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1:55 PM
hello
 
2:15 PM
i'm tired
of everything
 
oh yea?
 
yeah
 
What's the effective difference between Bisexual and Pansexual?
 
they're kinda the same kinda not. bisexual still works within a binary gender system. pansexual is basically the term updated to account for a spectrum. they're kinda interchangeable and alot of people who consider themselves bi would be fine with being considered pan.
 
Yea, I understand the syntactical difference, but it's hard to imagine a bi-person that would be against dating (etc) someone who was nonbinary.
 
2:27 PM
I'm sure there are bisexual people who don't believe in a gender spectrum. I used to have a hard time imagining that self-identified feminists would be against trans rights but TERFs do exist. Unfortunately.
 
yeah which is why they're basically interchangeable. a bi person may have more reservations about it than a pan person thjough
 
interesting.
 
I'm trying to explain it but um yeah it's um a bit difficult to get into the nuance
 
thanks!
 
it's a complicated question. My best answer is that they're basically interchangeable
 
2:39 PM
it really is a complicated question because there's lots of definitions of bisexuality
 
thanks for the chat!
 
and the newer the definition you're using, the more interchangeable they are
 
yeah
 
Is it insensitive to make up words for identities for the sake of "the newer the"
 
I'm not gonna answer this as I feel that I could step on some toes depending on how I answer
 
2:45 PM
@doppelgreener demipangynosexual
 
2:59 PM
what do you mean "the newer the"?
@goodguy5 you just say you're demisexual and pansexual and gynosexual typically
 
Nah. take the German language approach and smoosh em all together.
 
Yeah, in principle, Bisexuality refers to attraction to 'either' gender whereas Pansexuality refers to attraction 'regardless' of gender, but given that those words were invented at very different points in time from each other, I think it's easier to just observe that they kind of mean the same thing in modern colloquial use and just have differently dated origins.
Like, there's probably a few people who started identifying as bisexual before they were even aware that pansexual was a word for a type of attraction.
Trying to parse out "what's the difference" isn't really an argument about the actual semantic meanings of those words, it's kind of just a lesson on history and the evolution of words.
 
@Xirema I just asked my friend about it (who identifies as bi) and she said "So far, people I have been attracted to have fallen in either the male or female category. if it comes up, I'll amend my label."
 
@goodguy5 Yeah, and I'm not prepared to challenge how she feels about it. It's a kind of slippery conversation, fraught with a lot of potential to accidentally (even if with well intentions) invalidate someone's identity.
 
3:15 PM
Though, the concept of non-binary people and sexuality always interested me in a semantic sense.

I'm sure that I would have no problem being with an individual who was biologically female, but did not identify as female.
Does that alter my identity as "Heterosexual"?
ignore that slipup
 
Depends on what your concept of the gender spectrum entails.
And what your concept of sexual orientation is.
 
@goodguy5 I think terms like "heterosexual" and "homosexual" probably need to be dropped from any kind of non-academic context, if I'm being totally honest. Because the way they're derived and intended to be used just doesn't apply very well to a more modern conception of human attraction/sexuality.
It's not that I think the terms are "offensive" in that way so much as I just think they're bad at expressing the concepts we're trying to say.
 
Plus, your reality hasn't really changed. Maybe your name for it might, but it doesn't sound like your actual identity has.
 
Which brings me back to my half-joke from earlier:

Gynosexual. but you're going to get a lot of weird looks if you put that on your facebook profile
 
Ash
I just say I am bi because that means less frustrating conversations with people who dont want to understand. I get why people think it could be exclusionary but I am enby on top of all that so have fun with that I guess?
 
3:20 PM
Your identity is no less valuable or valid than it was before.
 
fair
 
Like, being a man attracted primarily to women isn't strictly about sex, or reproduction, or about your gential configuration (and that of your partner's). It might be, for a specific person, but that doesn't describe all flavors of "straightness", so to speak.
 
If the "before" qualifier even makes sense.
 
i've missed alot
 
Ash
Honestly, the only person who can really define where you fit is you.
 
3:22 PM
this would be muchsimpler if it was just people who liked other people and people who aren't attracted to other people.
 
Ash
Like how I interpret my bisexuality or whatever is not how someone else will, other people will say I am pan or whatever, but shrug
 
Uh anyways
 
Ash
Use the stickers that make the most sense to you, be willing to change the stickers if enough changes that those stickers get itchy and weird and not comfy.
3
 
yeah
 
also definitely splurge for the scratch-n-sniff stickers if you can, those are super-fun
 
Ash
3:25 PM
Always. Or glittery ones,
 
Oilies!
do they still have those?
 
@Yuuki that has a really uncomfortable connotation when referring to sexuality.
"yep, this one smells like furries"
 
does it though?
 
I mean......
 
