Can you add some backup to explain why you think this might be the best approach? Either personal experience or references are fine, but answers on IPS are expected to have some explanation as to why you're recommending this. — Em C ♦ 53 secs ago
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#22334 Em C (10367 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: -1) | posted 29 minutes ago by Michael B (129 rep) | Toxicity 0.06576752 | tps/fps: 0/0
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#3742 Marc.2377 (210 rep) | A: Comment explaining a downvote deleted (score: 10) | posted 12 days ago by scohe001 (11772 rep) | edited 12 days ago by scohe001 (11772 rep) | Toxicity 0.19057363 | tps/fps: 0/0
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Hi Anthony! One thing that feels strange to me: are you sure she's from Soviet Republic? Or maybe you meant she was born there when it still existed? I thought Soviet Union didn't exist since 1991. — avazula ♦ 38 secs ago
#22335 avazula (9225 rep) | Q: How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Anthony (166 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by avazula (9225 rep) | Toxicity 0.38209814 | tps/fps: 0/0
Also, I think those are two different issues you've raised here- the first one being that you'd like to encourage your girlfriend to stand for her own opinions, and the other one being that you'd like to tell her that she doesn't have to do everything her family and relatives ask for. I think it'd be best to have two separate questions to address these two points, as these are different issues. Would that be okay for you? — avazula ♦ 47 secs ago
#22335 avazula (9225 rep) | Q: How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Anthony (166 rep) | edited 5 minutes ago by avazula (9225 rep) | Toxicity 0.09144724 | tps/fps: 0/0
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#22330 d-b (234 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 8) | posted 15 hours ago by avazula (9225 rep) | edited 6 hours ago by DaveG (5646 rep) | Toxicity 0.4575632 | tps/fps: 0/0
6:49 AM
FWIW & AFAIR: "Soviet Republic" isn't "Soviet Union". The former is a form of government based upon worker's council (China is one, technically speaking, like all former countries of USSR). The latter started during Lenin's years (20's ?) and ended in 1991/92, and was a conglomerate of countries. — OldPadawan 1 min ago
#22335 OldPadawan (16356 rep) | Q: How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by Anthony (166 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by avazula (9230 rep) | Toxicity 0.2790689 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22335 avazula (9235 rep) | Q: How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by Anthony (166 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by avazula (9235 rep) | Toxicity 0.022867609 | tps/fps: 0/0
7:35 AM
She found herself to be superior to you and she left? I really hope your'e intelligent enough to realise how that happened. Next time, take into consideration that you're not training a dog, nor grooming a housewife - "perfectly suitable for a young woman planning to have a family". I'd rather not venture an opinion on your sort of personality, but it's rather clear why you think "I was in an almost identical situation". The very best that the OP can do, is to learn from the disaster that you've constructed, if he can. — Tim 32 secs ago
#22336 Tim (121 rep) | A: How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity (score: 0) | posted 51 minutes ago by virolino (708 rep) | Toxicity 0.37298092 | tps/fps: 0/0
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Stack Overflow has a special "historical question" that explicitly states the question/answer does not meet current standards, but are kept for historical reasons. Maybe use that instead? Digging up multi-year old questions and then flooding the "recent questions" with all these updates don't seem like a good idea. — Nelson 34 secs ago
#3756 Nelson (730 rep) | A: Almost 2 year old question gets resurrected by comments (score: 2) | posted 25 minutes ago by avazula (9254 rep) | Toxicity 0.20065086 | tps/fps: 0/0
10:02 AM
This. Don't even have alone time with them. Even with the best of intentions, the temptation to take the relationship places it shouldn't go is an enormous risk that's just not worth taking. And if you start to find that even not meeting alone with them, you're developing feelings that might lead you in that direction, it's better to cut off the relationship than risk damage to your marriage. — jpmc26 1 min ago
#22331 jpmc26 (163 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 29) | posted 18 hours ago by DaveG (5776 rep) | Toxicity 0.23363101 | tps/fps: 0/0
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To be clearer about the timeline: it was "resurrected" by a new answer, and then I left all these comments asking for backup. — Ælis 16 secs ago
#3755 Ælis (7989 rep) | Q: Almost 2 year old question gets resurrected by comments (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by Nelson (730 rep) | edited 54 minutes ago by Ælis (7989 rep) | Toxicity 0.06625326 | tps/fps: 0/0
10:53 AM
