> It’s also really, really important that you strive not to see her differently as the result of other people’s behavior toward her. She’s not the baby of the family — she’s an adult woman who’s fielding gender-specific behavior directed her way by people above her in rank. Don’t let that impact the way you see her or how you manage her (other than by asking if she wants your help in changing what’s happening).
> Similarly, you can’t let a desire to avoid more cheek-kissing bias you against future women hires. That would be illegal and unethical, and you just can’t do it. If you seriously …