I'm not entirely understanding of the link.
 
3:26 PM
If that's what you're in to. =P
 
that's true. Xirema, you've convinced me
 
just a random question.
 
distilling a sexuality scent that would attract others of the same scent is genius.
 
@Gwideon Ah, so you've staked out the pro-Bohr position of the debate between him and Einstein, go on.
 
@goodguy5 um...aren't those pheromones?
 
3:27 PM
Has anyone gotten one of those "hello my name is...." name tags and written Inigo Montoya in it
 
Are they still pheromones if they're synthetic?

But otherwise, yes.
 
Ash
@Gwideon so many people
 
@Gwideon no, but I've seen it done.
 
it's something I've always wanted to do
 
then do it.
preferably not at a job fair
 
3:28 PM
@Gwideon I mean, I've never specifically done that before, but I can't think of a good reason not to....
 
@Gwideon I saw a shirt that had written "Sylar" instead. Man, Heroes was such a good one-season show.
 
Ash
@goodguy5 except for the fact that all of this is fluid and personally defined so it gets weird
 
It's a shame that they ended after that first season.
 
Ash
@Yuuki its really too bad they didn't do more
 
@Ash well, yea. it'd have to be fluid; how else would you drop it onto the sticker?
 
3:29 PM
@Yuuki that's how I feel about tron uprising
 
Ash
@goodguy5 facepalm
 
I often give "skullcrusher" when asked for my name at sandwich shops and the like.
@Ash you're welcome ^_^
 
@Xirema Apologies for the slip-up; while Bohr was representing Heisenberg's position in that debate, Heisenberg himself was not actively debating Einstein about the merits of their respective positions in that debate.
 
oh science jokes
they're all really relative
sorry couldn't help myself
anyways I'll show myself out
Anyways um how do people feel about how things are going on meta. sorry
 
@Gwideon My impression is that things have calmed down into an uneasy tension, but I've also been disengaged from it for the most part, so my impression could be severely mistaken.
 
3:38 PM
yeah it seems that way. um alot of the vitriol seems to have moved to chats
i'm just glad the transphobic stuff has stopped for the most part. Um i'm still kinda freaked out about that psuedo code but um yeah
sorry
 
@Gwideon I know it's probably a knee-jerk reaction, but you should try and stop apologizing for everything. You have no reason to be sorry and no need to say it (and it may actually be a negative feedback for yourself by doing so.)
 
it's kinda a knee jerk reaction
 
Part of becoming confident is in the realization that who you are and what you say is okay. Don't undermine yourself, you're better than that!
 
^
 
And I understand that's not easy, but it does start with you.
 
3:51 PM
Great phrasing. I've been trying to formulate that sentence for a few days
 
yeah
i have trouble having confidence in my own views. i feel like I have to apologize to everyone sometimes
 
You can't spell "confidence" without "con" so go to the gym.
 
Self affirmation is often suggested. find something that you feel good/capable at.
 
Video game?
 
I can't answer that. If you tell yourself "I'm good at video games" and that validates you, then go for it.
 
3:58 PM
okay
Um this is probably damaging but does anyone know where the um pseudo code is. I
 
I'm a good father. I'm very personable. I'm pretty smart. I give nice hugs.
@Gwideon I couldn't find it after 5-10 minutes of searching.
 
I'd like to know how the person intended to implement it so I could hopefully find loop holes
 
@Gwideon pseudo code?
 
@Gwideon well, it's hard to find loop holes in pseudo code because it's not real. It's basically an outline. So, the actual implementation of "do evil" is very vague.
 
I have, at minimum, two brain cells. So I can at least rub those together. Which is nice, I suppose.
 
4:02 PM
Um there have been mentions of pseudo code that crawls through user bios looking for indicated pronouns and um moving those people into a category to be doxxed
 
gwideon, do you have the meta question handy?;
 
no I don't
 
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Q: I am non-binary - recent events have made SE less safe for me (and other members of the LGBTQ community)

someoneI am a member of the network and posting anonymously for my safety. CW: References to and examples of hate speech I don't want to put blame anywhere, but unfortunately due to the huge turmoil created by the recent CoC changes, several right-wing websites have started reporting and thus directed...

 
Also pseudocode is good for getting the basic gist of how a programmer is approaching a problem (in this case doing evil). that may help me get some insight into the methods they intend to use.
 
@Gwideon Important to bear in mind though: pseudocode can be as explicit or abstract as it wants to be.
 
4:08 PM
true
 
Like, I can write code like store_doxxing_info_in_database, which might elide the fact that as written in Java or C++, it might very well be like 200 lines of code, split across SQL markup and the boilerplate needed to actually construct a Prepared Statement, connect to the Database, handle possible errors/reconfigure...
So just because someone wrote pseudocode on how to do it doesn't mean that stuff was ever going to be viable for someone to actually use it.
 
true
it's still bothering me though. I can't get it out of my head
it makes me scared.
 
