his way of teaching me how to do something mechanical,... mostly involves doing it in front of me and expecting I am now close to expert at it
though to be fair there is also "repeat what I just did" afterwards in many cases
my main problem with learning that kind of thing stems more from needing to do it myself quite a few times before I actually "learn" what I am supposed to do
and often, frustratingly, I need a less artificial environment than "I need to learn this" practice
and by that I mean that I need to be able to do it without someone who knows how showing me first, and get it right anyway, before I can say I learned it
I do better with a list of steps to read though
I am good at learning by reading and then immediately doing
but I still need to do the thing repeatedly over time to remember it
My dad's not really interested in teaching, he just wants to do it himself, and it's something he really likes to do. He's always working on the computer of someone in our extended social network (family, friends, coworkers).
@trogdor Yeah. I get that feeling. xD I ran into an old friend from high school who's younger than me and she was married with twins and was just like, "... WOAH."
For me, it's both the passage of time and the large gulf between our experiences. Sometimes I consider the fact that at my age, my mother was married, living in her own house, and had two children, and I just marvel. That sort of thing is so far out of my reach that it seems impossible. Yet it's more than possible. xD
This question Human Favored Class: Sorcerer on here brought something up that I never heard before. After reading it I checked the SRD again and found nothing there.
In essence it states that as favored class option you can choose bonus spells instead of just +1 skillpoint or +1 hit point.
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Some of my high school classmates had kids a year or two after leaving HS. I didn't meet my wife until 5 years after HS. Got engaged a year after that, married a year after that, and had our daughter a year after that.
It also depends on the society and the part of the society. Common people in medieval Europe often got married older than we tend to think, for example.
I was watching an episode of QI last night, where they were looking at gender stereotypes. They mentioned that there's a stereotype of women cooking & sewing, but that most of the world-class chefs & clothing designers are men.
(they were quoting a famous feminist who made the observation)
@Adeptus it's a fair point, I can't name a female designer off the top of my head, but plenty of male ones come to mind. Same for chefs. Marco Pierre White, damn I love that man
And often these roles are a lot less traditional than we think.
eg, Secretaries and typists were almost exclusively male professions until two world wars in a row left a man-shaped vacuum in the jobs industry that got filled by women and established a new paradigm.
While Rosie the Riveter got pushed off the lot when the men came back from the war, Tammy the Typist did not.
@Adeptus My mother gets pushback at work for her reluctance to use the cloud.... because she understands the security risks of her workplace's chosen cloud tools better than the folks who chose them.
This article may be an interesting read in this context; it makes the point that work done by women is generally not as valued as work done by men, regardless of what it is. Women may do cooking and sewing in the home, but for it to recognized as art...
@Pixie this is such a well done article and the first I've read that tackles the wage gap issue in a way that says "no it's not about them doing different jobs" and it's great to have something like this to refer to now.
@doppelgreener I've seen some other discussion about the concepts floating around too. Probably can't track them down right now, but maybe I'll come across them again sometime.
so a man with men and women working for him, whether consciously and intentionally or not, might often end up not paying women as much as men, even though they deserve the same pay grades
There are several different explanations that the original papers might address, but the article doesn't. Such as whether the influx of new workers in a field doesn't drive wages down simply due to extra supply available, or whether the wages were stagnating or going down before such "influx" and some of the previously employed men moved to a different occupation as a result, thus freeing up positions for anyone who'd take them, even at a lower pay than before.
Correlation, not causation, etc, etc. Also, this line is quite bad: "Computer programming, for instance, used to be a relatively menial role done by women. But when male programmers began to outnumber female ones, the job began paying more and gained prestige."It disregards the simple fact that programming became an insanely demanded profession because everything uses computers now.
One of the articles linked there is interesting. It talks of pay gap within same positions being significantly caused by willingness to work long and set hours, which caregiving women may not possess.
But I think that while it'd be nice to see those extra statistics, it'd be very unlikely that so many different professions had unrelated factors produce almost the exact same result every time.
It is by no means a perfect article; it's still an NY Times digestion. But yeah, the fact that it was observed so many times gives it some weight for me.