Welcome to IPS! Please take a minute to read our citation expectations. Answers on IPS need to include some backup in the form of either personal experience or references - could you explain why you think this advice will work, have you used this approach in a similar situation before, or is this something you've seen recommended by someone else? You might find How do I write a good answer? helpful too. — Ælis 1 min ago
#22338 Ælis (7988 rep) | A: How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity (score: 0) | posted 3 hours ago by Tim (129 rep) | Toxicity 0.06937407 | tps/fps: 0/0
11:26 AM
Although this may be a great tool, the issue here is that the ratio of posts that do respect the new requirements is not high enough to me. The chances to stumble upon an old post that's not meeting new requirements seems too high, and a ribbon is very easy to dismiss, especially if you have ADHD or an issue with focusing. Also, I understand that it only applies for questions - what should we do when the question is on topic but the answers lack backup or something else that make them not suitable for the new guidelines? Can it be applied to answers only? — avazula ♦ 2 mins ago
#3756 avazula (9269 rep) | A: Almost 2 year old question gets resurrected by comments (score: 3) | posted 2 hours ago by avazula (9269 rep) | Toxicity 0.081565656 | tps/fps: 0/0
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Hey pboss3010! I know this is an old answer, but we now require answers here to be backed up by personal experience or external sources. So, could you edit to tell us a bit more about a similar situation you were in the past? Who was involved, what did you say and how did the other person react? — Ælis 43 secs ago
#20837 Ælis (7988 rep) | A: How to approach the topic of splitting a vacation rental bill by ability to pay? (score: -1) | posted 157 days ago by pboss3010 (137 rep) | Toxicity 0.07646209 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
I might misinterpret the sentence "to address your issues X,Y and Z" but I would think that these responses might not be an issue she has but rather an "issue" in the way both people communicate or handle day to day communication? Like you addressed that she just might not like to text during work. That's not an issue of hers to blame. Could you clarify to me what you mean by that statement? — Nico 29 secs ago
#19782 Nico (531 rep) | A: How to tell girlfriend that vague answers about her day leave a bad feeling in me? (score: 6) | posted 243 days ago by Benjamin Gruenbaum (1830 rep) | Toxicity 0.12430535 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
I'm guessing that "for Soviet Republic" was a typo of "former Soviet Republic", so I edited it that way. Please roll back if I'm wrong. — DaveG 58 secs ago
#22335 DaveG (5806 rep) | Q: How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity (score: 0) | posted 8 hours ago by Anthony (166 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by DaveG (5806 rep) | Toxicity 0.22151436 | tps/fps: 0/0
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#22337 WGroleau (490 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by LordHieros (323 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by LordHieros (323 rep) | Toxicity 0.021446409 | tps/fps:
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#22337 WGroleau (490 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by LordHieros (323 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by LordHieros (323 rep) | Toxicity 0.11979875 | tps/fps:
That's my experience too. Plus, it is a rejection of sorts, just not motivated by any dislike you have for the person nor assuming a relationship was in the table at all. If you want you can make it clearer that it's about you already being in a relationship and not the person you are talking to not being someone you like... But that might sound like a "I like you but I'm with someone right now", and if that's not what you want to say then it's better to say what you mean clearly, in as little words as necessary and be done with it. — LordHieros 38 secs ago
#22337 LordHieros (323 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by LordHieros (323 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by LordHieros (323 rep) | Toxicity 0.21658266 | tps
"I use "they/them" both because I'm not straight (even though I may pass as straight), and I don't know their orientation. I'm married to a straight person and they're from the same gender as my spouse" What on earth? I thought the they/them thing was when you don't know their gender? Is it about sexual orientation now as well? — Peter Paff 18 secs ago
#22330 Peter Paff (101 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 18) | posted 22 hours ago by avazula (9290 rep) | edited 13 hours ago by DaveG (5806 rep) | Toxicity 0.38384148 | tps/fps:
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@PeterPaff No it's not. It is just that I'm not willing to disclose their gender because it doesn't matter whether they're male, female, or from another gender. I added this because a now-deleted comment said it'd be relevant in this situation, which I disagreed with, because I don't know their orientation. I realize it's not well formulated though, I'll rephrase. Thanks for pointing this out. — avazula ♦ 1 min ago
