The Water Cooler

@Omen I guess I'm not sure I understand still, the only comments there basically say your question needs more detail

@Omen Sorry you had a less-than-stellar experience!

Questions are put [On Hold] for 5 days to give the author a chance to respond to comments and make edits to reopen the question.

While it doesn't feel great, just because a question is put on hold doesn't mean that it's over and done with and nothing can be done about it. It just means that your best bet is to edit your question to clarify the things asked about in the comments, and that will get it automatically reviewed by the community.

12:49 AM

@enderland the only comment I saw before I deleted was that the post was going to be closed - all other comments after my comment (user###) were put there AFTER I deleted.

@jmac moot point as my membership was deleted after my comment

@Omen While it's your decision whether or not you want to keep your account, may I ask what made you take such dramatic action?

first comment gave no indication that I could improve it, it was just a blunt "am voting to close this" etc

(Not trying to talk you out of anything, just curious to see if there's a way to prevent this in the future -- no promises it can be totally prevented, but it's never fun to see someone have a bad time with the service we created, and we'd like to have your feedback if you feel like you can provide it)

@Omen Right, a lot of people get these comments but don't delete -- is there something else that pushed you over the edge? I see your original account was on Chemistry (which has also been deleted), was that your experience there too?

long story, but it is not that dramatic - it is more of feeling, from the bluntness, that there was an air of "oh not this again"

I'm sorry you got that vibe, @Omen, no one here means any ill intent

12:56 AM

@Omen Sorry you feel that way. If you want to give it another shot, either now or at some time in the future, feel free to pop in here and ping me about it and I'll try to walk you through a draft and help you get a better reception.

I deleted my Chemistry membership with no posts made due to me reflecting taht it would be out of my expertise and felt I would not be able to contribute effectively

(you can also ask any of the regulars in here, they are probably better at it than me, but I am more than willing to help you out if you'd prefer, and @enderland may be willing to do the same)

i have no ill thoughts towards here at all - I was just perplexed as to why helpful comments were made when I had clearly had gone

i only looked back to see if there were an answer

@Omen Ah, while it's clear to you that you deleted, it is less clear to other people. To them it seems like you were always user123, and they assume you're still around to make changes. Part of the SE concept is to de-emphasize the person asking, and focus on what's being asked, which is part of why it is tough to recognize subtle changes like that

even if the name is not clickable

1:03 AM

@Omen People don't usually try clicking the names to be honest.

well, anyway, the point has been made, so I thank you and @enderland for hearing me out and bid you a good day.

@Omen Enjoy your day. Sorry it wasn't a welcoming experience! Hope you decide to come back another time.

Q: I feel dejected by hearing my colleagues make insensitive comments on someone being laid off. Am I overreacting?

@Omen take care!

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Recently, someone in my company got fired: most of us ignore the reasons and the circumstances of this happening. I didn't know this person as a friend, and we never actually worked together on the same project. Anyway, I just think it is sensible to maintain a respectful and professional attitu...

this seems like a "my situation sucks" question right?

Jim G.

7:48 AM

@Omen Yep. I just closed your question. Please revise it ASAP per the comments so that we can reopen it ASAP. I think you might have a good question hiding in there! :)

@Omen Also, I'd like to formally apologize on behalf of the entire TWP community for any rudeness. That's just not the way we do things around here anymore, and in this case, I think it may have been unintentional. Sometimes we do close questions quickly, but now we reopen them with equal speed. So it works out when you think of it.

@enderland It's actually a great thing to have someone (a moderator no less) with such a great memory of duplicates.

@Omen Also, as @jmac already noted, it's not a good idea for a new member to delete his/her account in response to a few "negative" comments from a few members on his/her first question. Believe me, my experience with my first question on TWP was not a good one! :) But I stuck it out, and before I knew it, those people who provided those negative comments effectively stopped contributing. So I really don't want to lose you around these parts if I can help it.

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@Omen Not to beat a dead horse, but we really do reopen questions that are edited well.