You know, the thing with autism is that you're constantly pushed to act normal and so you're invited to share stuff and such. This week, anytime I've tried to open up I've been shut down. And it makes me feel so worthless. i'm like "okay so... what do you want ultimately? That I speak and share or that I stick to being caught in my thoughts?"
sometimes I wish I were a robot
anyway. Don't wanna bother you with that. it's just a clue on why I love non human animals so much :p
Who.. no it's okay, who are you trying to open up to?
I think sometimes people close to you aren't good to talk to because you have to ummm like you can't relax because you're thinking, I need to say it the right way, I can't say something about them, etc ...
The same 'act normal' problem almost :)
I mean, I can't claim to be able to relate, and I don't think I'm very good at talking so if someone expects me to have a solution it's hard... maybe that's a reason to shut someone down, if you don't think you can fix it, I don't know.
Personally I found speaking to a 'professional' helpful.
But mostly because I could get an objective view of my situation.
@DavidS Easier, I think. You have time to think about what you're gonna say. you choose who you talk to so chances are you find people who'll be alike / will understand what you're talking about. VG.SE is great for that. I'm not called extremist for eating plants over there :D
@DavidS No worries :) I was just trying to expand on why I think it's easier to communicate with non human animals
Oh, so, English is also not your first language, right? So (if you don't mind me asking) does that make it harder (which I would assume is the case) or do you find that the extra layer of translation helps to hide misunderstanding behind language barrier?
I suppose in person it's worse because it's still real-time.
I think my English is pretty good (especially for someone's who's born in France haha). To this day, there are little texts I can't read without a dictionary (I'm thinking Shakespeare et al). The thing is, I haven't lived abroad for long enough to be able to build my speech the way English speaking people do. A fair amount of what I say still looks a lot like how I would build my sentences in French.
You speak correctly but not overly correct (like, you use contractions like "who's" instead of "who is" which non-native speakers sometimes do because they've been taught to do it 'properly').
@DavidS Haha. My German is very well constructed and polite. That's because I didn't have the chance to practice that much. I used to chat with a SE German friend and the first I wrote them an email, they thought it was spam because of the way I was speaking.
re: linguistics I've tried to learn Spanish about 12 different times, mostly with Duolingo, and never getting very far
My wife studied in Spain for a semester and speaks it pretty well -- we visited Sevilla this past summer and I did my best to listen and speak, but it's such a hard skill for me to learn
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