#22330 avazula (9290 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 18) | posted 23 hours ago by avazula (9290 rep) | edited 14 hours ago by DaveG (5806 rep) | Toxicity 0.12071222 | tps/fps: 0/0
Thanks for letting me know how you feel on this, @Marc.2377. Removing comments that don't appear to fit the comment criteria is standard practice across all of SE. I'm not sure what you mean by "scientific rigor" though. If you'd like to, could you expand on your stance and explain specifically what reasoning you disagree with? — scohe001 39 secs ago
#3742 scohe001 (11772 rep) | A: Comment explaining a downvote deleted (score: 9) | posted 12 days ago by scohe001 (11772 rep) | edited 12 days ago by scohe001 (11772 rep) | Toxicity 0.10320617 | tps/fps: 0/0
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Hi freebird, unfortunately IPS doesn't take questions asking us to make a judgement call about who was right/wrong - you can read more about what's on-topic and not in the help center. Instead, questions here need to focus on a specific goal - what are you looking to improve about your interpersonal skills? For instance, how you could have stopped things from escalating into an argument, or how to check if your input was wanted, something else? — Em C ♦ 12 secs ago
#22339 Em C (10378 rep) | Q: Mansplaining in an academic context (score: 2) | posted 26 minutes ago by freebird (14 rep) | Toxicity 0.137637 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22339 scohe001 (11772 rep) | Q: Mansplaining in an academic context (score: 2) | posted 26 minutes ago by freebird (14 rep) | Toxicity 0.15659928 | tps/fps: 0/0
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#22306 NVZ (9868 rep) | A: How can I forewarn a schoolmate that I'll refuse to answer personal questions if we meet? (score: 11) | posted 4 days ago by RedSonja (879 rep) | edited 28 hours ago by RedSonja (879 rep) | Toxicity 0.062087037 | tps/fps: 0/0
I agree for the most part, but I too am concerned that it would be an odd thing to actually go hunting for old posts, and then slap our canned comments on them. I hope that's not what is happening. If an old post does somehow reach the "active" page, then we could deal with them as necessary. — NVZ 32 secs ago
#3756 NVZ (9868 rep) | A: Almost 2 year old question gets resurrected by comments (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by avazula (9300 rep) | Toxicity 0.22285205 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22333 BKlassen (1374 rep) | Q: Is online relationship advice truly beneficial from strangers (score: 0) | posted 18 hours ago by user31423 (54 rep) | Toxicity 0.06333699 | tps/fps: 0/0
@NVZ We agreed a few months ago to refrain from using canned comments and most community moderating users stuck to this promise. It's worth mentioning, as Ælis pointed out in their comment, that most of the time these answers get flagged because someone decided to edit the question or post a new answer, which brought attention to the thread again. Most users don't go "hunting", and we don't specifically want to do this as a community, as this is really a lot to ask for. — avazula ♦ 1 min ago
#3756 avazula (9300 rep) | A: Almost 2 year old question gets resurrected by comments (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by avazula (9300 rep) | Toxicity 0.159686 | tps/fps: 0/0
#3756 NVZ (9868 rep) | A: Almost 2 year old question gets resurrected by comments (score: 5) | posted 6 hours ago by avazula (9320 rep) | Toxicity 0.10380653 | tps/fps: 0/0
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I made some small edits to the questions so that they are on-topic for the stack. I think they still respect the questions initially asked, but if I'm mistaken in that please feel free to roll the edits back or make other adjustments. — Upper_Case 31 secs ago
#22339 Upper_Case (14338 rep) | Q: Mansplaining in an academic context (score: 1) | posted 1 hours ago by freebird (12 rep) | edited 1 minutes ago by Upper_Case (14338 rep) | Toxicity 0.05905812 | tps/fps: 0/0
This is a good answer, but it can backfire. There are people who use "imaginary" SO's to make others jealous. There are also people who think an SO is just another competitor that needs to be removed. Don't be surprised if an advance keeps happening after using this tactic, but it should work on most "normal" people. — computercarguy 1 min ago
#22337 computercarguy (361 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 13) | posted 9 hours ago by LordHieros (403 rep) | edited 8 hours ago by LordHieros (403 rep) | Toxicity 0.363005
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Hi rocky, and welcome to IPS. Actually, handling anger and criticism is an "intrapersonal" issue, and this is quite not a good fit for this stack, as we deal with interactions with people. Have you already searched online for resources about anger management? — OldPadawan 31 secs ago
#22343 OldPadawan (16366 rep) | Q: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 6 minutes ago by rocky (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.30775473 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22343 BKlassen (1374 rep) | Q: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 11 minutes ago by rocky (1 rep) | Toxicity 0.2719858 | tps/fps: 0/0
5:00 PM
