Discussion on answer by Kate Gregory: How are you supposed to react when emotionally charged (for right reasons) people make inappropriate racial remarks?

@AzorAhai-him- Immediately after an injustice, people will be understandably upset and what they say will not be fair therefore. If that happens, you give them comfort until they feel better - especially if the person was hurt badly. For most people that will a phase. And when they get out of that phase, they will realise that they were unfair. Just letting them cool down will produce a better outcome. If you defend the other group, you can damage your relationship with V badly, even after they cool down.

@KateGregory If I were to say "All women are disgusting" in most situations, even if I'd been abused or harassed in the most horrible way by a women, most people would call me a misogynist pig. If I were to say "All men are disgusting" after experiencing the same thing from a man, then I'd likely be defended by people sympathetic to my circumstances. That's the double standard.

you misinterpret it as violent speech. I too oppose casual racism and sexism, as well as hidden variants that talk of "culture fit" -- but when someone is upset and hurt, insisting that every utterance is something they literally mean and need to be corrected about is wrong, and not a way to be a friend nor to stick up for disadvantaged groups. If every time someone said "I'll kill him" you interrupted with an anti-murder speech, you would not in fact reduce the incidence of violence in the world, but you would irritate many people who were looking for support and help.