> The same thing happened when women in large numbers became designers (wages fell 34 percentage points), housekeepers (wages fell 21 percentage points) and biologists (wages fell 18 percentage points). The reverse was true when a job attracted more men. Computer programming, for instance, used to be a relatively menial role done by women. But when male programmers began to outnumber female ones, the job began paying more and gained prestige.
That's the problem with "soft" sciences in general, I suppose. You can't prove anything. And society does change, so any observations from a decade ago may not even apply.
Explainable via the "common sense" that the jobs pay more because of an increased focus on computers in society. Which, sure, makes a lot of sense... but do you see my point?
@trogdor well the issue with that is there's a lot of counterpoints that can be made, like "yeah but they pick lower paying jobs". It's stuff you need data to get anywhere constructive with.
@Pixie I'm not saying it's necessarily the correct and only explanation. But it's a likely one. While it's absolutely a common sense reasoning, the difference, I think, is in trying to look at multiple explanations and determine the more probable one. Which, with our lack of knowledge in the field, is going to be a crapshoot. But, given what little I know, and whatever biases I may have, I think computers being everywhere played a larger roles in programming being valuable than sexism.
Basically the article is saying "The previous non-gender-prejudice explanations for the wage gap are increasingly disprovable or irrelevant, and nothing else unrelated to gender prejudice has yet been found which reasonably explains the continued existence of the wage gap across so many fields."
@Magician ... and neither was I? Each of these fields will have unique circumstances, and "some weight" =/= "the only possible explanation for any of this." The article is fast and loose in summing things up, as a piece like this is going to tend to be, but it introduces and provides support for an angle that has previously been pretty overlooked. As @doppelgreener says, the concept of gender bias in wage gap is often explained away by saying, "Well, women just pick lower-paying jobs."
The difficulty in discussing wage gap, is in how you define it. The article I linked (linked from the OP), attributes the difference in pay within the same occupation to willingness to work overtime and inflexible hours.
> The gender gap in pay would be considerably reduced and might vanish altogether if firms did not have an incentive to disproportionately reward individuals who labored long hours and worked particular hours.
Which isn't so much a sexism issue, as a corporate culture issue. I.e. men happen to be more willing to work long shifts at set times, and businesses are built around that working model. It'd be nice to change that, I wholly agree.
So to hopefully neaten things out: the present discourse acknowledges LOTS of possible causes for the wage gap. One of the many possible causes is: women get paid less because of sexism. Another is: various typically female employment needs preclude income equality (and is that a problem or isn't it). The difficulty is extracting how much which factors affect things.
I think it would be worth acknowledging that the article picked out one profession that transitioned to male domination and higher wages simultaneously, and there's plenty of plausible causes for that which have nothing to do with sexism. Again, that's a matter of finding out how much different factors affect things.
That's been proposed as a possible explanation, yes. Though, of course, when getting into the idea that men "happen to be more willing to work long shifts at set times," it's also important to consider the possibility of cultural attitudes and expectations toward men and women shifting that willingness.
That things just "happen to be" so is quite an assumption. Childcare is a big factor in whether someone can work long hours or not, and the cultural ball is firmly placed in the woman's court for childcare even today.
It'd be interesting to see studies similar to the ones mentioned in that article, but focused on countries with more aggressive and gender-neutral post-natal leave laws.
It just seems a bit simplistic to say it's more corporate culture than sexism when sexism, or at least societal factors that pressure men and women to behave in different ways (and lead to assumptions about their behavior regardless of the reality), may well be wrapped up in that corporate culture.
No more simplistic than saying it's sexism rather than corporate culture. I'm much more interested in finding out an issue is due to a specific problem like inflexible work hours or childcare social norms. Those give us something to do, a thing to try and change. If the issue is sexism, the only solution is "don't be sexist". Which, well, we already try to do.
Additionally, not all people try not to be sexist, and not all people understand what forms sexism can take. Someone may make the assumption that they are not sexist, thus they don't think about behavior that inadvertently is.
Thinking and talking about sexism and trying to examine where it is present (in corporate culture, in social norms, in ideas that we have been taught to understand as definite without even realizing it) can help combat this. That's why I think it is important to talk about it. It's part of change.
Not an alternative to finding something to change.
