NVZ (8310 rep) | Q: Why does virginity have a degenerative effect on interpersonal relationships? (score: -1) | posted 16 minutes ago by user11500 (4 rep)
If you have the capability to help then you should. I would much rather my mum and family be able to ask me for support regardless of how much C#/VB/C++ I have to write. — Programmer 48 secs ago
#9042 Programmer (101 rep) | Q: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 137) | posted 5 days ago by NaCl (723 rep) | edited 30 hours ago by 200_success (107 rep)
Great answer, I would suggest a little more emphasis on the fact that many people consider it basic politeness that when sharing a living space you say basic greetings and keep eachother at least somewhat apprised of your comings and goings, i.e. 'I'm going out for a few hours'. You don't have to justify what you're going to do or even mention what you're going to do, but it's a good idea to make it known that you will not occupy the shared space for some amount of time. — Cronax 22 secs ago
#9225 Cronax (1144 rep) | A: How to deal with a suite mate who gossips about me within the first few days of move-in (score: 27) | posted 16 hours ago by AndreiROM (6087 rep) | edited 16 hours ago by AndreiROM (6087 rep)
Rhetorical questions, no real question, no inter personal question at all, sounds just a rant at best, a troll at worse. — Tensibai 29 secs ago
#9253 Tensibai (123 rep) | Q: Why does virginity have a degenerative effect on interpersonal relationships? (score: -3) | posted 22 minutes ago by user11500 (1 rep)
+1 this is the answer I was about to write! I was in college courses starting at 15, and while I never advertised my age, this worked well with people I was friendly with. The important part is the "thanks" :) — Em C 11 secs ago
#9237 Em C (4801 rep) | A: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 2) | posted 6 hours ago by Ash (151 rep)
#9237 anonymous (26 rep) | A: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 2) | posted 6 hours ago by Ash (151 rep)
#9253 Fl.pf. (101 rep) | Q: Why does virginity have a degenerative effect on interpersonal relationships? (score: -3) | posted 24 minutes ago by user11500 (1 rep)
@Cursed Many of these people don't "know" me besides idle chit-chat in the halls and they wish to get to know me better by doing the above activities which is what many college students do to get to know people! I have tried it but it comes across as harsh which is not the way I want to treat people who have been building up confidence all day to ask me out. — anonymous 1 min ago
#9232 anonymous (26 rep) | Q: How to respond when someone thinks I am older than I am (score: 5) | posted 9 hours ago by anonymous (26 rep)
1:18 PM
@Tycho'sNose That is my exact thought. Most people are imperfect orators, to say the least. It's usually best (even for the recipient of such a comment) to assume that it was meant in a positive way. — bvoyelr 18 secs ago
#9118 bvoyelr (131 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 12) | posted 4 days ago by Tycho's Nose (4984 rep)
Your last suggestion comes off as crude and immature. I don't believe it would be productive in most situations. — HDE 226868 ♦ 1 min ago
#9246 HDE 226868 (5269 rep) | A: How to handle being interrupted (score: -2) | posted 4 hours ago by Squiller (9 rep)
You're probably right. I was really only referring to situation where you really knows your friends really well. Should I edit out this part of my answer ? — Squiller 32 secs ago
#9246 Squiller (9 rep) | A: How to handle being interrupted (score: -2) | posted 4 hours ago by Squiller (9 rep)
@Peaceful If it was only 2... I probably wouldn't share. But on the same token... if I bought only 2, it would cost me more. I get the "bulk" items from Costco/Sams Club/etc. For example, why buy a soda from the machine downstairs for .75c... when I can buy them in a 30 pack for .25c per? Why buy a pastry downstairs for $2.50... when I can buy a box of pastries for $1.00 per? If I then share my stuff - making my day better not just because of my sweet tooth... but because I make other peoples day better... I can give half my stuff away and still spend less than if I spent my money locally — WernerCD 1 min ago
#9221 WernerCD (141 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle (score: 4) | posted 20 hours ago by WernerCD (141 rep) | edited 18 hours ago by Catija (8621 rep)
#9246 HDE 226868 (5269 rep) | A: How to handle being interrupted (score: -2) | posted 4 hours ago by Squiller (9 rep)
#9246 Squiller (9 rep) | A: How to handle being interrupted (score: -2) | posted 4 hours ago by Squiller (9 rep) | edited 35 seconds ago by Squiller (9 rep)