Hi Germania, and welcome to IPS. Seems like you have had your share of tough times when it comes to friendship, but I'm also afraid that you may more facing an "intrapersonal" issue than an IPS one, making it hard for us to help you... Beside that, it's not that clear what you want to achieve, and that'll lead to opinion-based answers or even completely off-topic. Do you mind editing your OP? Thanks. — OldPadawan 36 secs ago
#22344 OldPadawan (16366 rep) | Q: How do I stop regreting, playing the "what if" game and stop being fatalistic? (score: -1) | posted 11 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | edited 6 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.11870497 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22344 Germania (99 rep) | Q: How do I stop regreting, playing the "what if" game and stop being fatalistic? (score: -1) | posted 16 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | edited 3 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.042012956 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hey hopsinat! Sorry to hear things aren't going that well still. I am curious why those rights are such a big deal to you, as you say the gravestone is already there... What are the arguments you'd use to convince your step-mom that this is really important to you? You've mentioned a few ways you've tried to contact her already, are you looking for a brainstorm of other ways to contact her (like carrier pigeon)? Or more about what to put in the message/say to her? Then it's more useful to put in what you actually told her so far, instead of what medium you used to tell her. — Tinkeringbell ♦ 41 secs ago
#22341 Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Q: How to talk to a person that does ignore in every way possible, but you have some serious business left? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by hopsinat (598 rep) | edited 5 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Toxicity 0.22054309 | tps/fp
@Upper_Case right now, the last question is still primarily opinion based I guess, and the combination of the other two might make it pretty broad. Freebird, if you had to pick, what would you like to do better next time: Avoid giving an impression of mansplaining, or better handle the accusation of mansplaining? (note, that's not about the practical value of arguing, but rather about what you can do instead of what you did now, to either keep a better relation or make it clear that you're not interested in any interaction with this woman if they act like that, for example). — Tinkeringbell ♦ 1 min ago
#22339 Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Q: Mansplaining in an academic context (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by freebird (10 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Upper_Case (14338 rep) | Toxicity 0.115887515 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hi rocky! Sorry to hear you're struggling with this. We're a site for Interpersonal Skills, which are defined as the behaviours you use to interact with other people. Like others said, your question is about you, and your internal struggles, which makes it intrapersonal and off-topic here. As you said you don't show your anger in any way possible, it's kinda hard to make it into something on-topic too, because apparently it doesn't influence your behaviour and interactions with others? (if it does though, please let me know and we might be able to edit this). All the best for now though! — Tinkeringbell ♦ 1 min ago
#22343 Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Q: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by rocky (1 rep) | edited 27 minutes ago by bethlakshmi (431 rep) | Toxicity 0.27362588 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22341 DaveG (5806 rep) | Q: How to talk to a person that does ignore in every way possible, but you have some serious business left? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by hopsinat (598 rep) | edited 20 minutes ago by Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Toxicity 0.28359357 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hey Belle! Would it be okay for an answer to assume that a.) Bob didn't communicate any 'directions' up front, like whether they would be celebrating their birthday at all this year and b.) There was no way to find out if you didn't hear anything like point a? Also, it might help if you could add a hypothetical relationship between Bob and you, and the deceased. Are you closer to Bob or his grandmother, or was the level of the relationship between you and Bob/his grandmother about the same? — Tinkeringbell ♦ 7 secs ago
#22342 Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Q: Etiquette when someone’s birthday is on the same day as the funeral of one of their loved ones (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by Belle (4593 rep) | Toxicity 0.15256466 | tps/fps: 0/0
Thanks everyone!! Just wanted to say, I thought in some ways my interpersonal ways influence my intrapersonal behaviour, if it wasn't for this, I wouldn't have asked this question here..if however you consider my question not convincing for the site, then the decision is totally yours..once again, thanks for the help guys :) — rocky 24 secs ago
