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07:08
Since it's on the "quiet floor", I would slip them a piece of paper asking them if we could talk, then move to an area where speaking is acceptable. Talking to them right then and there might put you in the same situation, disrupting the other patrons trying to study in silence. — Elmy 1 min ago
#21161 Elmy (4469 rep) | A: How can I ask someone in a quiet library to stop clearing their throat? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by qoba (223 rep) | Toxicity 0.35927603 | tps/fps: 0/0
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Mithrandir
Mithrandir
07:47
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avazula
avazula
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Mithrandir
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IPS Comment Bot
IPS Comment Bot
12:02
You mention that you want daily free time. Does your wife get daily free time? Perhaps you should organise daily time off for both of you and see if that helps. — Johanna just now
#21166 Johanna (1648 rep) | Q: What can I do to improve my current marriage situation? (score: 0) | posted 45 minutes ago by ThinkTank (156 rep) | edited 33 minutes ago by ThinkTank (156 rep) | Toxicity 0.09561377 | tps/fps: 0/0
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Ælis
Ælis
12:33
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IPS Comment Bot
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12:58
@Johanna from what the OP says it sounds like he's doing his part for house chores and child care, so his wife does have daily free time. — DaveG 1 min ago
#21166 DaveG (4765 rep) | Q: What can I do to improve my current marriage situation? (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by ThinkTank (161 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by ThinkTank (161 rep) | Toxicity 0.19157001 | tps/fps: 0/0
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IPS Comment Bot
IPS Comment Bot
17:20
Why would they give any other feedback than the one you just told them? I mean, you've messed up, you know it, they know it, you acknowledge. What else? Isn't that what rehearsal are about? Learn from your mistakes and improve? I've done a quick search (because I remember reading something like that years ago), and almost all results say the same. Did you search any useful advice on the web? Might be worth. And if it helps, then we write a kind of community answer? — OldPadawan 40 secs ago
#21165 OldPadawan (15017 rep) | Q: How to invite my band-members/coworkers to give me feedback on my performance? (score: 3) | posted 6 hours ago by avazula (8035 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by avazula (8035 rep) | Toxicity 0.08916661 | tps/fps: 0/0
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IPS Comment Bot
IPS Comment Bot
19:56
@Ælis To my eye, this is essentially a frame challenge outlining that the OP's suggested course of action will not work to achieve the stated goal. Only focusing on the most narrow task (discussing the new agreement) when the actual goal seems to be something different strikes me as a bit pedantic. — Upper_Case 1 min ago
#21169 Upper_Case (12652 rep) | A: Leaseholder suddenly increased everyone's rent, saying when he renewed lease with owner, they increased it (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by gnasher729 (5743 rep) | edited 6 minutes ago by gnasher729 (5743 rep) | Toxicity 0.24884169 | tps/fps: 0
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IPS Comment Bot
IPS Comment Bot
20:12
@Ælis The OP already has a written agreement which didn't help, an unclear view of their role (there is no leverage to negotiate), and a very clear month-to-month tenancy which guarantees that the outcomes the OP wants can't be enforced. I think that the last line (prior to the P.S.) encapsulates this: there isn't an IPS solution, for the reasons illustrated in the preceding paragraphs. — Upper_Case 1 min ago
#21169 Upper_Case (12652 rep) | A: Leaseholder suddenly increased everyone's rent, saying when he renewed lease with owner, they increased it (score: 0) | posted 3 hours ago by gnasher729 (5743 rep) | edited 23 minutes ago by gnasher729 (5743 rep) | Toxicity 0.08527677 | tps/fps:
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IPS Comment Bot
IPS Comment Bot
22:51
why do you want to tell him this? Seriously, what would be gained compared to waiting for Ophelia to tell him? Until you know what you want to do (eg spare him pain, make sure he knows, give him a chance to do something (what?) sooner / in-time) nobody can advise you how to do it. Telling him you've heard a rumour is easy. That's not your question, right? — Kate Gregory 7 secs ago
#21173 Kate Gregory (30240 rep) | Q: Informing friend their girlfriend might be pregnant (score: 1) | posted 9 minutes ago by Anilla (1415 rep) | Toxicity 0.10540167 | tps/fps: 0/0
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