That's... actually really good advice. I almost always feel really confused and isolated in these forums because of my BPD. Yeah, I do feel that I keep approaching this from the wrong angle and I'll try to approach her as if I was new. And uh... I hope this doesn't make me sound too inept, but how exactly do I get an answer other than "fine?" I always struggle at that step. — Carlos Cienfuegos 1 min ago

Tell her what you said here: "I have a lot of respect for her and she has helped me on many occasions. I believe she is an excellent leader." On her birthday, her last day before vacation or any other "special" day would be a great opportunity to do this. Or when you are in private (drinking coffee when only you two arei n the room for example), you could start with "hey I just wanted to say...". Just wait for an opportunity. — Manuki 2 mins ago

Did they discover how scary the internet is? or think he is 15 now he will be wanting to find THAT stuff? — WendyG 1 min ago