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Max
Max
01:29
Curious how you folks would handle this situation. I am in a small "networking circle" of people with similar career backgrounds/interests that has been meeting monthly since December. One member of the group, say Nelson, tends to be quite pushy with career advice: "You NEED to ask this question in a job interview," "You NEED to write your cover letter like this" and so on. The advice isn't bad, but it's standard boilerplate about "action verbs," being a confident negotiator, and often isn't sensitive to the specific person's communication style.
^ Apologies for the long post. I was going to post this as a question here or on the Interpersonal Relationships SE site, but Nelson seems like the sort of person who reads these boards on occasion, so the more ephemeral medium of this chatroom feels a bit safer.
 
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AIQ
AIQ
04:51
@Max He wanted to introduce you to someone who's been working in a job similar to one that you accepted - OK, but why would he ask for your resume to introduce you to them and why'd you give it?
You say he's pretty fresh out of undergrad - Does he have industry/job experience or is his resume advice/critique based on what he learnt from his university career coach? And also, if he is fresh out of college, why is he reviewing your resume?
Personally, I've also asked very experienced people to critique my resume - my supervisors, my professors, and some senior folks here ...
Max
Max
You are asking the same questions I am!
At the time he offered me the introduction, I had been offered the job but not yet accepted it. Even so, I am interested in meeting his contact because we will be doing similar roles and it would be nice to have a mentor in the same field but at a different firm so I can get a sense of what I'm worth etc.
His resume advice is basically what you would get from a university career coach. Not bad, but not privileged insider knowledge based on working in HR in my field or something like that.
AIQ
AIQ
My suggestion would be to let it go this time so you don't ruin the working relationship. But for next time, just be a little more conservative when people ask for your resume like this.
Max
Max
Fair enough
He also sent me his resume as an "example"
One of my friends wryly suggested that I give his resume a critique, too. "More whitespace"
AIQ
AIQ
If he has made lots of suggestions and done so thoroughly, I'd thank him for his time.
lol
I'd avoid doing that. Unless you want to be helpful, there's not point creating a perpetual war of correcting each others negligible errors
From what I've learnt, resumes are a very personal thing, your style and wording is personal to you, if someone asks you to follow a stock resume that they are following, then don't.
 
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Lilienthal
Lilienthal
20:46
FYI, you might notice some clean-up of posts and users. Got some trolls straying out from under their bridge it seems. :)
zmike
zmike
21:01
@Lilienthal I saw a question earlier today about an IT team/department being extremely uncooperative. Seems similar in spirit to one a few day (weeks?) ago. Is that one gone as well?
Lilienthal
Lilienthal
21:12
@zmike That's the one yes.
The general pattern for most of these is setting up some kind of unrealistic scenario then still asking for an approach such as "IT won't do their job and we can't do anything about it, what do we do?"
The real answer is "within the parameters of your scenario and position, nothing". But of course that's not what usually happens with questions like this.
There's several others in that vein that hit HNQ and we've mostly kept the posts alone since they still had decent answers.

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