I am confused is this one-to-one meant to be happening at the time he is being petulant or at another time when it is just the 2 of them? — WendyG 2 mins ago

Sorry it seemed I skimmed it at work, most advice is to address problems as they arise so everything is fresh in the persons mind, I made an assuptiom — WendyG 15 secs ago

I disagree with the part of the person who ends the date should pay for the drinks/dinner. That's just not a factor that should play into who pays for what. — hectorpepper 49 secs ago

@temp If you're comfortable with it, you may want to include the experience levels of you and your girlfriend. It sounds like you're still pretty new to things and your girlfriend is more seasoned (all of which are okay). I think it may help focus answers. — Lux Claridge 1 min ago

@Tom I guess we disagree. I wouldn't base too much on a general impression after having met the person for 5 minutes. Also in the context of this question, it's not someone random, but someone they have been speaking with online. Presumably they know a bit about them. — hectorpepper 1 min ago

Hi Wilfredo. As Tinkeringbell mention, some clarification and narrowing down.will be helpful. But as in this topic, my answer when it comes to changing instructor still stands, in its main idea ("Don't blame them. Just tell them what you feel, and how you'd like to try something different."). Does it help or not? Are you looking for something different? Another approach? — OldPadawan 2 mins ago

I agree with all of this. I think it helps to remember that the other person likely made as much or more effort to make this date happen as you did, and you should at least respect that effort. Unless I got a really bad feeling about the situation, I can't imagine up and leaving after 1-2 minutes. That's an awful thing to do to someone without some extenuating circumstance. Play it out. You never know what it could lead to. Maybe they are wrong for you but they know someone who is right, or vice versa. Maybe they are a future business contact. Maybe they can pitch for your softball team. — Mohair 1 min ago

"Of course, if at any time you are concerned for your safety, don't worry about being polite and simply get yourself out of there as soon as you can." I agree that you should not be concerned about being polite in this case for their sake. But you should be try to be diplomatic as much as possible for your own safety. If they're the kind of person where you are afraid for your safety, then saying "I don't feel safe, I'm leaving" has a very real chance of setting them off and doing who knows what. — Cruncher 1 min ago

+1 for pointing out your enjoyment of a date shouldn't be dependent on the expected outcome. — Tezra 2 mins ago

I'm voting to close this question as off-topic as well, because at the moment it is not at all about responding to someone but only about controlling your feelings on something. — AsheraH 1 min ago

"how should he prepare himself for reading the email?" is the main question in the body of the question and doesn't match the title... And all the requirement are about calm/angry/upset/normal mind. That really sounds like intrapersonal issue, really :/ — OldPadawan 2 mins ago

@Tom In most cases, if the date lasts 5 minutes, then the person leaving is the one wasting time, not saving it. The exception, of course, is if it's a matter or safety, emergency, or extreme circumstances (catfished, lies on profile, etc). If the criteria for what "fits" you can be determined so quickly, then you'd only save time by doing a phone call, video call, or simply ask the person if they meet such criteria. Agreeing to the date means you've already wasted time. Leaving early is just wasting less time. Don't confuse that for saving time. — Clay07g 1 min ago