It's mostly focused on a primary character who desperately wants to get "out" - to be able to reach the real world. But the other characters consider this world real, significant - and, CONFLICT.
(sorry, needed to get something for my daughter suddenly)
So to her friends, she's self-destructive. She herself feels desperately trapped.
The perpetually-in-planning one is an SF detective story.
There, the concept is that people can conveniently make temporary clones of themselves, and merge with them pretty much at any later point - their memories are merged back together.