@Gwideon Which is valid. It's super crappy that people write that kind of stuff.
 
yeah
I'm just glad there seems to be some kind of tense cease fire while the new moderator process is getting feedback.
 
There are awful people out there. You can spend your brain on them, or you can spend your brain on yourself and things that make you happy/happier. Don't let the awful take you over. That's what they want.
 
4:16 PM
I'm going to say this and it's probably not going to come off the way I want.

but If you're sitting around idly worrying about "scary things people write about on the internet", you're going to have a bad time and you should try to stop.

If you find yourself unable to stop, you should consider asking a medical professional if some sort of medicine is right for you; my wife takes anxiety medicine and it does wonders.
Which is in no way to say that people aren't doing scary things. they are.
 
Ash
Or just finding someone to talk to about it, who's trained in these things. Doesn't always have to be meds (although those totes have their place! They're super helpful, just not in every single case)
 
It's not the words themselves for me it's the possibility of physical harm coming to me and my loved ones behind those words that really scare me.
 
Thanks Ash. that's a good point.
And of course it's not the words, but rather the implication.
 
I don't know how to talk about this stuff without outing myself
 
@Gwideon Medical professionals are a good bet here if you can get access to them. It may even be helpful to try and broach the subject with your parents now. Bringing them to understanding will not only enlarge their own world view, but also realize how it's affecting you.
 
4:24 PM
um let's move on
 
@Gwideon what do you mean?
@Gwideon oh, nevermind
 
@goodguy5 um my parents don't know a I'm non-binary. I have to hide that and I fear that would be one thing to many.
 
@Gwideon tbh, I thought that was what you came out about. Sorry for misunderstanding
 
@goodguy5 It's all good
 
 
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5:42 PM
@Ash i like calling them stickers. :) i like that more than i like calling them labels.
 
Ash
@doppelgreener Labels are boooooring stickers are fun and can have glitter or shiny or be fun shapes or bright colours and just are better
 
5:58 PM
@Ash you are completely right
also labels aren't meant to come off, stickers are just there for as long as you like them. labels mean "this is what's true and it's not changing", stickers are "look at this shiny thing i like for now!"
 
Ash
@doppelgreener Yes! Stickers are mutable.
 
That's the word!
 
Ash
I am kinda proud I remembered the word.
 
6:20 PM
@Ash unlike strings
 
6:42 PM
hello
 
/me waves.
 
how are you
 
Ash
@goodguy5 My brain knows this is because strings are immutable but I don't understand it, it's something I can blindly parrot though from various CS type humans around me
 
in a nutshell, There are two components at play. The String's real (excuse the word) identity, which I will refer to as String-Soul, and the the variable that we have assigned to the string.

So, newstring = "abc"; The String-Soul "abc" is created and the variable newstring reflects that.

When I then set newstring = "def"; the String-Soul "def" is created and the variable newstring is now a reflection of "def"; while the String-Soul "abc" hangs out.

side note: the place Strings hang out is called the String Pool.
 
i'm very confused
 
Ash
6:56 PM
@goodguy5 So "abc" still exists, somewhere.
 
@Gwideon computer science jargon. nothing to worry about
@Ash yes. until..... something happens. If there are no active reflections of "abc", then after a while, the string pool can flush it, so to speak.
 
Ash
@goodguy5 Ah, okay
That makes sense, I think
enough for now anyhow
 
It took me about 3 months to get my head around it, if that helps lol
 
Technically only true for languages like Java where everything is Garbage Collected.
In C++, only String Literals are immutable; and even then not always.
 
@Xirema yea, but the String Pool isn't subject to garbage collection, like other memory objects. It's an entirely different subprocess
@Xirema That's because you can edit physical memory locations.
 
6:58 PM
@goodguy5 Fair enough.
 
like a madman
 
Like, char const* string = "Hello world"; is an immutable string.
But char string[] = "Hello world"; is mutable.
And std::string string = "Hello world"; creates a mutable string by copying into its buffer from an immutable string.
 
@Xirema that's because you're making an array of characters, that's cheating!
 
okay
I like computer science stuff but this is a bit over my head
 
that's fine :)
 
Ash
7:00 PM
I don't think I understand it anymore :P
I was doing so well! :P
 
what language are we talking about
 
Somewhere between Java and C++
 
okay
it's sad that most of my experience is purely with website design. All i really know well is html5, css, and Javascript
 
Those are relevant skillsets. people pay other people to do those things
 
yeah but I want to do more game design stuff. I have a tiny amount of expierence with c++ but not enough to do anything meaningful
I do have web design stuff to fall back on but um it's not really my main passion
 
7:08 PM
in my experience, that's what hobbies are for.
I'd actually really like to be a 3d modeler. but between being lousy at it and the field being mega competitive.... Well, I'm a data engineer
 
the problem is I don't know if I'm good enough at web design to be hired.
anyways moving on
does anyone else feel a little uneasy. not sure what it is but I do right now
 
Have you done the human things? eat, poop, water, etc.
 
yeah I have
 
maybe you're keyed up? play a game or something?;
 
yeah probably a good Idea
 
7:19 PM
@Ash Everything you said before was correct and made sense for a specific language, but not all languages have the same rules. That's all.
 