While I agree in general terms, I suspect we'd differ on a lot of specifics. Which I hope is fine with you. One of the most disturbing trends I've observed in online discourse over the last few years was radicalization of issues, with people picking their tribes and lumping everyone who disagrees in different, obviously evil tribes, then hating them unquestioningly. Or maybe I've just become more observant of such behavior.
It's a complex situation, but posting the article was never intended as presenting a hard truth but a point of interest in the context of an observation about what is and isn't considered women's work, and who is and isn't in prestigious positions. It bears out with other studies and articles I've read (I've done my own reading about wage gaps within professions, their relation to childcare, etc.) as well as my own personal experiences.
@Magician Of course. There are things about the discussion that have bothered me somewhat, but there's no tribe-picking or hatred going on on my end (to the point that this comment seems to be coming out of left field..?).
It's a bit frustrating when I've been 100% civil and when there is a rather disproportionate assumption that having an interest and a stake in social justice means that you hate everyone who doesn't agree with you. The language is... a bit evocative of that, and there wasn't really any reason for it.
I understand that things can get nasty, but they haven't, and they won't.
In which case I apologise. Chalk it up to my own tribalism.
For the record, I feared I'd be considered a Bad Person for voicing disagreement. Every now and then, some topic would come up in the chat that everyone immediately agrees on, and I find highly questionable. And whether the fear is founded or not, I do not wish to go against the commonly accepted point of view. This is one of the reasons for me becoming less active here. How's that for an inclusive space.
The main thing that bothered me during this conversation was feeling dismissed at times. I simply said that the thoroughness of the study and its observations gave it some weight and got a response about the sun revolving around the earth. Describing your own assumption as different because you had "[looked] at multiple explanations and determine the more probable one" felt as if others had not also done so. I'm sure this wasn't intentional, but...
Part of my reaction may be that dialogues about sexism are dismissed out of hand so often, I'm just used to it.
Again, I know things can get nasty. But I don't want people to be afraid to talk about things, and especially not to talk to me. If I get really angry about anything, I'm much more likely to just leave for a while myself. :P
Aww, no, that's not what I mean. I doubt that'll happen either. I just mean that it wouldn't come to a knock-down, drag-out fight even if I did manage to get that angry.
I don't like fights, myself. In fact, I'm really, reeeeally conflict-avoidant. The only reason I talk about this stuff at all is because it's important enough to me that I can push past that a little -- sometimes.
And it's not without risk. I've also immediately been labeled as a Bad Person. I've been literally called "the enemy" for just talking about things and having a different viewpoint. IRL, it's often completely impossible because there is so much risk.
The spell says:
On a failed save, it is also poisoned until the end of your next turn.
Does that mean the 2d8 poison damage reapply on the following turn, or is that just a statement meaning that the creature is poisoned for a while (but since there does not seem to be any other side effect...
@eimyr It went pretty well! I'm fairly certain about what I'm getting. With a little more investigation, I'm not really spending anymore money this way.
@eimyr It was awfully tempting because instant gratification, but this is what I'm aiming for (most of the parts, anyway).
I also discovered that I actually have 14" clearance to the TV, having found a more reliable tape measure, so I can go with a smaller Apevia case if I feel like it. Not much difference there.
I guess the biggest difference is in the card - 130$ between them.
If you'd be happy with 380 even with a case it might just about fit the budget, perhaps?
Anyway, your choice. I picked the parts from that Polish pc building guide website I have shown you some time ago. They have cheaper options too.
For some reason, though, they still recommend 2x4GB and not 2x8. Dunno why. They do, however, push a choice between 970OC and R9 390 as vastly superior value-for-money wise.
I think we went with that particular RAM I had on there due to either the processor or the motherboard, I forget which now. I'm a little sleepy at present, but I will pore over it again tomorrow and weigh my options.
I have looked at the 390, and it is a great card, but I just don't think I can jump up quite that much. I'm pretty sure I'm good with a 380.
I think you might be right that H97 might have limited support of higher-clocked RAMs.
I had three bad mobos in my life.
First one fried my whole computer, second oneroutinely killed hard drives with its overheating southbridge, current one gave me endless problems with RAM compatibility and northbridge heat.
I am a little excited about having all new parts, nothing refurbished, none of the mysteries that you run into... hopefully.
