Additionally, by the time you posted your answer, very similar core advice had already been given. (P.S. I did not downvote; this is just my perspective) — DoritoStyle 1 min ago

Well, this is a Question/Answer forum, and interpersonal skills are not a great fit for the format IMO, so i kind of agree with you. Cheers! — DoritoStyle 47 secs ago

@Jesse partially disagree, we try to encourage answers backed up with references and written context, which CAN include anecdotes, but anecdotes are risky at the best of times since they aren't factual, and even more so in a site like IPS where facts aren't even necessarily "good" answers. — DoritoStyle 13 secs ago

@DoritoStyle interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/182/… — Jesse 32 secs ago

Hi @Pharguin! I edited your question in the goal of putting it in scope. Please, let me know if I got you wrong and that you don't agree with what I said. Cheers! — avazula 21 secs ago

@AJFaraday This sounds like an interesting approach. Would you mind putting that into an actual answer instead of a comment? Your comment will be deleted shortly as it is an answer-in-comments — Cashbee 1 min ago

I think it is pretty clear. I've edited it for formatting and to highlight the question. Please let me know if you're ok with how it looks now. — Stacey 1 min ago

@D.Hutchinson - Thanks, edited question. — Depressed_Hubby 1 min ago

I have edited the title of the question because I saw that some had flagged this as "off topic". The question in the body of the text was clearly an interpersonal one so I feel the title should match. — Astralbee 5 secs ago

Ok, that sounds like she's actually been involved in extended role playing of sexual activity? That's very different to a comment such as "yeah, if you were single I'd definitely have sex with you" as a form of weird confidence boosting (still crossing my personal line), or some joke about having a big appendage and how good he is with it. If they're playing out sexual fantasies together, I think you need to pay attention to the answer @Astralbee gave. — Philbo 1 min ago

I strongly disagree: not the game addiction is the problem even if is one of the problems. Game addiction is the effect, but not the cause. Bonding with this guy from game is the effect, but to the cause. — lukuss 1 min ago

@Magisch Agree counseling could be useful, but she'd have to admit there is a problem first. The psychology model I mentioned in my answer was something I got from solo therapy, which if I'm honest was something my ex insisted on because she wasn't admitting to an affair and blamed me. I was willing to anything to save the marriage, so I went to therapy even though I suspected the affair. It helped me to approach the situation more calmly, and when it inevitably happened I knew it wasn't my fault, and that I had done all I could. — Astralbee 50 secs ago

If you read the edit history of the post you will see that the OP specifically mentioned that he is not from the US. That was edited out due to this discussion on meta. Your answer is predicated on using a statistic about black people in America to casually brush off the conversation, but that is irrelevant to the OPs situation since he is not in America. — Rainbacon 1 min ago