Ash
@Xirema oh right, I forget that
I forget how different they are, in my head it's all just this amorphous lump of "stuff I don't understand"
 
8:04 PM
it's interesting how unique many coding languages can be
also is it just me or is javascript really annoying to deal with
 
i mean you're not wrong
@Gwideon speaking as a current js developer, i figure it out as i go along
 
I hate having to use it as Something always seems to go wrong and while i'm trying to debug the whole thing just tends to end up in a confusing mess
 
Rule Zero of (web) development is that something will always go wrong. Rule One is that your codebase will always end up a confusing mess.
 
and with JS it tends to be one tiny little syntax thing that breaks the entire thing
 
I had to debug some client code the other day and it turned out that their critical bug was because they forgot how boolean coercion works with regards to numbers.
PSA: Number(0) is false-y.
Don't use if (list.childrenCount) to check if a list exists or has children.
JS has a lot of weird quirks and behaviors but they make sense if you keep in my mind that JS is designed to be website code and the number one priority is to not crash. So if you ask JS to do a boolean comparison between a number and a string, it'll try to make it work instead of sys.exit(-1).
 
8:19 PM
true
It's still annoying when it breaks
anyways does anyone else code while listening to music.
also um what's is everyone's opinion on scratch
and um block programming in general
 
@Gwideon I need certain kinds of music to code to, something like one of those lo-fi channels on Youtube. Music I actually really like is usually too distracting for me to code to, because I keep focusing on the music. XD
 
@Xirema Hard rock for me or movie/ game music.
 
8:39 PM
@Gwideon I don't code, but I do listen to music while I do my art and layout work. Music, or I have a TV show or a Lets Play or something in the background.
 
sounds about right
but yeah um sorry
 
Ash
When I am doing graphic design or similar I tend to listen to stuff without words so I don't get distracted by singing along.
(I have a playlist that is called "Newsletter" for that reason)
 
okay
 
I play one song on a loop usually.
My record is 65 loops of Florence + the Machine's cover of "Stand By Me", I think.
I'm currently on a "Bridge Over Troubled Water" kick.
 
hmmm
 
8:50 PM
@Gwideon I just popped into the tavern for a moment, so I'm not sure if your python remark was serious or there was something I was missing. But let me know if you need any help python-wise
 
It satisfies my "argh, i'm obsessing" brain tic while also being monotonous enough that I don't focus on the music over programming or working or wahtever.
 
I've been listening to through the fire and the flames and the fire emblem awakening soundtrack.
 
I listen to all kinds of stuff, but I keep coming back to Bob Dylan, Janelle Monáe, and Tool.
 
@AndrasDeak yeah it was serious.
 
@BESW There was a stint where I was on "The Times They Are A-Changin'" for awhile but I think it was a cover, not Dylan's.
 
8:52 PM
@Yuuki A lot of people seem to like Dylan's writing but not his performing.
 
I actually like his voice but I think I didn't really like the cadence/pacing of his rendition.
 
I'm more of a beatles fan than a dylan fan
sorry
 
Not to worry, people like what they like. As far as music goes, I don't think anyone's preferences are any more valid than anyone else's.
 
Yeah, music tickles everybody differently.
 
I do listen to a lot of instrumental music as well, from classic to soundtracks.
Lots of soundtracks.
"On The Nature Of Daylight" by Max Richter is very good, imo. You may know it from Shutter Island or Arrival.
Oh, it was also in Stranger Than Fiction.
 
9:00 PM
I also listen to aivi & surasshu's The Black Box album a lot when I just need nice noise.
 
I'm kinda a sucker for late beatles especially their softer songs such yesterday and blackbird. Those two are particularly special to me as they helped me get through some hard times in my life so they're kinda like old friends to me
sorry I'm being sappy
 
I had considered performing "Yesterday" once for a high school choir concert, but I ended up with Frank Sinatra instead.
I wish I knew more about sound editing back then, would've made getting instrumental tracks to songs much easier.
And I would have had a lot more options.
 
yeah definitely
 
9:15 PM
I was listening to some slightly more obscure stuff at the time (though it's not hard to be more obscure than the Beatles or Frank Sinatra) that I would've loved to have performed instead but didn't have access to any instrumental tracks.
 

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