One thing to remember with moderation: Do not take things seriously unless it's absolutely necessary. Always stay calm, and always try to defuse the situation peacefully first. The way Trump is handling the North Korea crisis is a good example of what not to do.
Hence, careful choice of words and actions is important. If somebody does something wrong, gently discourage the behavior instead of giving an unnecessarily harsh warning or flagging immediately.
This is the biggest mistake I make every time there's drama.
Note that it doesn't necessarily mean that humor is required; it means diplomacy and dialogue should be used instead of threats, warnings, and flags unless things have already broken down. If it comes to that, you've basically already lost.
So, @JourneymanGeek, any tips? I think this is the most important thing I've learned in my last six years in chat.
This... might just be the biggest behavioral breakthrough I've had in recent memory, both here in chat and in the real world.
@JourneymanGeek Let's be frank here. I'm already brainstorming changes to make IRL towards this objective. If I can fix this problem in real life, it'll carry over into cyberspace.
As I grew increasingly frustrated over my behavioral issues, I grew a fervent desire to overcome them. I kept trying and failing and trying and failing...
...and I am stepping out. I intentionally acted to defeat the purpose of your posting humorous content in an attempt to create drama, knowing that it was meant to defuse the situation.
...and I'm back. So... recent incidents are giving me the impression that I'm starting to become a troll. Hints on how to change that?
As I grew increasingly frustrated over my behavioral issues, I grew a fervent desire to overcome them. I kept trying and failing and trying and failing...
@JourneymanGeek I hope you understand the story behind this behavior. I was raised on strict discipline and continue to be strictly disciplined, so changing this is going to be met with more than a bit of resistance from my parents. It's not like I don't want to do this, it's that my parents demand visibility into changes.
@Burgi 1) Traditional Chinese values; 2) longstanding behavioral issues, including autism and severe self-control issues; and 3) general pessimism and risk aversion (mainly on Father's end)
Also, this kind of attitude towards disciplinary issues is counterproductive. It's creating resentment and is making me become arrogant about my ability to behave ("I can handle this, you don't need to remind me!"), simply because I don't want Mother lecturing me on the same issue repeatedly. She just fears that if it isn't reinforced, I'll just do it again, so I tell her it isn't necessary in an attempt to stop it.
Fear and anger aren't the solution.
I don't like ranting about my parents in a public space, but this is the situation I'm in right now. I hate it.
To make matters worse, Father is a skeptic and a cynic, refusing to believe that I can improve myself and sometimes refusing to accept even overwhelming and incontrovertible evidence that, for example, I no longer make a particular mistake or that my behavior has improved in some specific manner.
I would like it if I didn't have to take my behavior so seriously, but there's very little I can do about it.
...and that's the story behind my taking things too seriously.
I'll be going back to the drawing board and creating a fresh set of plans for better behavior that reflect the lessons learned today.
