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Q: Will being an emotionally numb 14 year-old prevent me from eventually being a pilot?

Cyan RedI'm 14, and I'm going after aviation in my career. So the question that I have to ask is what I should do in this situation. It's been a year now and I've noticed that I have been lacking in emotion, not really depressed or sad about anything, but the way I feel is different from usual, I thought...

People have different levels of emotion. The people at one extreme tend to be extremely happy and energetic one day, and sad and depressed the next. This condition used to be called manic/depressive, now, bi-polar. But most people fluctuate between happy and sad, good days and bad days, nowhere near the same extremes. And some people tend to feel good or bad with little externally obvious difference between the two. They also often appear boring to other people. I'm in that last category, and you might be too. But at 14 you still have a lot of changes to go through. Don't worry about it.
@Ben Even in major airlines? Besides, i'm not gonna start flying until afew months from now, but you're right about the therapy part, i just wasn't sure if major companies would allow it
@RayButterworth Thanks
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@Cyan Red Yes even in major airlines. Mental health assessment is part of a medical clearance which is actually given by the government regulator (the CAA for the UK). Simply going to therapy will never deny that clearance, even a diagnosis of something won't always deny you, but you might need to jump through hoops. In my (untrained) opinion you don't have anything to worry about, but a visit to a therapist now will be much easier than if you wait for things to get worse when you're older. There's no shame in getting professional help now, before it's too late like Lubitz.
Welcome to Aviation.SE! As with most medical questions, in the end it will be a discussion between you and whoever will be signing off on your medical certificate. This site is certainly not the place for general medical advice and not a good format for discussions on opinions. That being said, not being too emotional could actually be a good thing when you need to think clearly in stressful situations.
@CyanRed, I started flying when I was 15. Flying itself was a great therapy for me personally. It makes you feel alive, and helps you see the world from a different perspective. It is also a great responsibility. I don't think numbness alone, is a bad thing, maybe you are just waiting for something that moves you. Good luck. :)
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@Devil07Thanks, you might be right, maybe that is what i need
@Ben thanks for all the information, i guess i really dont have much to worry about, this makes me feel at ease, however, i think it would be best for me to hold off seeing a therapist. As john said, being put on drugs by a therpist might have side-effects which i wouldn't really like having, unless, necessary. Nvm most people in therapy dont take them. If i stay the same after puberty, i'll go there, i'm probably at an age where going wouldn't really do much. I dont know. What would happen if i was diagnosed with depression? I heard emotional numbness might be a form of depression
@fooot not too emotional means lack of pleasure, which is good in the beginning, but over time it leaves you empty or lonely. And thank you
@Devil07 I hope i do get moved, i've been on airplane flights ever since i was a baby/kid, however, last time i had one, 2 months ago, i didn't feel as moved as usual, maybe it might be different on a small plane
@Ben I've done a part of Peterson's program and watched some of his videos and I never once had the feeling that he pushed a slightest hint about not respecting others. Quite the contrary, I must say. I find his program very helpful, at least regarding introspection abilities.That said, I can understand that mentioning his name or program during an interview might be detrimental to one's career for political reasons, sadly.
Welcome to the site! That's an interesting first question; I hope you stick around.
Experts in aviation and employment law can help with the implications of seeking help from mental health professionals. And mental health professionals can help with the relationships among numbness, depression, and medication. Both professions have some privacy protections (attorney-client privilege and doctor-patient confidentiality as well as HIPAA regulations). The law stack exchange can help with basic questions about the former. I'd recommend talking to a therapist about the latter - you could even just ask questions generally about mental health without getting personal.
Before you diagnose yourself with "emotional numbness" read up on teen angst. You're in the awkward transition between being a kid that can gleefully swing on a swing set and being an adult that can gleefully push their kid on a swing set.
I feel like most commercial pilots tend to avoid being outwardly emotional - at least when making announcements on the plane. The last thing passengers want to hear from their pilot is uncontrolled emotional outrage. You want your pilot to be cool and professional sounding.
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GCSEs means you're in the UK, and at 14 you're old enough to fly a glider solo. I strongly recommend joining your nearest gliding club and learning to fly NOW if you're thinking about pursuing a career in aviation.
@CyanRed "What would happen if i was diagnosed with depression?" You might get help with fixing it, which sounds like a win-win.
Internet resources are nice, but are not sufficient to give yourself a diagnosis. If you think what you are feeling is not normal, GO TALK TO A PSYCHOLOGIST/THERAPIST! Lots of people here saying you're just a teenager and it's normal. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. A psychologist will work with you to figure out what is up, if you need any treatment, and help make sure you are healthy enough to meet your career goals. Quit talking to strangers on the internet and make an appointment today.
@Cyan Red check out what Seth R wrote above. Lot's of good advice and comments here, but Seth has the made the ultimate point. Seeing a psych won't label you. Most propably there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, but for your own peace of mind, go talk to a pro. We don't know you. You don't know us. Go see a real person, please.
Thanks, @SethR and everyone, you're right, I should probably make an appointment for a therapist or psychologist. I would have done so sooner or later, i just needed to know if it would disqualify me if i had been diagnosed with emotional numbness or depression. Since i heard that they were being really tight with mental health these days
@CyanRed, that's good to hear. I understand your apprehension, but if you do have a condition that would prevent you from flying, it is only because it is dangerous. Having the condition without a diagnosis or treatment plan is so, much, much worse. Be honest with the doctor about your concerns and your career goals, and they can work with you to make sure whatever is going on doesn't get in the way. It is most likely nothing is wrong, but a professional will know for sure, and will help make sure you have the life you want.

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