Hi Frank and welcome to IPS! That sounds like a really stressful situation. Unfortunately it would be difficult to give a good answer to your post right now.. this site doesn't answer questions asking what to do, but if you know what you want to accomplish we can help with that. Some more info would help, too - how long have you been together? can you give an example of what happens? have you tried talking to her about this before? — Em C ♦ 26 secs ago

Related - interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/1156/… — Em C ♦ 6 secs ago

Swing and a miss. Nice that you're making an effort though. That probably could have been conveyed in the edit message, but no one's perfect. — apaul 1 min ago

This is helpful advice. Especially, your first line : "I've done IT support for a while and don't do it anymore outside of my job. Why? It never ends". I will keep this in mind for future. I wonder why the downvote, though. — Rakt 1 min ago

Anyone considering downvoting: Please leave a note why you voted like that and/or how I should improve the answer. — Elmy 1 min ago

i would think that more than one is being a bit greedy anyway — bigbadmouse 38 secs ago

Definitly more than 1, though AFAIK there is no "official etiquette" — XtremeBaumer 42 secs ago

@XtremeBaumer would there be a max though? When I do this, I get a little bit self conscious thinking if they are saying to themselves "this dude is taking too long, just get over it". — barteezy 1 min ago

@barteezy if people are willing to ask someone to take their picture at a touristy location, you might expect that they're not in a rush and would appreciate extra care in the photo-taking — james 22 secs ago

30 secs max seems like a reasonable time and little conversation seems like a good way to make things less awkard, thanks I'll try doing this. — barteezy 1 min ago

Have you ever simply asked them how many pictures they were expecting? — OldPadawan 34 secs ago

Why should you do it? Sounds like a great opportunity for a current student to get some real world experience plus it relieves you of the burden. — Jon Custer 1 min ago

Various software will now automatically scan through several of the 'same' picture, find the smiling faces in each one, and produce a new file where everyone is smiling and nobody is blinking. So 3-5 is a good number. — Jon Custer just now

@OldPadawan Hello, OldPadawan. I am very happy with your editing. "put on hold as too broad" is displayed on the screen. So I edited the question myself — roger 1 min ago

@BKlassen Thank you for telling me the meaning of SE. I edited the question. — roger 42 secs ago

I think this is a great question. You may want to specify location because this sounds like this may fall under ADA in the States. Also, it sounds like you're willing to participate, just as long as you get some more information about locations/activities involved, is that right? — Lux Claridge 1 min ago

@OldPadawan Actually no, but doesn't it feel like an unnatural question? — barteezy 1 min ago

@barteezy : a completely legitimate IMO. As natural as: Alice: I'm going to supermarket - Bob: can you buy some apple/bananas for me please? - Alice: sure! how many of them? — OldPadawan 36 secs ago

Another important question - where is this happening? Are you currently in the Netherlands? (I'm assuming that's the case, but better to ask...) — Juliana Karasawa Souza 1 min ago

@SK19 what Erik is saying that we cannot decide if reporting your friend to the police or suing them is a solution (legal matter) or if it is appropriate for you to call it "stealing" (language matter). We can help you in expressing yourself or how you can behave towards your friend, but not with specific wording - this is considered off-topic per community guidelines — Juliana Karasawa Souza 25 secs ago

@roger : I've done quite another important edit, hopefully to re-order the information, making it more clear. I think you'll then get a better chance at seeing your question reopen. Same as before: feel free to improve/rollback/feedback ;) — OldPadawan 1 min ago

Take care, heads and feet are visible in some of the shoots. — Bernhard Döbler 1 min ago

@Erik That’s a good idea. I’d like to find a way that is both not phony and not accusatory. Any suggestions? — Eric Auld 22 secs ago

@barteezy to me it is the first and only thing to come to mind. Simply ask them. Isn't it more unnatural to ask a world wide forum how many pictures some random people could want to get ;-) Then if you have time, let them check the images and offer to make other ones if they like. — puck 1 min ago

@apaul : well, not really a miss, rather a miscue :) had English be my native language, I would have been able to properly express my idea from the first draft, with no misunderstanding... — OldPadawan 6 secs ago

I'm sorry to hear about the loss. However, It might be helpful to include what country/culture you and your friend is from. You can edit your question to add this information. Welcome to IPS.SE. — Lux Claridge 37 secs ago

Hi there. I've made (what I think is a useful) significant edit, hopefully to make your question more on-topic. Please feel free to edit / improve / rollback. Thanks ;) — OldPadawan 14 secs ago

@OldPadawan if OP confirms this happens in NL I'll probably be able to answer. I didn't grow up Japanese (I'm mixed) but I live in NL — Juliana Karasawa Souza 56 secs ago

seems silly to ask them how many pictures. do you think they have a preference of some finite number? i'm guessing not. I would expect most people instinctively take several pictures of an event- asking is not required, just do it. — james 28 secs ago

The disclaimer "I have no way to tell..." doesn't help you either... If you have no way to tell if what the parent is doing is innapropriate or not (unless it is very blatant abuse) you should call somebody who can (e.g. CPS). Otherwise you'll be dismissed as a meddling busybody — Juliana Karasawa Souza 24 secs ago

@Far mind marking my answer as the accepted answer? or does it not satisfy your situation? — james 52 secs ago

Hi all, I've cleaned up a few comments here - please note that IPS is fairly strict about using comments as intended. Comments are only for clarifying and improving the question. Partial answers or general thoughts about the situation are subject to deletion. If you'd like to write an answer instead, please check out our posts on How do I write a good answer? and citation expectations. Thanks! — Em C ♦ 8 secs ago

@barteezy When taking the photos on a mobile device, I recommend also taking photos two at a time (in quick succession). If someone's blinking in the first one, they usually aren't in the second. This can make the process faster than the typical "check it -> try again" method. — bta 1 min ago

Hi and welcome to IPS! We welcome answers based on experience (lots more about that in the answer FAQ :) ), but could you add a little more context? For instance, OP had mentioned feeling self-conscious - do you talk to the people about how many pictures you're taking, try to take the pictures quickly - what does a typical interaction look like for you? — Em C ♦ 2 mins ago

Take one real photo, then switch to video mode and pretend to be taking another one; youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2&v=DGqmvmFWt2M — Valorum 1 min ago