So you have consulted your pastor and the congregation, but not the people who would be receiving them, eh. You even acknowledge it has the potential to cause them embarrassment, but you have decided to go on with it anyway because... nobody knows really. What are you trying to achieve?

@anongoodnurse I think you could argue it's just as embarrassing to guys anyways (same idea with birth control discussions). It implies the same thing regardless of gender. Embarrassment is definitely a concern; embarrassment of women specifically seems odd.

@anongoodnurse - thanks for the input - I will try to think of a way to reduce any embarrassment, regardless of gender: in fact, packaging is my main concern here. I will also edit, but include the original text in bracket to address the comment.

@fkraiem - the recipients have not been consulted, but their parents are aware. The question is to avoid the embarrassment of the recipients (among other things) and I hope for some parental guidance. I am trying to achieve provision of free contraception to 100 young adults that I care about as part of a care package.

If receiving an anonymous and fairly discreet package that contains condoms is going to cause embarrassment to someone, that's probably a person who would be too mortified to purchase on their own, or to ask free services available for one, or even a friend. Maybe, and I emphasize, maybe, that's exactly the person who would need to get condoms in a care package.

I think the problem here is that there are so many different sizes to be had that a person needs to try several to see what fits. Being improperly equipped could lead to a very embarrassing situation that could scar multiple people for life (partners and recipients). Maybe a pamphlet that describes use and has coupons might be a better fit for the care package? I know a..friend...who was injured by an improperly fitted device.

If one has a care package/mail -- why would it be opened in a common room? I'd open it in my room. Also, even if I had 3 roommates, I would still have as much privacy as I wanted -- simply by choosing my time. I think kids in general are not embarrassed by sex like some may have been when they were young. We could not admit to menstruating -- now it is a non-issue. No one can control what comes in a church care package! Probably at worst the recipient makes a jokes and calls the giver an idiot. Also if the student is so very embarrassed, they may not need the condoms.

... what is a "care package"? The whole premise seems very awkward... why would you send a kindergarden toolkit+condoms to a college student?

@Bakuriu - Sorry, I should clarify; a care package is a box of goodies for college students (et al) that usually has some extra things that they could use: anything from home-baked goods, canned soups, etc., toiletries, coupons, even I have seen little flashlights and once a bunch of quilted blankets. The package is delivered to help make the first days 'away from home,' a little bit nicer for students.

You could ask this question without all the religious excuse making you did. Since you added that (and it is irrelevant to the question), I will add a comment which I hope will stand as long as the question stands in it's current form. I disagree with your position, your pastor's position, and your church's position ONLY because it goes against the bible. Yes, we all fall short of the bible. However, this encourages falling short, and that should not be. Please don't delete this comment as long as the full diatribe of excuse making persists

shipping condoms has nothing to do with parenting. the poster specifically asked we not address any parenting or pre marital sex issues. this post is off topic.

Do the colleges they are going to not offer free condoms already? (This is just a side question). Are there still colleges that don't do that?

@JasonC - I'm not sure; they're going off to a variety of colleges. I think some of them my be too embarrassed or not informed enough to get them even if they're available, so I was seeking any parents' experience with this, I guess regardless of college. I know one is going to Baylor, which I suspect does not offer free condoms.

Hrm. Well, it's a shame they were all raised in such a way that they are now embarrassed by condoms. Maybe something to try to get right a bit earlier on for future generations. Anyways, seems like a good plan; good luck!

@JasonC - Oh, I don't know if they were, and I don't know if they've already been sexually active, I just don't suspect that their first thing to do will be to go seek out condoms; college is a brave, new world. That's why I'm hoping for some parents input.

They are teens - look for a good educational video on Youtube, and print a QR code with the link into the package.

@JasonC at least, by raising them all like this, we won't have to wait very long for the next generation to arrive!

@AdamHeeg I guess that attitude is why the US has such issues with teen pregnancy compared to less religious countries.

Most folks would've had sex already by the time they leave for college...