When you spend your whole life being told that your identity is a flaw or a deviance or an abomination by bigots, and a huge swath of people who try to distance themselves from the overt bigotry but still maintain that certain identities are "default", it hurts.
Queer people crave positive representation. We need it. Not just for us, but so others can see that we exist in a positive way. And it is disingenuous to claim that it isn't anti-queerness. There are straight romance storylines in games all the time and never ever ever do people rage about them. But the second a queer character exists people pop up out of the woodwork to claim we are pushing it down people's throats.