#22343 rocky (1 rep) | Q: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by rocky (1 rep) | edited 31 minutes ago by bethlakshmi (431 rep) | Toxicity 0.068583466 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hmm. That's a way of looking at it (which requires some mental gymnastics on my part, but it's interesting). What you're actually trying to convey with this question is essentially that you'd like to be able to express some kind of reaction to criticism? Have you formed any thoughts about what you'd like this reaction to be like? — Tinkeringbell ♦ 26 secs ago
#22343 Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Q: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 1 hours ago by rocky (1 rep) | edited 34 minutes ago by bethlakshmi (431 rep) | Toxicity 0.22880943 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22345 rocky (1 rep) | A: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 29 minutes ago by bethlakshmi (431 rep) | Toxicity 0.04905639 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22344 Germania (99 rep) | Q: How do I stop regreting, playing the "what if" game and stop being fatalistic? (score: -1) | posted 40 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | edited 27 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.08649818 | tps/fps: 0/0
Hi Germania, please check out the help center to get an idea of what questions this site can answer. Right now, it sounds like you are looking for advice on handling your feelings and fears, which is what we mean by "intrapersonal" - we only deal with interpersonal skills. If there's something specific you want to learn to do better when interacting with other people we might be able to help with that instead if you'd like to edit to focus on that. — Em C ♦ 23 secs ago
#22344 Em C (10376 rep) | Q: How do I stop regreting, playing the "what if" game and stop being fatalistic? (score: -1) | posted 40 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | edited 27 minutes ago by Germania (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.07345566 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Tinkeringbell I think you're right about the second question. I just didn't want to cut it or change it too dramatically, since it seemed important to the OP in this situation and definitely requires interpersonal skills. — Upper_Case 1 min ago
#22339 Upper_Case (14338 rep) | Q: Mansplaining in an academic context (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by freebird (10 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by Upper_Case (14338 rep) | Toxicity 0.100371934 | tps/fps: 0/0
5:42 PM
Thanks.I added some references, found by Google on "dynamic for abusive relationships is bilateral low self-esteem."Next time I'll include them in the original answer. A point one of the references made is that most abusers have personality disorders, which means they can't change their behavior. So the solution becomes individual therapy to enable the abused one to avoid abusive relationships. after they leave the one they're in. — VWFeature 51 secs ago
#20506 VWFeature (308 rep) | A: Girlfriend become aggressive when we bump into other women (score: 4) | posted 186 days ago by VWFeature (308 rep) | edited 5 minutes ago by VWFeature (308 rep) | Toxicity 0.13989013 | tps/fps: 0/0
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#20295 VWFeature (318 rep) | A: Girlfriend become aggressive when we bump into other women (score: 23) | posted 208 days ago by breversa (828 rep) | edited 207 days ago by breversa (828 rep) | Toxicity 0.3420632 | Comment on inactive post | tps/fps: 0/0
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What is the reason you think her denying your Instagram request is related to her father? Have you been neighbors long? What are the ages (approximately or exactly) of both you and the neighbor girl? — Upper_Case 32 secs ago
#22347 Upper_Case (14338 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: 0) | posted 7 minutes ago by CreativiTimothy (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.073824264 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Tinkeringbell well you just got my question clarified, I haven't had any thoughts on what my reaction on the criticism. I am unsure of the appropriate reaction to criticism by someone, also I coupled the demotivation and concentration part as they were closely related to my issues, Since I am new to this website, I apologize for that. — rocky 9 secs ago
#22343 rocky (1 rep) | Q: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by rocky (1 rep) | edited 1 hours ago by bethlakshmi (431 rep) | Toxicity 0.06906785 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Upper_Case I am 19 and she is 14. I only wish to hang out in front of their house where her father has supervision. I live in the USA, so age gap friendships are taboo here unless same gender, unlike in Japan or other countries. I’m pretty sure that’s the reason her dad would deny. He gave me a frowning face when I said I was 19. We just met today, but I’d like to use a contact so I wouldn’t have to disturb them by ringing their doorbell. — CreativiTimothy 1 min ago
#22347 CreativiTimothy (101 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: 0) | posted 13 minutes ago by CreativiTimothy (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.21166988 | tps/fps: 0/0
