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Hakase

Simply Beautiful Art

12:36 AM

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apaul

12:46 AM

@Catija this is getting silly...

Doctors? No, no, no, no, no... I had a patient tell me he was going to knock my fucking lights out (he was psychotic). Another patient told me they shoved a dildo up their ass and now they can't get it out. No, I'm not trolling. My point is that doctors and therapists are private spaces and require graphic language at times. This is not such a place. — anongoodnurse 34 mins ago

Hakase

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Catija

@apaul I think it's time to disengage.

apaul

@Catija I think that time came and went a while ago...

apaul

2:20 AM

Would you happen to know if the team has started working towards IP banning our troll? Local mods can nuke individual user accounts, but Shog should be able to block all accounts from a given location.

If there's a concern about inadvertently blocking good faith users, it looks like there shouldn't be:

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Q: Are good, trusted accounts really blocked too, while on a bad IP address?

I read this, on the official answer to What can I do when getting “We are no longer accepting questions/answers from this account”? My account is in good standing. Why am I still blocked? The ban also takes in account the IP address. If you browse from a shared computer, or from a loca...

apaul

3:07 AM

On a lighter note, I found that data query:

data.stackexchange.com/interpersonal/query/328997/…

Catija

5:43 AM

@apaul He's busy today. Not sure if anyone else is. We've started destroying the accounts that are linked.

9974 isn't too much lost rep :P for me...

Wow... 35k...

apaul

6:01 AM

@Catija Hopefully they'll get around to it soon.

@Catija I figured it would be a good chunk of change, but I was a little surprised that it was that much lol

Catija

It's almost double... You must be pretty close to the rep cap gold badge?

apaul

@Catija I just got the silver one not too long ago, haven't been keeping track after that.

Catija

Ah.

apaul

The HNQ list has a rather steep impact on IPS. Seems a little unusual for a beta site to grow this quickly?

Catija

Depends on the subject matter... But probably to some degree, I guess? I haven't done a study of the amount of time between public beta and graduation... and it's a bit skewed, probably.

apaul

6:06 AM

Suppose it's just a topic that everyone relates to a little bit, so when a question does land on the HNQ list it gets a lot of traffic.

Anything new and exciting going on, beyond troll busting?

Catija

Yeah... And it's largely due to how quickly it can get multiple answers. That's what really sets off the HNQ... speed of answers and votes on them.

No. My husband thinks I spend too much time here... I don't think he really accepts/understands that this is most of my social interaction with people.

apaul

@Catija I can relate to that, my partner used to hate SE back when I was on SO, nowadays they seem to get it a little more.

Think it had more to do with them realizing that I needed outlets other than work and the relationship. Also seems to be cheap therapy?

Catija

I don't really have any friends. My coworkers aren't really the sorts to spend time outside of work together... and since I work until 7, there's never time to do anything in the evening.

apaul

@Catija Sometimes you gotta make time, and 7 isn't that bad. I'm working till 10:30 tomorrow night and then I'm going "clubbing"

Catija

... Do I seem like the "clubbing" type?

apaul

6:16 AM

Oh, I'm not usually... it's my partner's roommate's bday so I'm going to meet up with them at the local goth place.

@Catija Nope, but it's good to try new things occasionally. Go somewhere you haven't been, do something you haven't done, ya'know?

I'm planning on talking people into trying the absinthe ;)

Catija

Alone? Because Andy won't do that sort of thing and... like I said... I have no friends.

Hopefully they have sugar cubes

apaul

@Catija this is how people make friends irl

@Catija they do, but fire is kinda hit and miss depending on how busy it is.

Catija

By going to clubs alone and standing in the corner?

apaul

@Catija By going out and working up the courage to introduce yourself. Honestly I suck at it too, but it's usually easier in an atmosphere where people are looking to engage. Sometimes it's nice to just people watch though.

Catija

Looking to engage? Most people I see places are already in groups.

apaul

6:24 AM

@Catija Going to places that attract misfits can help with that. Gay bars are great fun. Bars more than clubs. Totally different vibe from the usual watering holes, there's a little more community going on.

@Catija Any place can work though. If you suit up and show up on a regular basis, people start to recognize you, and are more likely to chit chat.

Catija

I'm an old married woman and would rather stay home on a Friday night with my imaginary friends.

That sounds like work.

apaul

@Catija Just doing what you're doing now in different settings. lol

Just sayin that it's out there if you need/want it

Catija

I don't see how that's the same thing I'm doing now at all. I don't drink, really, so bars aren't fun for me. I don't feel comfortable going places alone, particularly new places.

apaul

Is Andy sorta non-social as well?

Catija

He's the reason it took us eight years to get married?

Because he didn't want to be in a wedding.

apaul

6:30 AM

Oh ya...

Catija

Going out is expensive... $80-100 for being out and another $50-70 for a sitter...

apaul

In my case, being a touch aspie and all, going to concerts was a nice fit. The music is too loud for long in depth social stuff. And punk rock shows are dirt cheap ;)

@Catija If you wanna stay home and hermit, that's a perfectly valid choice. Just sounded like you were longing for some irl friends... Didn't mean to sound judgey or anything, just don't give up on doin stuff that you may, or may not, wanna do.

Catija

I've given up because I've spent my whole life looking for friends and never making any. Maybe I have a crappy view of what friends are but whenever I try to invite people to do stuff, they always flake on me and no one ever invites me to do anything... so I don't have friends.

Secret

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apaul

@Catija Ya, the vast majority of people kinda suck, but occasionally you meet a couple good ones. Takes effort though, which also kinda sucks.

Secret

6:42 AM

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Catija

Meh.

I need to sleep.

apaul

I've gone back and forth on the whole social thing throughout my life. When I was a young kid, I didn't really social at all. When I was a teenager I had a pretty sizable tribe. When I was in my twenties I went back and forth. These days I have like 2 real friends and a small handful of associates, but I'm slowly coming out of a year or two of solitude.

@Catija Meh, sleep then :P

apaul

3:09 PM

Fun times in ignorance: washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/…

apaul

4:40 PM

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A: "Let's talk about sex" - How do we deal with explicit language in questions about sex and where do we draw the line?

Update after additional thought: I'm thinking that in most cases it's not as much about the specific language used as it is about the intent of the language. It's like the difference between pornography and art, both might include nudity, but they do it for different reasons and the reasons (or ...

@Catija thoughts?

Catija

5:03 PM

@apaul I think you're learning? You're coming a long way considering that a month ago or so you were proposing banning specific words. I didn't look but you might consider linking to Robert's (?) answer to that question you asked a while ago.

Oh, was another mod... interpersonal.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/1866/…

apaul

@Catija lol that wasn't so much about banning words as much as it was a "these words are a strong indicator of problematic posts, and they're often used to be rude"

Catija

Still... also I think I've mentioned before (and I know you've crossed it out) but sometimes euphemistic terms can be more accepted than clinical ones.

apaul

@Catija 6 vs half dozen? But that was part of why I rethought that answer.

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