after a huge shouting contest between everyone involved (I disengaged and left the room asap), they left (it was late evening and they live 4 hour drive away)
few days later they called my wife to "apologize", kinda did a half-assed apology and asked if I was gay or trans
we were gonna tell them sometime after christmas anyway, so wife told them yes, I'm trans
and holy floodgate of 7 years of stuff opened up
even though they've always acted like they liked me (other than the few occasions where I've pissed them off really bad by doing nothing), it was easy to tell that they never actually approved of our relationship
and they were saying stuff that I was using my wife to get into Canada and didn't actually love her (if that was the case, I could've left 2 years ago because I have been a permanent resident of Canada for 4 years and with sponsorship I'm only supposed to stay with my wife for 2 years in order for it to not be considered a "green card" marriage)
we have a mortgage together and a child together
all of those things happened AFTER I was "free to leave"
but apparently I'm using her 🤷🏼♀️
and they think I'm not fit to be a parent because I'm trans
anyways, they point of this story is that holy crap it's the best thing that has happened to me in months
I don't have to pretend to be someone I'm not, I don't have to tiptoe around them in fear of upsetting them
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I wasn't "allowed" to be openly trans because wife was afraid they'd find out before we were ready
I'm openly trans at work now and this whole thing gave me a huge confidence boost
and I won't have to spend christmas with in-laws trying to not upset them with my existence
tl;dr big drama with in-laws, made me feel great tho