I'm kinda desperate for something better than 3 wonky, hot-running laptops, the best-running of which is now so old Minecraft and Second Life stopped supporting its integrated graphics and the worst of which I'm afraid to use at all.
(The worst is also the one with the best graphics card and processor, but by now it's pretty outdated.)
They usually don't guarantee 'em. The HP's battery is doing strange and mysterious things and it's time for a new one, but again, I knew that time would come.
basically, anything that is refurb because it had to be fixed is a no-go, anything that was returned because of customer error (as un-fixable) is A-OK.
You can pick up some nicer Wacom screen laptops refurbished for pretty good prices, so that's why I have the HP. It was supposed to just be for drawing. Then the Lenovo (which always had problems -- I will never touch Lenovo anything ever again) very suddenly heatsploded. So I went back to the HP, but it was having some probably Windows update-related hanging at startup, so I dug out the Toshiba... and when I upgraded to Windows 10 I couldn't play MC or SL anymore, so here we are.
The HP is having to bravely do occasional MC/SL duty.
I needed the HP to begin with because Wacom quit supporting my model of Intuos under Windows 8, but now it works again in Windows 10, so for drawing I often just use that... it's gotten so far from its purpose.
We bought my GF a lenovo recently (come to think of it, almost a year ago!)
It's a marvellous machine, for the price of 400£ it delivers. It can't handle much gaming (like NWN2 is about the high end) but it's great for everything else.
I wouldn't touch Toshiba with a 10 foot pole though.
@eimyr That's what I always hear! That for the price they're great... mine was $900, and that was a really good deal on it. I had issues from the start, and eventually it started literally falling apart.
It also had random hanging issues that started when I got it and lasted through formats and two new OS installations, so it had to be hardware, but we never could figure out what in fresh heck it actually was.
@eimyr Heh. Yeah, I've conversely had a great experience with Toshiba, but I think they really vary a lot.
This computer has lasted for so long. It is in great shape. Beside some weird discoloration on the left mouse button (why would you even make it out of a material that reacts to moisture like that..?), it is physically the best laptop I've ever had, and it just runs smoother than everything else.
It's just so old that even easier games like MC and SL say no.
I am thinking of eventually getting a new laptop too, but I kinda have to save up for one a bit
I don't make so much that I can afford to buy one when this one still works,... even though it overheats easily and isn't nearly strong enough to play most games I would want it to work with XD
I have created my first D&D5e character and have just achieved level 5.
Race: Wood Elf
Class: Fighter
Background: Soldier
Skills: Acrobatics and Survival from the fighter class,
and Athletics and Intimidation from my background.
When my character reaches 5th level my proficiency bonus increa...
I am looking for a rule-wise explanation of the logic as to why your deflection bonus (e.g. a shield) is counted in your flat-footed AC.
From what I understand, being flat-footed means you didn't see the attack coming, and are unable to react to it, so only your passive armor counts (meaning the...
I'm DMing a 4e campaign and the PCs are level 19, now, but I have been having trouble with a power. Reaper's Challenge.
My group's swordmage saves it through every adventure so he can use it on a Boss (solo or elite monster) effectively making it the easinest combat for the group. And worse, som...
@trogdor What kind of games would you like to play? You might have some options, depending. I've looked into gaming in laptops a lot because it's so inconvenient for me to have a desktop.
There are 3 main problems with gaming on laptops. Heat builds up inside easily and can't usually vent well, your options for building and customizing are rather limited, and even if you manage to get a dedicated graphics card on a laptop, new ones will be more expensive and harder to find than for a PC.
Because of that finding one with a part of that circuit board dedicated to graphics is expensive. Even more expensive if you want it to be a separate physical component and often you have to plug it in externally, like an external hard drive but with a video card
If you just want something cheap and temporary that will do better than what you've got, you could look into refurbs. The one I game on most right now cost me like $100, though I gotta replace the battery. When I get my PC I'll still have a cheap laptop as backup.
If you have a good space, you can get a way better deal on a PC for games and then use what you saved to get a cheap laptop that's good for browsing/work/light games.
@trogdor Sure. xD I just know how much of a pain it is to be left totally behind by games/have your comp turning into a toaster on you, so if I can help, I'll be happy to.