Serafina, I think the easiest way to make this a clear, answerable question and start getting you some answers would be to edit your question to describe a somewhat specific situation, e.g. someone you just met vs acquaintance vs friend, as Tinkeringbell mentioned, along with what your goal is (presumably to find out whether she's interested in women, and if so, ask her out, all while avoiding offense and awkwardness as much as possible). Don't worry, we get that this is absolutely a real thing that real people worry about, we just need a clear, specific question to answer. —
Jefromi 1 min ago