The key is prior planning... which is why I mentioned possibly getting a bigger container - not just a bottle, but maybe a jug. If you are walking a mile to get a glass of water... why not walk a mile and get a 2 gallon jug? I'm going to buy snacks... why not buy a LOT of snacks? The effort (for water) and money (for snacks) is going to get spent. A little extra spent now (bigger containers)... save you a trip later (if water is left in second container)... or save you a trip if someone else fill the jug... — WernerCD 49 secs ago
#9221 WernerCD (141 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle (score: 4) | posted 20 hours ago by WernerCD (141 rep) | edited 18 hours ago by Catija (8621 rep)
#9043 Erik (5635 rep) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 139) | posted 5 days ago by Jess K. (6134 rep) | edited 4 days ago by Jess K. (6134 rep)
Holy mother of god ._. How can people be so sensible seriously... If its true that you said what you said and nothing more, this is a laughing matter nothing more. I dont get and hate the trend nowadays of poeple getting triggered by everything they overhear that does not align with them. Seriously who the fuck cares what some people talk to each other if i am not part of the conversation as long as its not illegal, and jokingly saying to trodd along as a maid is nothing to get worked up about! Sorry for venting but i really dont stand the "TRIGGERED!!!!!!" trend of todays society ._. — MansNotHot 1 min ago
#1800 MansNotHot (603 rep) | Q: How should I approach a situation in which I made a female roommate uncomfortable? (score: 7) | posted 155 days ago by Supreme Grand Ruler (338 rep) | edited 27 days ago by Catija (8621 rep)
#9103 clark (187 rep) | Q: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 73) | posted 4 days ago by Jess K. (6134 rep) | edited 42 hours ago by Tinkeringbell (11588 rep)
#9082 RedSonja (705 rep) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 3) | posted 5 days ago by Astralbee (3076 rep)
There was time I could take apart and mend my own car - I studied mech eng and did an apprenticeship in aircraft construction. There was a time I could take apart and mend my own PC. These days are gone. You need special tools and training, indeed I can't even open my PC case without voiding the guarantee. — RedSonja 28 secs ago
#9070 RedSonja (705 rep) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 2) | posted 5 days ago by Mr.J (121 rep)
My dad was never afraid of mending stuff. he would point proudly to a B&O television he mended, by looking at the circuit board till he found a burnt-out track, and soldering a new one. However, his shed was full of the stuff he didn't manage to fix, but you were not allowed to buy a new one, because he was going to fix it. We didn't have a working hair dryer for 20 years. — RedSonja 45 secs ago
#9070 RedSonja (705 rep) | A: How to tell people I'm not their tech support? (score: 2) | posted 5 days ago by Mr.J (121 rep)
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#9216 henning (3542 rep) | Q: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: 13) | posted 23 hours ago by GlinesMome (418 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Community (1 rep)
#9238 Xen2050 (859 rep) | A: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: 2) | posted 8 hours ago by davidbak (201 rep)
#9104 Sip (523 rep) | A: Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (score: 65) | posted 4 days ago by doctordonna (853 rep) | edited 20 hours ago by doctordonna (853 rep)
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#9202 aslum (603 rep) | Q: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle (score: 31) | posted 31 hours ago by Peaceful (691 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by Tycho's Nose (4984 rep)
This is a really good answer, and should be given consideration on how to proceed. Since this is an Indian culture, it is best to fit yourself into their norms. They are assuming all drinkers from that bottle do not put mouth to it. It isn't very far from the water fountain concept in the US. Drinkers are expected to not touch lips to the water fountain, and everyone extends trust to each other in following that social standard. It is not only appropriate, but really necessary, for the OP to inform the others the bottle is "jootha". — Thomas Carlisle 1 min ago
#9254 Thomas Carlisle (501 rep) | A: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle (score: 3) | posted 1 hours ago by Rolen Koh (311 rep)
Please don’t write answers in comments. It bypasses our quality measures by not having voting (both up and down) available on comments, as well as having other problems detailed on meta. Comments are for clarifying and improving the question; please don’t use them for other purposes. — Arwen Undómiel 5 secs ago
#9202 Arwen Undómiel (963 rep) | Q: How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle (score: 31) | posted 31 hours ago by Peaceful (691 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by Tycho's Nose (4984 rep)
