If anyone is ready to forgive me, I'll be here

I just want to feel like I have friends here again

It really felt like I was part of a friend group, even though all I did was play codenames

I just don't like people actively avoiding me and would like that to stop

also I read the chat logs, so I got to know these people pretty well

I don’t know exactly what happened, but I understand something happened where you made a lot of people upset.

It was entirely my fault

I got kicked out of the D&D room and then messaged Sciborg and it went out of hand from there

It was harrassment, but I wasn't thinking straight at the time

Ok, and it is clear that you have accepted the blame for whatever it was. I don’t need to know what it was not do I have any particular interest

and I sincerely regret doing that

It hurts more than it should

If i'd just shut up when I got kicked out of the D&D room, none of this would've happened

It is also very clear that you want to be... reaccepted. It’s clear that you feel like you’ve lost some friends here and just want to get involved again

Exactly

I don't even know if we were friends in the first place

Ok but you’re going about it all the wrong way

but if we were I want that back

All I know how to do is apologize though

You said just now that you read their chat logs, and got to know them quite well. This doesnt mean that they have got to know you well. If you’re reading what they’re saying, it may feel like you’re interacting with them, however they have not interacted with you there and might not feel comfortable or like they know you properly

true

Also they let me into the D&D room to start

so I feel like I was their friend at one point

There’s the saying ‘time heals all wounds’. It might not be entirely true but the meaning behind it still stands.

How much time though

From what I’ve seen and from what others have said, you have been trying quite hard to apologise

and that's all I want to do

I think that you're gonna be ok, for now

Time is not something that can be measured in this case

And by continually apologising, all you’re going to do is increase this length of time

Honestly if Sciborg stopped blocking me that would be a start

but I treated them worse than everybody else

Not only that, but if you keep apologising it could lead to you kicked from the sphinxes lair too

and I don't want that

Everyone knows that you want to make it clear that you’re sorry and that you want to be involved again. Everyone knows rhat

So you don’t really need to keep telling people that

OK but what do I have to do for that to happen

They will be blocking you, not because they don’t like you, but because you won’t stop nagging them and bothering them for forgivebess

and Sciborg has me on ignore so they don't know htat

bobble isn't blocking me

just not playing Codenames

There is a very nice quote in the Bible: Ask, and you shall receive, Search, and you will find , Knock, and the door will be opened to you.

So, don't worry

I've been asking

You shall receive, just be patient

Look, you’re probably quite young from what I can tell. I know you mentioned that you’re in the autism spectrum (though note you shouldn’t mention too many personal details online). I am also on this spectrum, so I know it can be hard to express yourself the way you want and hard to judge correctly how to interact with people. We have to learn from things like these for the future.

Actually no

I'm 26, I'm just an idiot like that

I do apologise in that case, the rest still stands

That I understand

and I don't really mind who knows, but the personal details thing is a good point

I don't think straight when I'm upset

and I wouldn't have brought up the incident today at all if North didn't

and impatience is another thing I have trouble with

I tried, but my room got deleted

I can’t tell you how long you have to wait, but I can tell you it’ll be much longer than what you’ve waited

that's what North said

It is no longer what you want, it is whether and when they decide to come to you

We all say it. Do not worry, for God is with you.

The more you come to them, the more you’ll have to wait

At least, his goodness

Is there anything I can do to make this happen faster?

I assume not

because I've tried everything

You’ve tried everything but the one thing which will probably work

The best thing you can do is to drop it

Forget about the past

You’re more than welcome here, on site and in chat

The future is now

Which is something else I have trouble with

But you won’t be welcome if you keep bringing up past incidents

then why doesn't anyone want to play codenames with me here anymore?

@ThePuzzlingPlatypus You feel unforgiven?

I have to go to Discord for that

@ThePuzzlingPlatypus I do, but we don't have enough people usually

True

The best way to show that you’ve moved on, is to interact normally in the chat. People will notice you are no longer begging for forgiveness

OK

Code names here is a rare thing

Chill TPP, you'll always be the best platypus ever. Only, but still best. Virtual hugs for everyone

Thanks Anon

It doesn’t happen often at all, it’s not people are avoiding playing with you, it’s just people don’t play codenames here very often

I for instance enjoy the game, but haven’t played in well over 2 years

I keep waving but timezones are usually stopping me

There's always Discord

Exactly, there are plenty of other places to ask around

and anon, I think you're a good 12 hours ahead of me

Yeah, I had quite a bad reputation on Discord, Sciborg calls me "The one who keeps pinging on Discord" lol

But I've moved on, and so can you

People don’t like constantly being pinged and notified. It’s annoying. The best thing is to give people space if they’re not interested in talking

I changed

TPP, you can change too

Good point

Anyone can change, it’s just whether you’re willing to put the effort into yourself to do so

Life is a learning process, and this is an easy lesson to learn from

We’ve made it clear now in the sphinxes lair what the rules are and what will be tolerated

Yes

If I want to talk about this, I'll do it here

So I don’t want to see anymore mention of anything to do with it. No apologising, no pinging people, no asking to be reaccepted, not even a mention of this chat room unless it is completely and utterly relevant

If I do see it, or another R/O for that matter it’ll probably lead to a timeout and the messages deleted

Because we’ve given you plenty of warning now

OK

If you want to talk about anything you can ping me here, but I won’t always be around to reply, most likely I won’t be able to

Fair enough

Thank you

I just wanted to jump in here to try and help because I don’t want to have to end up kicking someone over something so small

I appreciate it

If they want you back they’ll come to you. It might never happen and you might just have to accept that. Sometimes the time needed is too much. But your best chance is dropping the entire topic and talking about other normal things for the chat, just like when you got involved in the CCCC talk earlier

Dropping the topic is the best outcome for everyone. People aren’t nagged about a past incident that upset them, you don’t get kicked and might be accepted back in, and people in the sphinxes lair won’t get annoyed and have to delete messages

OK

Virtual hugs for everyone

So with that I will leave. I hope this has helped and I hope you can learn and that eventually you will be be allowed back in. Just try and take this all on board and know what to do next time. I’ll see you in the sphinxes lair

See you around Gerbil

@Anonymus25-ReinstateMonica thank you for the support too

and actually, I have seen another platypus on SE

electronics.stackexchange.com/users/192951/billtheplatypus]

This guy

I should probably go to sleep soon