Okay, seriously, I have now seen a few edits by 5un5 that changed the MEANING of an accepted answer dramatically. I seriously wish there was a way to restrict this person from editing things. Likes to edit A Lot.

@balancedmama This person doesn't have full editing privileges.

So people are approving those edits.

Just FYI, if you leave an @username comment on one of the post that user edited, you can let him/her know that changing the message or intent of a post is sort of frowned upon.

And if the issue is people approving things they should be rejecting, then you could post on meta...

@jmort253 Thanks jmort253. I know this person can't edit without an approval being needed yet - that is why I've seen some of them (because I've done some reviews). I'm glad for that at least, but it gets annoying when there are a lot of them (which wasn't the case tonight but has been in the past). I didn't think about leaving an @ message as a comment though! I'll have to think about how to word such a comment, but I'll definitely take that advice!

@balancedmama Sure, and it's worth noting that this person may have good intentions in mind, so the nicer the comment, the better the chances of a positive response from said user. Good luck! :)

Haven't seen you in this chat before (not that I've been chatting long). Welcome! (unless of course, I just haven't seen you before in which case, Hello, nice to meet you.

@balancedmama Thanks, you too.

Yes, diplomacy is always good.

I'm active on other SE sites, but I just started coming here to see if there's a magic pill for my nephew's behavior :)

There's some great content here.

Even if the intentions of the other use aren't great, I still think diplomacy works better 9 times out of 10.

Ah! Well then welcome indeed.

Magic Pill for behavior - hmmmm. many people would call that ritalin, but I'd have to say, I'm avoiding it for my little one.

Absolutely, and even if someone's intention was subversive behavior, then at least you save the person face by not directly calling him/her out :)

Sort of like when you're going 5 miles over the speed limit just because you think you can get away with it, but you become a law abiding citizen when you know that 25mph speed trap through town has some watchful eyes :)

Sorry, as a former teacher of kids with behavioral disorders, my sense of humor about it can be questionable at times.

@balancedmama lol, yes there was a pun intended in that :)

I was looking for a figurative "magic pill" :)

Of course. How old is your nephew

Are you his guardian? close and involved but not directly his guardian?

Have you seen anything helpful yet?

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@balancedmama

my brother is a single father.

We all live togather

I sent him some of the links on limiting video game time.

someone suggested 3 hours a day.

The kid lives on the PS3, and has picked up a lot of very bad behavior. Unlike when I was a kid, and the nneighbor kids came to the house to play Nintendo, today, the kids play with people of all ages online, and this can include disrespectful, punk 19 year olds, to be politically incorrect :)

Hm. . . fun. ;-(

I seem to recall a question about when to allow bad language or how to limit it or something did you see that one? I can see if I can find it.

parenting.stackexchange.com/q/103/2876 was not the one I was thinking of, but here it is.

Yeh, I cussed as a kid

Of course, I'm sure you've checked out all the behavioral stuff too at this point.

but not in front of my parents.

Huh! Yeah I cuss as an adult, but not in front of my kid ;-)

I laughed in my mom's face actually the first time I let the "s" word slip in front of her and she said, "where did you hear that one?!" Obviously, I'd heard it from her.

My parents cussed, but we knew the limits.....

we knew not to say it in front of them.

or to our teachers.....

My nephew has a teacher in the school, and the two have locked horns.

He's been suspended 4 or 5 times so far this year.

and is currently suspended until jan 8.

parenting.stackexchange.com/q/5700/2876 is the one I had been thinking of.

Ugh! How old is he again?

I mean, there are limits, but some teachers need to get a sense of humor a little too. I once had a preschooler from another teacher's room sent to my classroom as a "behavioral break" for her. This three year old couldn't say his "t's" so truck came out as something else.

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I like your approach in your answer.

Obviously, that is not the problem you have, but it still goes to show you something about some teachers.

But the problem is that the swearing has gone beyond just the occasional slip.

Thanks.

Yeah, it sounds like it.

Now, we were walking to the store yeaterday, and he let the B word slip. My response was just a calm "watch your language"

followed by "you were saying"

so he could continue the story

Sounds about right. Cool uncle.

that's not so much a problem IMHO as telling the bus driver or teacher to F off

the latter is completely uncalled for. :(

Bet if he had to look up synonyms he could choose instead and write them down along with their definitions he'd get the point pretty quick.

That is with those people he respects.

yeh, I had my brother make him write sentences one time when he was really misbehaving

And he hated that excercise :)

So I'm sure the synonym exercise could have an impact.

Seriously, kids that age sometimes have a hard time understanding why they should be polite to bossy jerks

I don't remember kids in my school telling the teacher to F off

Those kids generally had major issues, and were only in our school for about a week, then we never saw them again.

I do, but half the kids in my graduating class later wound up in prison so. . .

Maybe we did see them years later on a wanted poster but just didn't recognize them lol

I also went to a US public school

I'm In the US too, I went to school in Maryland.

and we're in Oregon now.

This was a little school out in the boonies in Wa. There weren't other options so kids couldn't be kicked out really.

gotcha

I miss the green of the Northwest.

It does get green here :)

And I really am not exagerating about the prison thing.

That's brutal.

To this day, my graduating class is referred to as "that class"

so the prison thing was localized to just your class, not the school in general? odd

Yup, just the one class - with a few stragglers that were in younger classes, but none quite like mine.

I was the goodie-wo-shoes cop's daughter that kept my head down and nose out of it for the most part. My sister on the other hand . . .

It was odd. But its not my fault I swear! ;-)

@balancedmama That's gotta be rough having a cop as a Dad, because people would probably think you might rat them out lol :)

and then for him to hear, "your daughter is at it again!" can't be fun too

Every class had a few trouble makers, but my class had one kid in particular whose Dad encouraged certain things? and so that kid and all his friends wound up in a lot of trouble.

Yup. Pretty much a loner till college. Went FAR away

you mustn'tve gone too far, you're profile still says west coast ;)

I had a few friends from non-school activities and left for college early.

Oh, I've been all over the states now.

and back again.

Cali now.

St Louis, Boston, Panama City . . .

right on.

sounds like fun

I'd actually like to head north again, but hubby is not about to leave this state.

How did you wind up in Or?

Parents moved from Maryland to Tennessee, and I just finished school in Wyoming.

So I thought to myself "there's no home anymore" so decided that, since I'd never been to the pacific NW, that I'd move here.

So I did.

and then my brother, who couldn't stand Tennessee, moved out here too with his then 5 year old son.

Very Cool. Hope you're enjoying. Anyway, gotta go. Hope to see you again. Keep us updated.

will do, thanks for the links