The Awkward Silence

3:10 AM

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Q: Is it possible to talk politics while knowing little about politics?

So I want to have conversations with some people at my school who are pretty political - they're in debate club and taking all these social sciences in school so they have a lot to talk about. Me, being a more math and science oriented person, don't really know much about what they're saying some...

Jesse

3:50 AM

@ExtrovertedMainMan Here on IPS we are all for talking shit... such an important 'skill'

Magisch

6:21 AM

morning

@RichardU I don't know, you seem to have an exceedingly cynical view of police. In all my interactions with them they've been forthcoming and helpful

Even the one time they thought I was drunk (wasn't) they were pleasant about it all and caused no undue hassle

Tinkeringbell

interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/12982/1599 NAA: question is now about boundaries, no longer about what to say

And I'm sad that this got deleted: interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/2741/1599

Magisch

6:42 AM

@Tinkeringbell self deleted too

@Tinkeringbell It's already in the LQP queue

IPS Comment Bot

7:19 AM

@apaul I agree. It’s not the most concise blurb I’ve written. Will let it stand as is to serve as a helpful example for newcomers :-) — Sinewave Surfer 49 secs ago

#8896 Sinewave Surfer (31 rep) | A: Communicating during sex when my partner doesn't like direct questions? (score: -4) | posted 91 days ago by Sinewave Surfer (31 rep) | edited 91 days ago by Sinewave Surfer (31 rep)

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Tinkeringbell

7:32 AM

interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/a/2742/1599... REALLY?

@Magisch I put it there... glad to see people agreeing on that at least

Jesse

7:59 AM

@Magisch Usually its great for me, although one time I was too drunk to stand, vomited on the pavement, then again in a public bin and they shoved a $400 fine in my pocket... ooh to be young and a moron :D

@Tinkeringbell im surprised OP turned around and was a bit more reasonable, continuing to try and make edits... based of the first lash out I had guessed they were just going to be a total twat but they ended up genuinely trying

idk if its completely fixed now but im impressed that you all managed to push for so many edits

Tinkeringbell

@Jesse Basically, there weren't that many edits IMO, just a lot of comments explaining that asking for the skills to use is a list-type question (just like asking for libraries on SO) and that the way the question was currently set up made it also look like it was asking for a script (like Beofett said on meta). interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/2739/….

Sid

@Jesse why would you want to be around cops when you are drunk?

Tinkeringbell

It only improved after it was closed, and was followed up immediately by a meta complaining that I made them do something they didn't want (Guess what? You're not obliged to edit a closed question, just don't expect it to get reopened)

Jesse

@Sid Just trying to get home

@Tinkeringbell mmmm, well i guess its a bit mixed, better than nothing but still annoying

Tinkeringbell

@Jesse Yep...

Ah well. At least that question went better than the one with the brothers being estranged

Sid

8:08 AM

@Jesse shouldn't you be in a cab when you are drunk?

Tinkeringbell

(Oh, that one finally is on hold too, 3 hours ago: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12965/…)

Jesse

@Sid Didn't I mention that I was young and a moron... and drunk, clearly I was not making good decisions

but also... no I probably wouldn't take a cab, too expensive and they would not let you in if piss drunk

Nowadays I just wouldn't drink so much, or I would hang around until i sobered up

Sid

@Jesse get a few friends to come with you, then? That would reduce the expenses

Jesse

@Sid It was just a small story from years ago about when i got fined... I did have friends with me and we can stop nit-picking all my bad decisions, I am aware they were bad decisions

Sid

He he. Sorry. Didn't want to nitpick

Cashbee

8:15 AM

this is a job for Captain Hindsight

hi all

Jesse

I guess its my fault for sharing a dumbass story on an IPS site :D of course the details would get analysed

Mithrandir

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ | How do I deal with people trying to convince me to wear makeup?

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ | How to ask someone not to use a voice that irritates me?

Jesse

That is a very high voted question... I thought it was public knowledge that people generally shouldn't press matters like that, surprised its such a common problem

Tinkeringbell

@Mithrandir Not before there's a comment suggesting what should be improved!

Mithrandir

@Tinkeringbell meh. feel free to write one.

Tinkeringbell

8:19 AM

(the second one already has one of mine, that can be deleted. No improvement was made)

@Mithrandir Done

Mithrandir

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ | How to ask a tourist outfitter about their competitor's products

Tinkeringbell

I should not have refrained from close-voting for as long as I did. There's a way too massive amount of 'how do I say X' questions out there right now

Mithrandir

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ | How to politely inform a friend that you already have a “best friend”?

flag-pls, del-pls | VLQ | How to aproach the subject of intimacy with an ex?

flag-pls, del-pls | NaA/VLQ | How do I tactfully avoid interacting with a person I meet on the way to work every day, at a subway station?

A J

8:39 AM

outta votes

Tinkeringbell

@Mithrandir I'm still pissed off that that one isn't closed as a dupe or too broad.

IPS Comment Bot

9:28 AM

The standard method to avoid saying the truth without lying is to decline to answer. You say your parents will expect an answer, but not what you expect their reaction will be if you decline to provide one, so it's unclear why that's not an option. — fkraiem 1 min ago

#12966 fkraiem (101 rep) | Q: How to establish more boundaries with my parents? (score: 3) | posted 18 hours ago by snart (25 rep) | edited 14 hours ago by Tinkeringbell (17272 rep) | Has magic comment

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Tinkeringbell

9:39 AM

Why can't I flag this one as VLQ? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/12989/1599

Mithrandir

score

Tinkeringbell

@Mithrandir Thanks, that was faster than meta :P

Mithrandir

:)

Tinkeringbell

10:11 AM

People might want to take a look at this one, it seemed to have slipped between the cracks yesterday: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/q/12963/1599... To me, all those different situations in the question make it too broad, and a little unclear what actual skill this is about (small talk? telling people not to curse/boundaries/assertiveness?)

IPS Comment Bot

11:34 AM

@pipe: Then perhaps we merely differ on how to handle real-world situations. I think that if we act more firmly on our moral principles, the world will be a much much better place. And I also think that it is precisely because we don't in general do so, that the world is such a horrible place in many aspects. Hence I indeed think that the best interpersonal approach to such issues must include a forgiving but uncompromising stance towards unfair prejudice. Of course, I can understand if you disagree with that, but not on the morality aspect. =) — user21820 51 secs ago

#12699 user21820 (157 rep) | A: How do I deal with people trying to convince me to wear makeup? (score: 4) | posted 6 days ago by Belle-Sophie (928 rep) | edited 6 days ago by Belle-Sophie (928 rep)

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Extroverted Main Man

12:09 PM

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Q: Awkward end of conversation

Context: My new manager came three or four times telling me something similar to: This customer gave a good feedback on your work. I usually reply with a "Thanks" or "I'm glad they appreciated". Then we look each other during 5s telling nothing before my manager leaves. Question: During ...

conversations work-environment

Mithrandir

Could I borrow some comment upvotes for visibility please? interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/12966/…

Tinkeringbell

@Mithrandir You already have mine

I am very bothered by people suggesting to just roll back to the original version. That's not a solution: it will invalidate the votes of people that voted to reopen after the edit... but not automatically put the question back on hold?

Mithrandir

Wait what? I didn't think rolling back undoes votes at all.

It disputes rude/abusive flags but I don't think that's applicable here.

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