6:34 AM
I went a few days without thinking about this. I was reminded however when I came to the site and noticed this room.
But, considering most people recover from the loss of their family members, I'll hedge my bets that his family has a decent support network and will recover in time.
But this analytical approach is ... detached. There is no feeling. Rather than cope I kind of feel like I've escaped.
It's still very say, but my logic tells me "move on, it's over, there's nothing you can do, they will probably be fine."
It's over. Though I would have loved to, any chance to meet Affable Geek in person has passed and will not present itself again.
So my logic says "move on, it's over ..." I still can't stop thinking about it at times. Like right now.
9 hours later…
4:13 PM
@fredsbend For what it's worth, I contacted his church (Southview Community Church) and explained who we are and how important Affable was to us. The pastor wrote back and let me know that he was able to talk about this community at the memorial service and forwarded my email to the family. I included a link to our memorial thread on meta.
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5 hours later…
8:51 PM
I want death to be wrong. I want it to be unnatural because that gives me hope that it is escapable.
We knew it was coming and it was blatantly obvious that he was going to die that day about 10 hours before he finally did.
His body just stopped working. Almost immediately, his face jaundiced, then grayed about 10 minutes later.
With my limited but better than average understanding of biology, it was plainly obvious that this was an entirely natural effect of an earlier cause (a very complicated cause it turns out).
The systems (biology) where no longer working and were collapsing under their own strain. The cascade effects of age finally caught up and his body could no longer function.
It's all chemistry. And once he "died", or stopped breathing (which is the last thing to go right before the liver and heart functions), the chemistry continued and with no more or less vigor than when he was alive.
I had to dwell on this for a while and study a bit more about the biology of death, but it eventually became so obvious that all of it is well understood and explained, and it doesn't seem to have any spiritual implications if you start from a non-belief (skeptic's) stance in the first place.
Nothing special actually happened. The chemistry came together at conception and the result was this baby.
If it was special and spiritual and God "gave life and breath" to him, then we might wonder why it is so scientifically predictable.
Granted, there still much we don't know about this, but from what we do know, it becomes more and more clear that the body is nothing more than an amalgamation of macro-chemical processes.
Everything the body does is induced by a chemical (or sometimes thousands) and can be explained and artificially induced via artificial introduction of those chemicals. That's why medicine works consistently.
With regards to baby making, we at least theoretically know how to select genes, force conception and implantation, menses, prevent menses, induce labor, prevent/postpone labor, and treat the fetus for conditions before it is even born.
And this all comes from an understand that looks at the body as a giant, super-complex chemical reaction.
Where years ago, the Lord closed wombs. The Lord gave you still borns. The Lord brought your menses when you were 8 weeks pregnant. The Lord made you labor 40 hours.
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Affable Geek Memorial
To remember Affable Geek, who passed away February 14, 2015