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@CreativiTimothy In the USA age gap friendships are not taboo, but older men getting involved with young teenage girls is pretty problematic. — DaveG 15 secs ago
#22347 DaveG (5806 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: 0) | posted 26 minutes ago by CreativiTimothy (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.20250537 | tps/fps: 0/0
This sounds kind of insulting, like it's insinuating that the other person is looking for romance. — bob 38 secs ago
#22337 bob (577 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 14) | posted 11 hours ago by LordHieros (413 rep) | edited 11 hours ago by LordHieros (413 rep) | Toxicity 0.32177153 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22331 bob (577 rep) | A: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 55) | posted 27 hours ago by DaveG (5806 rep) | Toxicity 0.13531142 | tps/fps: 0/0
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Unfortunately we aren't mind readers so we can't tell what was intended by someone denying your Instagram friend request. Questions asking asking us to divine the intents of others are outside the scope of this site. — sphennings 18 secs ago
#22347 sphennings (8177 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: -1) | posted 48 minutes ago by CreativiTimothy (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.12642837 | tps/fps: 0/0
@rocky don't worry, no need to apologize. We get many questions that need some editing or clarification, even ones by users that have asked here before. :) So, you distinguish three things: Snaps, pisses you off, criticizes you... Are you looking for a way to react to criticism that you find unfair (even after thinking it over for the day or longer?), or do you generally/eventually feel the criticisms may have a core of truth/are fair? Or do you think the criticism is fair, but given in a non-constructive manner? — Tinkeringbell ♦ 10 secs ago
#22343 Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Q: How to handle criticism and anger? (score: 0) | posted 2 hours ago by rocky (1 rep) | edited 2 hours ago by bethlakshmi (431 rep) | Toxicity 0.25556457 | tps/fps: 0/0
@DaveG Yes, it is, especially since it's really sexualized in US. In the Netherlands, they're have opposite gender sleepovers where in the US, it's taboo: bostonglobe.com/arts/2011/12/22/… — CreativiTimothy 15 secs ago
#22347 CreativiTimothy (99 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: -1) | posted 58 minutes ago by CreativiTimothy (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.38293278 | tps/fps: 0/0
@sphennings This is why this sub is called "interpersonal skills". It's always subjective. The question can be reworded to make it not seem subjective even though it still is like all of the other questions I've seen on here, "How can you establish a non-awkward ground when someone in real life denied your Instagram follow request?" I'll delete this question if people still don't like this question, but I'd like to see a clear set of rules. One question is "Should I leave my dad?" with 5 upvotes, yet it's subjective — CreativiTimothy 25 secs ago
#22347 CreativiTimothy (99 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: -1) | posted 1 hours ago by CreativiTimothy (99 rep) | Toxicity 0.1953891 | tps/fps: 0/0
Not just in the US, in a lot is developed countries. A 5 year age gap between a 14 - 19 year old, and 20 - 25 year old, is quite different. It is not weird for the father to be worried that a young adult is taking such an interest in a young teenager. I would take the hint, and also do some introspection on why you want to befriend a very young girl. — MlleMei 22 secs ago
#22347 MlleMei (2262 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: -2) | posted 1 hours ago by CreativiTimothy (97 rep) | Toxicity 0.064628154 | tps/fps: 0/0
@MlleMei She is the only person near me who can teach me gymnastics. My other gymnastics friend is a 3 hour drive despite the same age. Also, I have trouble making friends with people my own age because I have a baby face and most 19 years old my age treat me like a 13 year old and give me advice all the time. It's very difficult. I would also like all the people here to take introspection on why they think it's okay to differentiate people's ages (ageist), but it's not okay to be racist. — CreativiTimothy 14 secs ago
#22347 CreativiTimothy (97 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: -2) | posted 1 hours ago by CreativiTimothy (97 rep) | Toxicity 0.36623552 | tps/fps: 0/0
@Tinkeringbell Hi :) Hmm. I added a relationship to the question. I think, since I wouldn’t be close to Bob, I wouldn’t know what he would like. — Belle 17 secs ago
#22342 Belle (4598 rep) | Q: Etiquette when someone’s birthday is on the same day as the funeral of one of their loved ones (score: 1) | posted 3 hours ago by Belle (4598 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by Belle (4598 rep) | Toxicity 0.08472768 | tps/fps: 0/0
@CreativiTimothy note that the question you're referencing was closed. We walk a knife's edge of subjective and objective. You can read more here about what we look for in a good, answerable question. I'd also encourage you to drop by our Sandbox in the future to draft your question and get feedback from the community before posting it. — scohe001 47 secs ago
