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Alx
Nov 7, 2018 00:10
^_^
Alx
Nov 7, 2018 00:08
thank you everyone!
Alx
Nov 7, 2018 00:07
@ElizB promised i'll come back with edits. they are not worth it right now, decided with Alice to let this foolish thought go.
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 23:31
good night!
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:31
anyway, offtopic chatter..
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:30
tried this github.com/psal/jstylo in conjunction with a crawler on a "script kiddie" forum and found so much correlation between accounts that i was amazed. a kid had over a dozen accounts according to this tool
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:28
big chunk *
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:27
google that
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:27
@spiralsucculent that's pretty irrelevant in demonstrating causation. actually the only legit way to prove with x % accuracy that two people are the same on the internet is taking a bit chunk of their writing across accounts and correlate them with their writing style - stylometry tools
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:25
yeah, plausible deniability is best
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:24
heard *
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:24
@spiralsucculent for a programmer i guess that would be easy to correlate - i heart about some advanced queries that can be done (didn't look into it though) but better safe than... sorry. thanks for the suggestion!
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:07
also have another account on stackoverflow with over 800 reputation, but decided to make a plain account just for this question for obvious reasons
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:06
@ElizB ty
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:05
"hmm, this is an interesting case."
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:05
something along the lines "this seems interesting" and followed it back here
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:05
yes, joined the this chat yesterday, didn't see this conversation, then i saw a reference from @ElizB on the chat dedicated to the thread
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:04
thank you for not deleting the question altogether
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 22:03
Just read the posts about me, this is interesting, there are actually people trolling, posting such kind of questions on this site
 

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Alx
Nov 7, 2018 00:04
decided with Alice to let this foolish thought go. thank you everyone!
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:21
the same! take care!
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:21
then protect your energy.
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:20
oh!
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:20
then... maybe ask a question here :)
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:20
focus on grad
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:19
it's blood, it's kind of hard to replace
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:19
@ElizB, speaking from experience, don't throw this relationship away
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:17
@ElizB, so sorry to hear that!
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:16
@ElizB i know, just made a comparison between apples and oranges, my bad, but you get my perspective
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:12
that would be an option, but as i said above, i prefer some raw emotion from strangers over cold rationale from another professional.
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:11
i think the general public's opinion on these kind of (tabu) matters has more to say than one person, with his biases, his only 1 past experience, etc.
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:09
yes, by law. but from my side i have no proof of telling her, i have no proof she would have said anything. maybe just warn her about something about my personality to drive her away, why risk it?
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:08
@ElizB yep, the ripples are the thing i'm worried about, after my SO's reaction
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:07
so that was a big no go
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:07
i have a psychiatrist i talk to regularly, but she knows Cathie
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:06
ok, just being meta about joking, trying to make a joke. sorry, i'm tired
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:05
@spiralsucculent are you making a joke right now? haha
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:04
was thinking about alice, cathie and the child @spiralsucculent so 3
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:04
basically this is why i did this post, to get real hard feedback, because friends are biased, i would put them in an VERY akward situation, for what? for a whim?
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:01
and i'm not liking what i'm discovering about myself
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:01
kind of agree with her on this one, it's like making a personality profile of a murderer haha
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 21:00
the things that struck me most were: Maybe he wants a child more than being with his SO. Maybe he's a egocentric ass
and it's a caprice that affects him minimally, but affects 3 other people very much
It gives him a ton of validation with minimum responsibility
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:58
@ElizB
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:57
(chat conversation, sorry for the messiness, tried to be as ad-litteram as possible)
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:57
me: if he was poly, the problem was easily solved long time ago.

her:
I think he overcomplicates some things, and some are oversimplified
yeah, monogamy is too spread out

I don't think this is related to monogamy
If he has such a large ego, and he wants to spread his seed, he could donate to some lesbiens
Do exactly this one thing in another context - not with that Alice, endangering the relationship with Cathie
They are just some justifications - he says he tries to "help" Alice - that's irrelevant - she could make children
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:48
@ElizB give me a moment to translate, i'll paste it here then
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:47
thank you!
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:47
i'd appreciate if you kindly remove the comment yourself.
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:46
yes @spiralsucculent, but still, it's not RIGHT there, you need to dive into the platform, things that few people know how to do, that are not part of this community - stackexchange
Alx
Nov 2, 2018 20:45
very. actually very critical of "his" ego, i can translate it for you, it's rather eye opening