I'd argue that not pulling out and scanning your card, as specifically told to do so by the employer and then continuing to refuse when someone else doesn't want to go along with ignoring company security directives would be the "cause for social friction," but we can disagree without being disagreeable, I think. I understand your point. It requires a certain willingness to have to be a bit confrontational, potentially, if one goes down that road. — PoloHoleSet 42 secs ago
#7095 PoloHoleSet (769 rep) | A: How to ask someone to follow security protocol without sounding rude or commanding? (score: 7) | posted 56 days ago by Flater (3209 rep) | edited 56 days ago by Flater (3209 rep)
I found seeing "How to handle being interrupted [on hold]" on the topic list to be kind of humorous, in a way. Sorry about that. — PoloHoleSet 19 secs ago
#9241 PoloHoleSet (769 rep) | Q: How to handle being interrupted (score: 1) | posted 7 hours ago by Silicabello (16 rep)
Is Anne a peer - a worker of similar rank? How respected is she in the workplace? This seems like a conflict that the other workers have to have had with her, I wonder what they think or if she has some option to disregard what they think. — TheTinyMan 1 min ago
#9255 TheTinyMan (1479 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 0) | posted 11 minutes ago by Cashbee (1113 rep)
@TheTinyMan yes, Anne is of similar rank as I am. As i mentioned in the question, the others just appease her by turning their monitors off overnight. But my workstation is directly behind her and it's the only one that she has clear sight of when she looks around. So I'm the only one being consistently reminded about my monitor. — Cashbee 1 min ago
#9255 Cashbee (1118 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 1) | posted 14 minutes ago by Cashbee (1118 rep)
#9216 Strawberry (101 rep) | Q: Avoiding unnecessary touches from doctors (score: 15) | posted 24 hours ago by GlinesMome (428 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by Community (1 rep)
I don't think that making excuses for oneself is a good idea, as it will only encourage her. — AndreiROM 11 secs ago
#9256 AndreiROM (6097 rep) | A: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 17 minutes ago by Daarin (31 rep)
#9255 Paparazzi (583 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 31 minutes ago by Cashbee (1123 rep)
this isn't a inter-personal solution to your problem but more of a workaround, if you will. Why not plug all monitors into switchable powerstrips? You could also add phone chargers and printers into those strips. That way the last person just has to flip the switch and the first person to arrive switches it back on. Just make sure that computers are either plugged into another powerstrip or that you have a powerstrip with two switches. — Steffen Winkler 1 min ago
#9255 Steffen Winkler (101 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 34 minutes ago by Cashbee (1123 rep)
@SteffenWinkler Did you get the part where unplug the monitor caused a problem? What if is I need my phone to charge overnight? — Paparazzi 21 secs ago
#9255 Paparazzi (583 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 35 minutes ago by Cashbee (1123 rep)
@Paparazzi it caused a problem because the computer was powered on before the monitor was connected/powered on. That would not happen in my described scenario. — Steffen Winkler 14 secs ago
#9255 Steffen Winkler (101 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 36 minutes ago by Cashbee (1123 rep)
Also disconnected from my other two comments: If you get into an argument it may to be worth knowing that power consumption never was and never will be the issue. The problem is how we 'get' power. Coal plants are the worst problem there. Ask her why she isn't protesting those. — Steffen Winkler 51 secs ago
#9255 Steffen Winkler (101 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 39 minutes ago by Cashbee (1123 rep)
#9255 Paparazzi (583 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 42 minutes ago by Cashbee (1123 rep)
@Paparazzi I'm assuming that was meant for me? Uh...what? In my scenario a computer can be on or off, doesn't matter and is kind of irrelevant. — Steffen Winkler 51 secs ago
#9255 Steffen Winkler (101 rep) | Q: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 2) | posted 43 minutes ago by Cashbee (1123 rep)
Remember when calculating your hourly rate that there are also benefits and taxes paid on your behalf above your wages (USA). — Forklift 6 secs ago
#9261 Forklift (211 rep) | A: How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off? (score: 0) | posted 5 minutes ago by Astralbee (3076 rep)
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