@RoryAlsop I've been unable to find anything myself. I finally decided to answer it without sources, even though I highly respect an asker's desire to have authoritative (sourced) answers, considering I make the same requests.
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But, this was actually something I cared a lot about. I've been thinking on this question since it was asked, and decided my personal experience would have to be good enough to share, even if not good enough to be the answer.
@CreationEdge your answer is spot on, though - giving specific examples, and specific benefits
I couldn't find the study I remembered either - I'm sure it was online...
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Well, I think I'm done here for a little while. I've got into a sour mood that's clearly not helping. I need some time to improve my mood and get my head back on square.
You have been around for years. You know the purpose of comments. Your comments aren't remotely connected to the OP's question, as you're accusing others of doing. Can you explain?
@anongoodnurse - Ah, perfect. I didn't see your edit yet, but basically that result was the reason I both flagged and commented. I'll remove all my comments from that answer now. Thanks
@anongoodnurse - Considering the fact that Christians believe that rejection of their belief would put their child's soul in Hell (again, I'm not a Christian, this is based on some research done on Christianity.SE), accusing a Christian of "bad parenting" when they react negatively to their child rejecting their religion is pretty insulting IMHO
That's pretty much equivalent to calling it bad parenting if secular parents punish their child for doing drugs and stealing - because doing both would likely permanently ruin child's life, NOT because they are doing it for daring to disagree with parents' teachings
@anongoodnurse - I quote Scripture (which, again, I personally don't believe in) not to prove a point of its truth, but to prove its existence which - the existence - was flat out denied by the person.
@bjb568 - Well, as a reasonable person, I hold that if my belief system indicates that doing X will permanently ruin my child's life, then punishing them for doing X isn't "bad parenting". Whether I personally agree with X being ruinous or not is 100% irrelevant
@DVK One difficulty with outright removing that comment [flag #3 to help keep track] is that there are some subsequent responses that provide context and discussion that expand on the Answer. I agree that it could be interpreted as offensive, but wasn't left there unacknowledged.
@DVK Yes, but you assume that the parent is reasonable. If we negate that assumption we see that it's easy for the parent to be "bad" regardless of whether they have malicious intent.
Admittely, I was on high-volume kick for this topic, but that just was an accident of browsing (I found one interesting question pertaining to religion, and opened all linked questions, and saw a bunch of stuff I found objectionable)
Trust me, I'd flag the same way if someone insulted a Wiccan
> Bigotry of any kind. Language likely to offend or alienate individuals or groups based on race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc. will not be tolerated. At all. (Those are just a few examples; when in doubt, just don't.)
@anongoodnurse - I can't prove it as you deleted the comment, but i'm 100% sure I posted the quote before you even came to that question, presumable following up on my flag
In the context of your recent meta post the number of flags appears to be more than simply attempting to clean things up and let mood know about problems
Please call down and believe that we do have the best intentions
@DVK I don't think so, but I might be wrong. In either case, arguing in comments and quoting scripture in comments to debate a minor point no one was offended by seems to be unnecessary.
@Erica you're just going to have to judge by the quality of my flags, sorry. I have no intention to argue my unprovable good intentions (pun not intended)
@Erica - if you insist on "interpreting" things instead of taking things at factual value, I can't really stop you. Just like someone else insisted on interpreting my issue with editing event as attack on non-editing-related (but tangled) user moderation issue.
@anongoodnurse - The world sure isn't. However, when I ask a question, I really really really hate when it gets diluted to uselessness by (unfortunately, frequently popular) answers that don
An issue is religion is a set of people loosely defined by their beliefs, not the beliefs themselves. All is grey with something so vague. OP is asking about how to tell people in the group that he isn't part of it and answers have to consider the reaction of people within, but since the set isn't well defined it makes the task difficult. With all the emotion attached, the question is just a recipe for disaster.
I'm clearly not conveying information well. No interest in fighting about ap point I haven't meant to make, especially on this useless phone interface.
@anongoodnurse - edit or delete. BTW, somewhat offtopic, I am still extremely skeptical that your resource supports your assertions (based on personal experience), but without access to it I'll assume it does
@anongoodnurse something that may be relevant is that non Christians typically have a higher sensitivity to the belief-hell relationship since those Christians who do devoutly embrace that truth ttypically really want to save our souls. I know many, many don't, but have had far too many uncomfortable conversations with others.
@Erica - I'm actually coming at this from the opposite side - while I patently disagree with their viewpoint belief-wise, I know exactly where they are coming from (due to strong interest in comparative theology). Which is why I react so strongly when others mischaracterize their viewpoint, especially with disparaging intent.
However, since you (@anon) seem serious about answers based on unsupported evidence, I hope you won't mind if I flag them when I see them as that used to be my minor pet peeve on Parenting.
I once planted a butterfly garden; it was beautiful, and a lot of butterflies came. Unfortunately, my cats used to lay low under the flowers then POUNCE! I had to rip it out! xD
@RoryAlsop Well Karate is just today, there's also ballet and gymnastics and swim team <exhausted!>
@anongoodnurse Mr Erica is going to be getting a beehive in our backyard and half-responsibility for tending a group one a couple miles away, so I'm looking into flowers that pollinators like
It's a good thing though, because I have an excuse to get rid of the pinestraw slash weed patch at the side of the house
@Erica This is very civic minded of Mr. Erica; please send him my respect and admiration for helping to keep bees alive. We actually planted two acres of clover for this very reason, although Mini-anongoodnurse never actually got around to getting the hive(s). :) (But we still have the clover! Growing very well, thank you. Our neighbors talk about us a lot. We are strange people.)
Oh, I also plant Milkweed. Every fall. It's coming up nicely this year already. Sadly, in spite of my persistence in spreading milkweed seeds all over creation every fall, I haven't seen a Monarch butterfly in - I think this summer will be five years. We used to raise and release Monarchs. OMW! IS THAT EVER A FUN PROJECT!!! <--- idea here.)