#22347 scohe001 (11772 rep) | Q: If someone you know irl denies your Instagram follow request, is it a sign that means they want to avoid you and you should stop talking to them? (score: -2) | posted 1 hours ago by CreativiTimothy (97 rep) | Toxicity 0.13188617 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22342 Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Q: Etiquette when someone’s birthday is on the same day as the funeral of one of their loved ones (score: 1) | posted 3 hours ago by Belle (4598 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by Belle (4598 rep) | Toxicity 0.009628671 | tps/fps: 0/0
I think your premise is invalid. Romance is always on the table, more or less. Why wouldn't it? Even sexual orientation can be dismissed: you just haven't met the right man/women yet. But why is that a problem? Befriend and see what happens. — d-b 31 secs ago
#22330 d-b (234 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 28) | posted 28 hours ago by avazula (9350 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by avazula (9350 rep) | Toxicity 0.4575632 | tps/fps: 0/0
@d-b OP is the one who isn't interested in getting romantically involved with this person (and is married, as mentioned multiple times, so it's probably safe to guess that's not an open relationship). — Em C ♦ 40 secs ago
#22330 Em C (10401 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 28) | posted 28 hours ago by avazula (9350 rep) | edited 5 hours ago by avazula (9350 rep) | Toxicity 0.1822233 | tps/fps: 0/0
7:53 PM
Just to be clear here--did you hire them for some personal job (like work on your house)? Until I got to "Imagine my surprise when I come home last week [...]" I was assuming you were the contact point for your company and hiring this third party group for work your company needed. Can you clarify? — scohe001 9 secs ago
#22348 scohe001 (11772 rep) | Q: How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project? (score: 0) | posted 19 minutes ago by fbueckert (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.1277767 | tps/fps: 0/0
How was the payment handled? Was it a portion up front, and the remainder on completion? — DaveG 53 secs ago
#22348 DaveG (5806 rep) | Q: How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project? (score: 0) | posted 19 minutes ago by fbueckert (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.025299331 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22348 fbueckert (101 rep) | Q: How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project? (score: 0) | posted 20 minutes ago by fbueckert (101 rep) | Toxicity 0.09667726 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22348 fbueckert (106 rep) | Q: How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project? (score: 1) | posted 23 minutes ago by fbueckert (106 rep) | edited 2 minutes ago by fbueckert (106 rep) | Toxicity 0.08827849 | tps/fps: 0/0
Asking "Is there a better way to do x?" is a rather broad and subjective question. Can you edit this to ask a more specific question. — sphennings 17 secs ago
#22348 sphennings (8177 rep) | Q: How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project? (score: 1) | posted 24 minutes ago by fbueckert (106 rep) | edited 3 minutes ago by fbueckert (106 rep) | Toxicity 0.1189536 | tps/fps: 0/0
#22348 fbueckert (106 rep) | Q: How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project? (score: 1) | posted 31 minutes ago by fbueckert (106 rep) | edited 10 minutes ago by fbueckert (106 rep) | Toxicity 0.08606044 | tps/fps: 0/0
8:58 PM
As a non-native speaker, reading them and they everywhere is really slowing me down reading. It’s something I need to work on. Probably nothing you can do about it. I’m going to try to read again and just think “he”. — Christiaan Westerbeek 1 min ago
#22330 Christiaan Westerbeek (101 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 29) | posted 30 hours ago by avazula (9355 rep) | edited 7 hours ago by avazula (9355 rep) | Toxicity
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The rights mean who has to pay for it, maintain it (which i do) and who decides how it looks. I want to cut ties so i cant exactly tell her that. I just wanna quit this chapter of my life so i don't have to interact with her anymore. I am so sick of it, can't think of anything else anymore.. If necessary i will edit the question tomorrow and add this. — hopsinat 1 min ago
#22341 hopsinat (598 rep) | Q: How to talk to a person that does ignore in every way possible, but you have some serious business left? (score: 0) | posted 5 hours ago by hopsinat (598 rep) | edited 4 hours ago by Tinkeringbell (23838 rep) | Toxicity 0.3786756 | tps/fps: 0/0
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I think your premise is invalid. Romance is always on the table, more or less. Why wouldn't it? Even sexual orientation can be dismissed: you just haven't met the right man/women yet. But why is that a problem? Befriend and see what happens. — d-b 49 secs ago
#22330 d-b (234 rep) | Q: How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them? (score: 30) | posted 33 hours ago by avazula (9360 rep) | edited 9 hours ago by avazula (9360 rep) | Toxicity 0.4575632 | tps/fps: 0/0
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