I'm a passing to mi yodeya so please excuse me if I'm being ignorant here, but I noticed that a few of the words referring to deity are not completed and simply 'dashed' out (I'm not stating them in whole in case for some reason it's due to respect).
Converts to be treated as if they were born...
@DoubleAA Re: pre-date photos, I recently heard on a podcast about an interesting experiment the dating site OKCupid did, in which they turned off photos for a day and invited people to set up "blind dates" with others discovered solely by text profile and text conversation. They found that people's impressions of the quality of their dates was essentially uncorrelated with the dates' attractiveness ratings based on their photos. ...
... This calls into question the notion that looking at a 2D photo ahead of time is an effective filter for suitable matches. I acknowledge that this is by no means rock, solid proof for many reasons, including the big difference between dating for fun and dating for marriage, but it's worth considering. ...
... Source (Note: contains a very immodest photo, which you can avoid by not scrolling past the result I cite here, which features the bolded text "regardless of how good-looking their partner was.")
@IsaacMoses and the big difference between photo-shopped photos and accurate representations.
I agree with you, though note that the shorter the number of dates allowed before marriage, the less time there is for those more subtle aspects of a relationship to grow.
@DoubleAA Sure. Not sure that's a distinction between OKCupid and shidduch resumes, though. I have no idea of the prevalence of photoshopping in either market.
@DoubleAA My point is that even first impressions in person are potentially a great deal more powerful for decision-making, even about the other's attractiveness to oneself, than first impressions based on photos.
@IsaacMoses Ok... So the recipient of such a picture should estimate how far afield the physical appearance is to guess if it's worth meeting. All these matchmaking services are just guessing based on various estimations.
@DoubleAA It's a heuristic that may be valuable and may, in some cases, be of negative value, in that it may generate both false positives and false negatives. It definitely depends on how people use it.
@IsaacMoses As with any other heuristic. It's efficacy as a heuristic though seems to be not a halachic question, per se, and frankly off topic for MY.
@DoubleAA dating practices in Jewish communities are very much a matter of at least minhag, and are presumably circumscribed by halacha. Anyway, the primary question in the present MY question is of propriety rather than effectiveness; I intentionally diverted my continued discussion of effectiveness to chat.
Also, a rabbi's estimation of a tactic's effectiveness could inform his ruling regarding its propriety.
Here's an interesting question about women, men, modesty, and Judaism. The question doesn't actually use the words "Is Judaism sexist?", but that's certainly the issue that's being danced around. Or, at least, part of it.
One would think that someone answering that question would be careful with their language. Apparently not. At least one of the answers assumes that Jews are male by default. Using gender-neutral pronouns like one, but then later in the same sentence showing that he's specifically talking about men. An interesting, and not that subtle, failing.
There is a general trend toward strictness in charedi communities, which manifests itself in many areas of law, including tznius. (Among Modern Orthodox communities, people tend to follow the basic rules (headcoverings, usually; shirts past elbows; skirts past knees; no low-cut tops) without a lo...
@TRiG yes. At least some of it is due to the fact that most of the classic texts of Jewish law were written when women generally weren't taught to read, so their audience really was ...
