[Method of snake oil thought]
Let
$$L_n(f(n,m))=\sum_{n\in I}f(n,m)=a_m$$
Then consider generating function:
$$F(x)=L_m(a_mx^m)=\sum_{m \in J}a_mx^m=\sum_{m \in J}\sum_{n\in I}f(n,m)x^m$$
Now by linearity of $L$
$$F(x)=L_m(a_mx^m)=L_m(L_n(f(n,m))x^m)=L_m(L_n(f(n,m)x^m))$$
$$F(x)=L_n(L_m(f(n,m)x^m))$$
$$F(x)=L_m(a_mx^m)=L_n(L_m(f(n,m)x^m))$$
If $\displaystyle{L_m(f(n,m)x^m)=G(x)=L_n(b_nx^n)}$, then
$$F(x)=L_m(a_mx^m)=L_n(b_nx^n)$$
$$a_k=b_k$$